Dirty letters…totally work. And they don’t have to be all-inclusive, full of every minute detail..or atleast they didn’t for us. I started including in my letters a line here, a short seemingly side-tracking paragraph here, just to let him know that I was thinking about how amazing he made me feel, that I missed hearing his breathing while he slept, wanted to smell him, how I missed waking him up with Hershey syrup kisses, reminded him about that time we pitched a tent in his backyard and I wouldn’t let him leave for days but to go to the kitchen and retrieve food & water…

When I started doing that, I felt really awkward about it and didn’t know how he would react, or if he would catch onto my incredible subtle wording or out-of-context references. However, my man knew me…he pawed over those letters like there were me laying in front of him. His responses started to include the same, and he got really into it. The momentum would just keep growing with each correspondence. A few had some downright X-rated middles. I saved every letter, note, card and put the ones with the “goodies” in a special place where I could pull them out and sift through them when I felt that need to be with/in/on him. Sometimes, just writing the letter, or thinking about what to write and allowing myself to drift into the sensual memories that came to mind would be enough to get me going and even calm me down.

The best thing about those letters, (and I still have ALL of them) was that they weren’t all “dirty” letters. We both maintained our usually back and forth conversation, with bits of sex in between. I think that really added to the feeling of intimacy and some sense of normalcy in our relationship in a time when there was just too much physical space to ignore.

hope some of that, or any of that helped. last thing I want to say… those three years of millions of miles between us hold some of the most memorable conversations, that we continued to build upon when he finally returned home.