Other peopleâ€™s dreams are never interestingâ€¦except when theyâ€™re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. (By the way, sheâ€™s got a newly relaunched website up where you can get more free interpretations). This week, a woman asks Lauri:
My husband and I have been separated for two years now and all of a sudden I am having dreams where we are back together. I thought I was over him and he even has a new girlfriend. They leave me so confused.
Lauri: These dreams are not so much about him, but rather what the two of you used to have: happiness, friendship, commitment. At one point in time you had all of these things together, so he has now come to represent these things to your dreaming mind. One or all of these is missing from your life now, so your dreaming mind is saying to you, â€śRemember this?Â We want this sort of thing back.â€ť Yes, when you look at this dream and try to understand it with your literal waking mind, it can be confusing.Â But when you can look at it in its symbolic form, it makes sense. These dreams are good for you because they help you realize what you’ve been needing lately.Â Alas, your ex was not the right man for the job — especially the commitment part — but someone out there is.Â If you are with someone now, ask yourself if he is capable of providing these things to you. If not, may I suggest brushing up on your flirtation skills, checking out online dating, and maybe even letting your friends set you up?