Comments on: Do It Tonight! Mix Up the Pick Up http://www.emandlo.com/2009/01/do-it-tonight-mix-up-the-pick-up/ Just another WordPress weblog Sun, 21 Mar 2010 05:05:48 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rei http://www.emandlo.com/2009/01/do-it-tonight-mix-up-the-pick-up/comment-page-1/#comment-81 Rei Tue, 13 Jan 2009 23:03:47 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=530#comment-81 I was the first one to start the convo roll with the man I'm currently in a relationship with; He was all for it!!! Some guys are shy, and its true that guys panic when a girl comes up to them, all confident and asks them out. It's just a front, though, because in a way, the guy doesn't have to spend the time trying to pick up a girl, because she has done the job already. I was the first one to start the convo roll with the man I’m currently in a relationship with; He was all for it!!! Some guys are shy, and its true that guys panic when a girl comes up to them, all confident and asks them out. It’s just a front, though, because in a way, the guy doesn’t have to spend the time trying to pick up a girl, because she has done the job already.

]]> By: Wendell http://www.emandlo.com/2009/01/do-it-tonight-mix-up-the-pick-up/comment-page-1/#comment-70 Wendell Tue, 13 Jan 2009 00:08:36 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=530#comment-70 Some of the awkwardness on the part of guys could also be a reminder that many men haven't yet come around to women as having agency when it comes to their sexuality, that it's something a guy has to "earn" as opposed to both people *wanting* it and wanting to share. (The author of the following post has more writings on this, but I'll spare y'all for now.) http://www.feministing.com/archives/006609.html#comment-67244 Sure, it's nit-picky, but anyone could get caught off guard by an aggressive advance--did you mean assertive, Johnny? Some of the awkwardness on the part of guys could also be a reminder that many men haven’t yet come around to women as having agency when it comes to their sexuality, that it’s something a guy has to “earn” as opposed to both people *wanting* it and wanting to share. (The author of the following post has more writings on this, but I’ll spare y’all for now.)

http://www.feministing.com/archives/006609.html#comment-67244

Sure, it’s nit-picky, but anyone could get caught off guard by an aggressive advance–did you mean assertive, Johnny?

]]> By: Johnny http://www.emandlo.com/2009/01/do-it-tonight-mix-up-the-pick-up/comment-page-1/#comment-66 Johnny Mon, 12 Jan 2009 20:06:49 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=530#comment-66 Most guys get awkward when approached by women because they're scared stiff. It's a minority of guys who will even make a move on a woman they like, right? Most dudes lack the nerve to even do that. So when a woman comes at them full of sexual energy, they panic and lose it. Even the guys who do have the nerve to chat up their favorite hottie can get caught off balance by an aggressive advance. It's true, we lack experience when it comes to getting hit on. That "rejection" isn't even necessarily a reflection of how attractive the man finds the woman. He might be TOTALLY interested. But he feels insecure and panicky, so he overcompensates by becoming a dick. Most guys get awkward when approached by women because they’re scared stiff.

It’s a minority of guys who will even make a move on a woman they like, right? Most dudes lack the nerve to even do that. So when a woman comes at them full of sexual energy, they panic and lose it.

Even the guys who do have the nerve to chat up their favorite hottie can get caught off balance by an aggressive advance. It’s true, we lack experience when it comes to getting hit on.

That “rejection” isn’t even necessarily a reflection of how attractive the man finds the woman. He might be TOTALLY interested. But he feels insecure and panicky, so he overcompensates by becoming a dick.

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