Comments on: Your Call: Can She Be Friends with Her Ex?

By: Chelsea

Chelsea — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 08:16:35 +0000

I have been in exactly the same situation before and what I’m about to advise may sound harsh. If this man was really into you it wouldn’t matter that he was still heartbroken he would be ready to move on and he certainly wouldn’t be having one night stands. He has been a year out of a marriage not a week. Plenty of people move on within that time and usually because they met the right person. When someone falls in love it really doesn’t matter what is going on in their life. It sounds as though he is using you as either a shoulder to cry on or for casual sex as a way to get over his ex wife. Don’t let yourself be used that way. You deserve better than that. You deserve true love and don’t settle for anything less.

By: jodie

jodie — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 08:47:30 +0000

there is no reason to hang on to something that you have no control over move on get over it

By: Eda says

Eda says — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:57:13 +0000

From my experience….it’s very difficult to be friends with an ex. They feel as if they own you and they can do whatever they want but you should stay faithful and truthful to them. In my opinion you should stay friends but from a distance. If you go anywhere with him make sure it’s public and keep the relationship on a friendship level….No Sex no matter what…………..The person I consider my friend is having a hard time because I’m celebrating celibacy. One minute he says he understands and next minute he begs me not to take away the sex…….go figure!!

By: Anna Banana

Anna Banana — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 18:11:09 +0000

Sorry to say you need to walk away from this one, especially if he is just fresh out of a divorce. I was in the same situation, dated a man only 1 year out of the divorce, we got along wonderful, everything was good but 14 months later, he still isn’t ready for a committed relationship and doesn’t trust his emotions, told me he didn’t want to stop me from finding happiness and I had to do what I had to do to find it. I listened and walked away. Listen to what he is telling you, even if it is hard to accept. I have always been told that when a man wants you, really want’s you he will stop at nothing to get you so don’t be sitting there in a year or two wondering if he will change his mind and want you, he already told you where he’s at. Good luck in your search for love…..

By: Maylin Torres

Maylin Torres — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 17:49:05 +0000

If u want to get back with the guy or he still feels something over u…y not??? this person once cared about u with all his hearth u never know there might be something there still…i tell u from experience if he still calls u, pick up…but if he doesn’t then move on…An ex doesn’t call for nothing…now if u dont want to be with him at all then just let him go…but be careful because men cant handle rejection…so it might make him call u even more…good luck!!!

By: andrea

andrea — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 00:43:39 +0000

just get out of it. if a guy really likes you, he will be ready for you and you only. it hurts, but you can do it. walk away with your head held up high kn owing that you are too good for that. you will find someone that will treat you the way you deserve. you will miss him for a while, and he will miss you. maybe he will regret it. hang tough. women are way stronger than men!! good luck.

By: Chawn

Chawn — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 15:27:42 +0000

Hello there, well i think from looking at this blog you probably have gotten your answer and made your decision on what to do but i just want to say i am currently in a situation like that and i started hanging out with this guy that would do things for me right when we first started hanging out yea know and acting sooo sweet and nice so what am i to figure about that wow he really likes me and is maybe willing to go further with this. Well not the case here. He ended up telling me he really likes me but to busy for a relationship. So Then i decided as hard as it was to not txt him, call him ec. one day (like a week later) he called me asked if we could hang out and of course i said yes thinkin’ not a big deal. So we hung out and it just ended in great sex(which i always had with him) and we called it at that. So it’s like an everyone once in a while hang out mainly for yea know…..:) we don’t let emotions get to us or anything and it seems to be alright. guess it depends how strong you can be with your emotions. Take care.

By: jane

jane — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:33:02 +0000

take it from someone who’se done the whole friends with benefits thing… doesn’t work out. lost one of my good friends that way. its too hard when you both don’t ultimately want the same thing. I say move on. If he’s really meant to be in your life, then he’ll be back, and on the same page as you.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 03:38:28 +0000

There’s nothing wrong with staying friends, if that’s all you really want.
If you really desire a lasting relationship with him and he has already told you he’s not looking for one, you need to move on and find someone who wants the same things you do.
Take it from someone who’s been there a time or two, you will never change a guy who doesn’t want to change.
Whatever you decide to do I wish you all the luck in the world!

By: heartbraker

heartbraker — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:26:11 +0000

wellp, i think that you should play with him a little. ok, you like him, but he doesnt want a relationship right now. do everything you know he likes, like kind tease him, i guess is wat im trying to say. then go out a few times to a party or something.
(social event). Then come home and tell him how much fun you had lst night, hanging out with your friend dancing with guys… even if you didnt stretch the truth a little. then he’ll want that… he’ll want to be apart of that.. you get wat im saying…