Lately everyone from Oprah to Real Simple to the guy at Harvard who teaches a class on happiness has been talking about gratitude journals — you know, every night you write down, say, five things you were grateful for that day. Could be big things (my wonderful supportive family) or small (Honey Bunches of Oats at midnight). Sounds too simplistic to make you feel better about your life, right? But if you’ve ever tried it then you know it actually works! So if you have a gratitude journal, great; if not, start one. Then, make sure you dedicate at least one of the items on your list every day to something sex- or romance-related: my Hitachi Magic Wand, the response I got on online personals, the delicious dinner my partner cooked for me, choosing sex over tv, the look on my spouse’s face when I surprised them with a pre-sex massage, spontaneous declarations of love from my partner, organic natural lubricant, etc. If gratitude journals work on your life in general, then why not on your love life?