Comments on: Dear Em & Lo: What’s So Wrong with Cheating on My Husband?

By: Johnny

Johnny — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 00:10:28 +0000

^ Wuh? Wrong. Hope you don’t carry.

By: B

Sun, 11 Dec 2011 10:54:45 +0000

@emand lo-iq
FYI, in this country the police can’t search your car unless you consent to it.

By: Josh

Josh — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 01:50:33 +0000

THANK YOU! I was overhearing a girl on the bus the other day claiming that because her boyfriend kept forgiving her for cheating, she saw no sense in stopping! It’s a disgusting and disgraceful act!

By: emand lo-iq

emand lo-iq — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 04:26:58 +0000

WOW. This is the most hilarious thing I have ever seen. You are worried about consent when half the things that take place in our country do not involve consent. Yes, please search my car officer. Anyways, really ignorance is bliss. If my wife is cheating and I dont know about it, im fine in my own world. I would die happily. If I find out about it, well I am still fine because life goes on. Its called adapting. Its a shame most people are too emotionally fragile to ever comprehend adjusting to a situation, for instance if your mate died in an accident tomorrow. Most people do not understand the mentality of the other person, which thinks he is doing the right thing by staying with the original person. In reality, cheating is really just evidence that you shouldnt be in the relationship you are in because you are not happy. However bad secrets are made to be, I assure you unclean practices are far worse. These people have no morality, yet they profess it by attempting to judge in the first place, and especially by dictating that somehow lying is worse. A sin is a sin no matter what. In either case, keeping a secret is not lying. Learn to use a dictionary, they are 2 different words and meanings. I am glad everyone is happy with their anal gangbangs, its clearly what people that have no intellect do. It is sad when you try to use your brain and this is what comes out. Thanks for cheering me up about my own intellectual wisdom on these subjects

By: susie

susie — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 13:36:21 +0000

hi, iv ben married for 36 years , my hubby has never had a high sexdrive ,about 15 years ago things started to get worse were having sex maybe 3/4 times a year and it was getting more difficult for him to maintain an erection, about ten years ago things came to a stop altogether , and have staed that way , he was never into oral so these days i get nothing nt even a proper kiss he gives me a peck on the lips as you would a sister , we went docs a few years ago who sad there was nothing wrong and advised my huby to try certain things , he flatly refused saying that nothin would work , he loves me i know and i love him .but what am i meant to do. im only 54 now ben like this since i as 44 , im loking for a lover as iam so bad tempered , yes toys are good bu they carnt give u the human touch

By: brian

brian — Wed, 17 Nov 2010 14:10:23 +0000

The problem with that position on the high horse is you can’t really see what the cheaters partner is doing to the cheater.. Are they really disfunctional? or are they using their stamina else where? So are they being honest? or mearly staying with the relationship to be near the perks? (be it money status or whatever) Honesty is such a rear comodity, one can never really tell, because as you have already noted, ED can be assisted by a number of remedies.
I do side with the light horse brigade though, if you want to cheat, rather just get out of the relationship. It’s better for your own mental health.

By: Janet

Janet — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 03:01:06 +0000

I cheated on my first husband because he also had ED. He was a brittle diabetic who didn’t take care of himself nor did he take his insilin. I eventuantly divorced him and married the person who I was having an affair with. We had a child within the second year of marriage but it failed right after I had her. Because she was born 14 weeks early and I almost died he decided to walk away from us both. I stayed single for a while until I decided to go out and marry my friends ex who turned out to be an okay guy but he has bipolar and alot of anger issues so sex is out of the question. We do have a son which I gave birth to him a year in to the marriage. But even though sometimes I get really frusterated with him and sometimes I want to flee from him because of his manic moments I would never cheat on him. He doesn’t have ed, he is just not into having sex. We haven’t had sex in almost a year and I had a total hysterectomy since then as well so sex isn’t really that important in a marriage it is and it isn’t. If your that horny and you need to get the big O to satisfy your needs by all means MASTERBATE!!! you think the grass is greener on the other side? It;s not.

By: Mel

Mel — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 08:03:11 +0000

As described by the dictionary; cheating is lying. And you cant change that, no matter how many excuses you have it is cheating! Now Because I’m sure both of you are adults and consenting adults then hey if that’s what you want to do then, go right ahead. Just remember a cheater does not cheat once, if he or she know they did not get caught then it becomes a habit were they continue to cheat hopefully the next person you cheat on is not him and the next person he cheats on is not you! As long as you understand your consequences of cheating then hey by all means have fun! But be very aware, it’s all fun and games until you are the one that gets hurt. Trust me, it’s not a pretty feeling when your the one asking were have you been all night and who have you been with. have fun, and remember what begins wrong will most likely and wrong. I wish I would’ve listen to the many many who told me it’s not the best idea but sometimes we have to try it for ourselves and that’s how we learn even as adults.

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 07 Nov 2010 06:57:50 +0000

As the wife of a man who was cheated on in a previous marriage, I can say without a doubt that it can be earth shattering for some people. I love my husband dearly, but I also know that he’s not the person he could be today because of what happened. If you love and are devoted to the person you’re with (not just married to), you’ll do whatever it takes to make them happy. End of discussion.

By: todd

todd — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 22:32:36 +0000

Just seconding Bonnie’s comment. My parents were in a loveless marriage most of my upbringing (though my older siblings say it wasn’t always like that), and A) my sister and I knew, though we wouldn’t have known how to explain it, but what we thought we knew was B) THAT is what marriage is supposed to be. My sister ended up in a loveless marriage that lasted for a long time and only recently ended, and I have spent the entirety of my 20s and the better part of my 30s fearing commitments lasting too long, as what is subconsciously ingrained in me is that passion and love don’t last that long. I know logically that isn’t the case, of course, but at 35 my longest relationship has been a year and a half…

So when people say “we’re thinking of staying together for the children”, I usually reply “you should break up for the children”. Trust me, they’ll have a MUCH better picture of what meaningful relationships are if you do.

As for the cheating question, to me it’s never a question. It is lying and betraying. Period. If you don’t have the balls to talk to your spouse, then either end the marriage or suck it up and don’t cheat. I realize we are all human and fallible, I’m not perfect by any means. But though I have been cheated on and I have been the other guy (which I regret), I can honestly say that I have never and would never cheat, because what’s the point of having the relationship in the first place if a bit of sex is worth more than it?

(This is no judgment on polyamory or discussed outside relations/play, those are situations where everyone involved has had the right to decide what they want; if you cheat, you are taking that right away from your partner)