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Wise Guys: If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?

Tue, Mar 17, 2009

Advice, Wise Guys

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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: If a guy asks me how I think his penis ranks size-wise, and I honestly think it’s a little on the small side or perhaps too skinny, what do you think the best approach is?

Straight Married Guy (Fred): I’ll start answering this question with another question:¬† If I honestly think a woman is on the big side or perhaps a little chubby and she asks me if she’s fat, what do you think the best approach is? Of course I tell her that she looks great. But there’s a difference between these two situations: she can eat a healthier diet and exercise but he can’t do anything about his size. She may even be looking for a little motivation with the question, but it’s still polite to fib in this instance. Which means it’s imperative to fib in the other instance. Tell him that you think his size is great. You can add that you’ve seen bigger and, more importantly, you’ve seen smaller, and that he’s just right.¬† Adding that too big can be uncomfortable is always a good tidbit as well.¬† Being honest in this case will only serve to make him forever self-conscious or even more self-conscious than he already is (men hear all the time that “It’s not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean,” but men also see the widening eyes and devilish smiles when women talk about sizable, girthy man-sausage). A finessed answer can give him the confidence that most women find attractive and will more than make up for his tiny dick.

Straight Single Guy (Chris): This is an easy one: Lie. If you tell the truth (“It’s kind of too skinny…”) his penis may never again work for you, ever. Put yourself in his shoes, “Are my boobs big enough for you? You seem to always look at girls with big boobs when they walk by…” Would you really want him to say “Well, honey, your boobs are cute, but they are much smaller than I prefer. If I could use magic to change you, I would give you natural 34DD’s.” So lie. But before you do, you need to know is that if his penis is small-ish, he already knows. He is already sensitive about it, and he is just hoping you haven’t been with any well-endowed men. So if you overcompensate with an outright fabrication such as, “It’s huge. It’s the biggest one I’ve ever seen,” he will know you are lying to spare his feelings and he will feel even worse. So just say, “Honestly, it’s not the biggest one I’ve ever seen, but it works great for me and you are fantastic in bed. Let’s do it right now!” Trust me, this is the only answer that can work.

Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Oooh. Awkward. You might just want to end the relationship right then and there rather than suffer through such an uncomfortable conversation, especially if you can’t bluff. It is never advisable to tell a man his tool is anything but a first-rate, thick cut orgasm factory. If a man is asking you if you think he’s small, he’s probably having some self confidence issues, and confirming his suspicions will only exacerbate problems. So if you don’t mind living with his teeny-tiny skinny-minny member, lie through your teeth. Nothing good can come of you admitting you think he’s small. If the size of his prize has been an issue for you, or you’ve been looking for an excuse to break it off anyway, you might want to begin with “It’s not your small penis, it’s me. . .”

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Single Guy is Chris DiClerico, and our Gay Married Guy is Jon Ross. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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201 Responses to “Wise Guys: If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?”

  1. Lacey Says:

    Oh, dear. Please don’t tell him it’s small. Never mention that you’ve had bigger. Always say “It fits me just right.” Then jump on. Honestly, though, just between us girls, size does matter (sorry, fellas). A man with a little girth just feels better.

  2. MegN Says:

    Nah, I think it’s different person to person. I mean, for most girls, girth may be better. For me, I’m a little dismayed if a guy is on the bigger side, because a)F*** that thing’s gonna hurt and b) if he knows it’s big there’s a chance he’s gonna think size is ~all~ that matters and won’t bother with… well… technique or anything.

  3. figleaf Says:

    I’ve never asked, but of all the partners I’ve had only a few have mentioned a preference for size at all. Two in a row expressed relief that I wasn’t as large as their immediate previous partners, both of whom were big enough to be uncomfortable for them. One said it so sincerely, and then backed up and got all flustered, I had to laugh. The other was dead serious saying “that means we can do this… and this… and this.” None of which she’d been able to do in her previous long-term relationships.

    That said, while I’m usually pretty easygoing about disclosure even I think that *if* your partner’s going to be bone-headed or insecure enough to ask a nosy, none-of-his-business question like that then you should answer with all the honesty and sincerity a question like that deserves: little to none.

    figleaf

  4. Rolando Says:

    “So lie. But before you do, you need to know is that if his penis is small-ish, he already knows. He is already sensitive about it, and he is just hoping you haven‚Äôt been with any well-endowed men.”

    That is absolutely true, and it’s the worst part about the question being asked. I wouldn’t say to lie, but to be honest in that it’s satisfactory, if it is.

  5. kristen Says:

    ugh. i actually used to date a guy who was too small for my pleasure and i kept trying to get him to do things to make up for it (use huge dildos, enhancing sleeves, different positions, etc) and finally, he asked “am i really small?” and i said something like these guys all suggest (“you’re not the biggest i’ve been with, but i’ve seen smaller”). the truth was that he was definitely too small for me. he knew it. i knew it. and all my attempts to be okay with it and try different methods to deal with it didn’t change the matter. eventually, i dumped him and now i have a boyfriend who’s size is great. the truth is, for me and most girls i know SIZE MATTERS. thus, this is what i say to the girl who wrote in. be honest with yourself. if his size is too small for you, dump him. you’ll be doing both of you a favor.

  6. marriedlady Says:

    But penis size isn’t the same thing as breast size or weight. Big breasts and a healthy body look good. A small penis may not feel as good during sex. Telling the guy would cause all kinds of problems, but isn’t there anything a girl could do or say to make the sex better? Lying isn’t going to work for the girl.

  7. Morfious69 Says:

    I’m an African-American Male, I am considered very well endowed. I have a rather nice and very large penis. (10″inches relaxed) when fully erect im an even 12′inches. My thing is I can’t get the right woman to really let’me penetrate her anal! I happen to love Anal-sex, by the way I’m straight. How do I break it down to a chick, that I wont hurt them? Especially if we are using the right lubricants to perform the act… Can you help a brotha’ out?

  8. Daniela Says:

    In answer to Morfious69 the african american male realize that girls are small and the average depth of a woman is 8″. As for the anal, find sum1 who truly loves u and promise to be gentle and that you’ll owe her huge. Slowly and only expect her to try, not to finish or n e thing. Good luck!

  9. cylia Says:

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  10. Papito Says:

    Hey ladies…it is interesting how society puts such a big emphasis on the penis size…but how many of you ever wondered if you were built like the holland tunnel down there? Makes u wonder, doesn’t it.

  11. Shari Says:

    Hey Papito,
    Maybe were not built to hold a penis alone, ever wondered? Some of us made ways for e.g a fist instead of a ejaculating penis which only serves well for reproduction? And if you got a eenie weenie, than everything feels like the Holland Tunnel. That does not make it less sensitive, but the tiny ones would not know, for they never touch the sides nor end.

  12. Shari Says:

    But if size matters or disappoints, don’t stay! Don’t ruin your lives over a lie that neither will satisfy. But honesty from a man will help the cause a great deal for there are so many other things to do and even momentarily increase size a notch or two.

  13. Shari Says:

    If someone thinks my boobs are too small/big for his taste, I would have known before it all. We would not gotten that far. Why would somebody settle for less than they want and need? And I know pure arousal, if not to the ceiling, I’m not interested. If you can’t be honest about this, you can’t be honest about a lot more. Ecstasy is only for those who dare to be real and therefore, honest.

  14. nicole Says:

    quick and simple: lie to the guy asking about his penis size or his life will be ruined forever if u tell him that it is too small. size does matter first and techniques can always be taught. morfius69, u will hurt any young lady’s a-hole, lol-it’s better u don’t attempt that on anyone because ur size is definitely on the too large end of the spectrum.

  15. Audrey Says:

    Oh man, it’s weird. I’ve been with my mate for 3 years, no sex. And here I see people dumping over size of their manpride. Maybe if I were in your shoes I’d understand much better.

  16. lori Says:

    i had a man tell me thi is a i g mye 4 inches fully erect, but he knew how to use. we were togethr for 2 yrs.

  17. lori Says:

    oops , typos in 1st response.
    i had a man tell me this is all he had, 4 inchs fully erect, but he know how to use it.

  18. mark Says:

    haha.. holland tunnel, never heard that one before. i would say this to the ladies out there.. there is definitely a large difference in vagina size among you, and it doesn’t take a small dick to tell. i’m 7″ by 5.25″ and with some girls it’s so tight it hurts, and with other girls i can barely feel a thing! i don’t think i’d dump a girl with a ‘holland tunnel’ but it sure is nicer when she’s tight (like my current girl is).

  19. rebel Says:

    I think you should tell the truth. If he’s got the tiniest todger you’ve ever seen… just tell him. Then tell him you love his hot little cock, and give him a blow job. I have a small penis and have been confused by women’s comments my whole life. “It feels so big!” …really? feels good maybe, but if you don’t want me to confuse big and good then don’t use that those socially ingrained words. Nobody’s perfect. I’d rather be accepted with my shortcomings than lied to about them.

  20. Catharine Says:

    My boyfriend of two years and I recently split up. When we were first together and just beginning to have sex, I confided in him that my previous long-term boyfriend, whom I was with for four years, were only able to even attempt sex a handful of times because his penis was far too large for me and sex was extremely painful. I told my new boyfriend that he was exactly the right size for me. (And this was true, I had never experienced an orgasm with another man) However, the knowledge that my previous boyfriend’s package had been larger than his haunted our entire relationship, and he NEVER forgave me for telling him, regardless of the favorable context.

  21. james Says:

    I think this issue with size will come to haunt women in the future, and I think it is not a distant future, with stem cell research, in about 10 to 20 years.

    What I mean is that men will be able to enlarge their penises, and soon a lot of men will have XL penises. Caveat Emptor ladies, when that time comes, women will not find sex pleasurable.

    Should I dump a woman because her vagina is not tight enough? Or should I dump a woman because her breasts, or her body is not the right one?
    I think women are becoming really mean. Stop and meditate

  22. sissybabysusie Says:

    I have quite a tiny penis,just 3 inches fully erect.I have lived with this for 41 years of my life.I’m married to a very attractive woman and our relationship is great apart from the sex.We have beed married for 9 years and for the last few months she has sex with another man who is particuarly well endowed.She found penetration frustrating and difficult to actually feel me inside of her so we agreed she could take lovers.I actually find this a turn on because I’m always there when they have sex.Of course its humiliating but then this plays into my fetish for dressing as a baby girl.I have a wardrobe fully of frilly satin baby items including frilly baby panties,plastic pants and nappies ect.The point I wish to make is we compromised and found a solution that worked for us.

  23. phatbootycutie Says:

    SissybabySusie, wow. Your situation exemplifies what it’s like to compromise.The baby issue is something else, though I find it really interesting.
    The fact that you have agreed to allow your wife to experience another man is great because your allowing her to have what she wants, but you can’t provide it.

    I highly commend you on being able to compromise in such a way.

  24. phatbootycutie Says:

    THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY!
    However, a woman should @ least sugarcoat it a bit. Every one has flaws, but it’s not fair to point out or draw attention to someone’s. That hurts.

    I agree with Lacey that u should not straight-up tell him he’s small compared to others you may have had. A woman should address the fact that her partner is “just right for her”, and jump on! ;) OR if it’s that much of a turn off, don’t go through with it, and simply move on.

    Life’s too short to be taking on unpleasurable experiences unecessarily. Do research before the big or lil” bang! Lol…
    Feel around, or do other creative jestures to see what he’s “packing” prior to actual sex. Think of it like this, ladies… Do you go to a movie before seeing the previews? Enough said.:)

  25. .Plum. Says:

    my boyfriend asked me if his member wasn’t big enough last night and i didn’t have teh heart to tell him. the kinds of questions he kept asking were awful and i hated to answer any but i am too honest not to so i tried as hard as i could to mask wanting to say “sure a huge dick is awesome sorry bout yer bad luck”

    i want to marry this guy so idk, its just not an issue for me. he can get me off with his dick he can get me off in other ways, and it’s not what’s important to me.

    what i did end up telling him was the truth. i had been with bigger that had no idea what to do with it so it’s not just size that matters. there are many things distracting me in my life (which is one of the reasons i’m not getting off every time we have sex) and he’d gotten me off more times than any other boyfriend i’ve ever had.

    now i feel like i’ve damaged him by what i’ve said after reading all this. he didnt text me when he got out of work which isn’t like him, and now im afraid i’ve created a bigger problem. we’ve been together 6 or 7 months now. *sigh*

  26. .Plum. Says:

    PS his phone was shut off for whatever reason so hes not hating me forever but i still feel like i’ve done emotional damage!!

  27. phatbootycutie Says:

    Plum…

    I feel you on noticing your bf’s withdrawal. Personally, I’m a firm believer of NOT asking questions that I don’t TRULLY want the answer to. When questioned, he’ll probably pull the whole,”I’m not acting strange” bit, but once you all talk about it more in debt, he should get over it, and be able to accept the reality.

  28. james Says:

    Back at what I mentioned before.
    I was reading an article in an Italian magazine last night. It was an article about human beings trying to change it all to their specifications.
    The article, strangely enought talked about boobs and penises. It was saying that women are going overboard with breast implants. Today even teen agers want to do it.
    What women do not realize, or chose not to care about it, is that most men do not like the feeling of enhanced breasts. I gree with that statement, I have had my share of implanted breasts, and those feel ackward, hard like plastic and cold, unlike the real warm and nice feeling of real breasts.
    When stem cell reaserach finally allowes men to get the size they want, like women today in the case of boobs, men will go overboard, even men with large packages ( natural 8, 9 ) will want to become 12 in in size.
    Only then a real revolution will take place. I am sure that the time will come ( not far away ) when women will long for average units instead of the “then average” 12 inches.
    That happenes today with me at least, in the boobs department, it is a turn off to learn a girl I like has implants.

  29. sandy Says:

    sissybabysusie, hahahaha. your comment had me on the floor rolling. i believed you until the last part lol

  30. Ryan Says:

    I’m a 24 year old white male and it sounds to me if the guy you ladies are with is asking if his penis is big it’s prolly small and there looking for a little re-assurance that your actually getting pleasure. If you have big one, you know, it doesn’t take a genius but you still have to know how to work it. I know when my girl is squirting like crazy, I must be doing something right and I don’t need her to tell me. Size matters if your really small, but if yours is on the big side (I’d say mines a thick 8-9″) you’ll never hear a complaint (except maybe slow down) and you’ll never need your partner’s confirmation that it’s “big”. For the most part women are size queens and as much as they don’t want to admit it to you (man with small one) they love a big one and big everything for that matter. So, ladies don’t bring it up and GUYS don’t ask…even if your a horse, there’s always bigger and you don’t need a complex. Let your girl volunteer info like that.

  31. AGOLTA Says:

    OUT OF ALL COMMENTS, THIS ONE IS MOST DEFINATELY THE ONE WORTHY OF BEING READ:

    You know what? It is a shame that many men are being victims of their womens dumbness.

    Look women, if you want to be with this guy forever, I think the best idea is to say “I went to the obstetrics/gynaecology department for a check up because I wanted to make sure I don’t suffer from things like cervical cancer because I got scared looking at it on the news, and it made me very anxious. My doctor said I have a naturally large vagina, and I am upset about it in one way how men would be insecure about their penis size, because I genuinely want to give you MAXIMUM PLEASURE because I KNOW THAT MEN PREFER TIGHTER VAGINAS BECAUSE IT PROVIDES MORE SENSATION FOR THE MEN, but then again, I feel better when I think about how great you feel in my vagina anyway, but I have serious self esteem issues about this now and want to make myself tighter or just enhance the physical side of sex” – THIS IS A GREAT IDEA, HE WILL UNDERSTAND BECAUSE HE IS INSECURE ABOUT HIS PENIS SIZE WITHOUT A DOUBT!

    Another thing you can say to this LONG TERM LIFE PARTNER is that your previous partners lasted a lot longer, so you want him to use a penis sleeve! i.e the Julian Senso Sleeve (haha, this is a good way to make up for his small penis girth).

    Ok, well now I have given you some excuses, LETS LOOK AT THE SOLUTIONS MARITAL PARTNERS CAN USE TO COMPENSATE FOR THEIR SMALLER PENIS:

    1. Vagina Tightening Creams. Go on the ‘pure romance’ sex shop website and take a look. Keep trying them, don’t give up on them with your wife, apply it in different ways if it hasn’t worked the first time. These creams do work if you apply it well, and it makes the vagina so tight so you seem very thick. There will be no need for a thick penis. They are 24 hour creams – get your wife to put it on in the morning before work, and when she comes back from work, get her to put it on again for that extremely virgin tight fit. Don’t put too much on her or else her vagina will be too tight to open temporarily (for about a day). These creams are very cheap so you can use them for every sexual encounter you have, your 4.5 inch girth will feel like 6.5, maybe 7, you’d be shrinking that vagina so much.

    2. Penis sleeve extensions. Accept the fact that your penis size is not optimum for PHYSICAL pleasure for the woman. Whack a realistic feel, large penis extension on. i.e look on pure romance website again and type in “penis extension 8.5” ” Although you wont be able to feel anything physically, you will spiritually and emotionally feel great because you know that no man can have sex with your wife as good as you are now. How many men have a 8.5 inch penis with 6.5 inch girth, probably 1/200, and they will ejaculate and have less staying power anyway. Whereas this penis extension gives you staying power and gives your wife multiple vaginal orgasms (a naturally large penis has not got the staying power of an extension and the male with a large penis who isn’t your husband will never give you a better experience because there is no love for you to share, the overall sexual experience is always best with your husband). Then after you have pleasured her, it would be her turn to pleasure you (KEEP JUSTICE IN THE BEDROOM), her vagina will feel so sensitive after all those orgasms, that your penis will feel such great vaginal sensations with your smaller penis, a male with a large penis may be painful with a woman with a highly sensitive vagina. She will also be all into love and emotions after receiving many orgasms, so sex will be more of an emotional thing, she may get another orgasm with your smaller penis too because she has gone so sensitive down there. During this time you can go for all sex positions, you wont have to be limited to just the small penis sex positions because she is already sexually fulfilled and it is her turn to please you so you can gain a lot of sexual variety, communicate with her about this part of sex and tell her to feel and make it an erotic, emotional, love, union experience, you will be the best at sex here for her because no man can love your wife as much as you. Just face the fact and don’t be all depressed just because your actual penis size isn’t big, hardly any male penises are so who cares? the fact is you have a wife and you want to please her like no other man can.

    Another alternative is to use the Julian Senso Sleeve, you will be able to feel sensation too and it is really enjoyable for women and also you can use other sleeves which has a vacuum effect on your penis which is extremely pleasurable – yes they all exist, shop around at a local store or online.

    3. Get her to use the kegelmaster2000 to use regularly. This strengthens the muscle tone in her vagina, which increases sexual sensation in the vagina during sex, thus increasing the chances or her getting vaginal orgasms, and also increasing the intensity of her orgasms.

    4. Increase your fitness! Get yourself a six pack, improve your self image, you’ll look great, last longer in bed, go harder and faster in bed for longer, you’ll probably gain some penis size that is in your fat pad. You will be more desirable by your wife.

    5. mattersofsize dot com, this is a penis enlargement site. After a year, people on average gain 1 inch in length and 0.25 inches in girth, and because they were consistent with it for a whole year, the gains were permanent. They will give you routines which will also make your penis more healthier and less prone to erectile dysfunction.

    6. Go on google, type in “Ejaculation Under Control” and click on the first link, notice that your mind is your most powerful sex organ, when people have sex, they put too much arousal onto their bodies and barely anything in their minds, it should be the other way round, so you can last longer and be more intelligent in sex.
    7. Look at methods to enhance the sexual experience, i.b books and stuff.
    I would personally suggest Vagina tightening cream + kegelmaster and ben waa balls throughout the week, and then on the weekend, enjoy the senso sleeve together, and on occasions and celebrations where you have a lot of time for sex, use the penis extension sleeve, BUT remind her/be reminded that it feels good mainly because you are in a happy state of mind in successful occasions and celerations, so you shouldnt think size matters just because it is treated like a ‘treat’.

    So, I hope you can stop whining now.

    p.s Average penis girth = 4.7-5.1 inches.
    Average penis length is 5-5.9 inches.

    Vagina sizes vary as much as penis sizes do, which is a shame because some women can’t feel pleasure that other women can with the same size penis. But not anymore.

    Oh and if your husband is small, but has a large girth, just but a 3″ extension on him! It gives him more staying power too and he can feel a lot!

  32. Spes Says:

    Uh, Ryan, no.
    “For the most part women are size queens and as much as they don‚Äôt want to admit it to you (man with small one) they love a big one and big everything for that matter.”
    I believe you are over generalizing just a bit. Not all women love a really big penis. Women vary in sizes as well, and for some having a thick penis over 5in can be painful. Just trust me when I tell you that feeling like a rod is trying to break through your cervix isn’t the most pleasant of experiences, neither is feeling like something might rip at any moment. Some women run when the package is a bit too big.

  33. james Says:

    Only the most objective opinions need be taken into account.
    Logically guys with big penises will boast their size ( like the guy that proudly posts his size ) and will say all women love big penises, because it wopuld be against their ego to admit many women do not like large penises, that would leave them out, like the car owner with the flasshy wheels and corny chromes being way too much for others, even though he thinks his car is the greatest thing on wheels.

    Some women enjoy the power they get , the power of rejecting, and not only rejection, but the power to destroy and submit a man by telling him ( them ) that size matters. The equivalent of a man that says that only “10″ women with perfect bodies, no fat and large breasts/tight pink pussies ought to exist.

    So , this issue comes down to human nature, phisical capabilities and common sense. We are living in an era where young girls are watching porn in their early teens in the confort of their computers at home, and they are growing up with the idea that all men are large.
    That porn thing is more real with men’s observations, because most women in porn stuff are not exactly the perfect no fat large breasted kind of women, most women in porn are closer to the average, and a lot of amateur porn has women that are far from that average.
    So while men learn that a woman is a woman no matter what, women on the other hand learn that men are large ( which is not true, men in porn are hired for large sizes, not the real representative of the population.)
    The learning process is askew, and men that are born large are having a free ride, while men that are not , although the average, are getting a raw deal out of this fantasy land porn has created.
    But, like I said before, the real issue will come in a close future, when through stem cell development, men will be able to get larger. That will be as common as nose jobs and then, only then, the real criteria women have about size will come out.
    Only when all men are 11 inches long and big, only then will women come out and say what and how much size matters.
    It will be too late, like it has been everytime I have gone out with a woman with silicon breast implants. While we have sex, I often think, what a waste, this plastic feeling, cold and hard bubbles in no way shape or form replace the real warm, soft and extremely attractive texture of a real breast.

  34. sissybabysusie Says:

    Hey Sandy I don’t understand why you don’t believe our situation?.Many couples experiment and are into swinging,fetishes or cuckolding.I do find it very stimulating seeing my wife with her lover who is much bigger than my 3 inches.The fact I’m dressed as a baby girl at the time is mainly for my own pleasure and it also feels less threatening to her lover if I’ dressed in frilly baby attire.
    Phatbootiecutie thanks for your comments.http://www.flickr.com/people/37489007@N02/

  35. nobodysme Says:

    I have a small tiny penis and it’s skinny too. I tried enlargement pills like enzyte, and tried streching my penis by pulling on them, hanging weights, helicopter techniques. I’ve been doing the exercises for about 6 months and my penis is still the same size. only 4.5″ fully erect, but it’s bent sideways. I tried the pump to straiten it out. It initially looked bigger, and then it turned purple and really hurt. I measured today after the using the pump for about a week and my size decreased down to 4″. I lost 0.5″. I can’t believe it… I’m so mad! I’m ordered a different penis enlargement pills for $59.99. Hope it works.

  36. richard ludwig Says:

    do NOT spare his feelings, do TOTAL truth with him and be honest with him. i personally find anything more unattractive than a woman who:
    (A) sugar coats things
    (B) fakes orgasms
    (C) lies through whats left of her teeth what ever
    the topic or reason.

    if she fakes orgasms, lies, or sugar coats things then how can i ever trust or believe her?

  37. richard ludwig Says:

    i said that because, to me, faking orgasms is little more than lying to your partner, and sugar coating things is not much further away from lying.
    if the woman is not getting any orgasms from the sex then she should just plain tell him, and sugar coating things is also kinda childish anyways.

  38. curiousdude Says:

    i’m black man with a 6.3 inch penis…..because of the stereotype on black men….i can’t help but notice somewhat disappointed expressions on the faces of women when i first pull down my pants which turns to sheer delight after the sex (i’ve been told i’m good at oral sex). I don’t women should tell a guy about his size because it will definitely be on his mind the next time they have sex……which could be a very huge turn off for the guy, I haven’t had a woman complain about my penis size before and i guess when it comes down to it it’s talent that really matters.

  39. richard ludwig Says:

    curiousdude,

    size does NOT matter down there, never has and never will. the biggest sexual organ your body has is right between your ears – the human brain. the pecker size crap is all in your head. it is not the size of your tool that matters – it is how you use it.

  40. richard ludwig Says:

    WHY in the heck are the women in here and the rest of the world for that matter such size queens? when you put the size of the mans cock above all else that is basically telling the guy all you care about him is the size of his cock and not the rest of him. i personally would not even TOUCH a size queen – i would kick her right to the curb before she does it to me for that reason alone. i would prefer to be loved for me alone – ALL OF ME – and with the cock put on the VERY BOTTOM of the priority list.

  41. lisa Says:

    Gotta say that while I enjoy all of the possible variations on sex and body parts, extreme ends of the range—both huge and tiny—are a bit off-putting. I enjoy going down on a guy, and if he’s huge, it just ain’t happening, at least not for long. If he’s tiny or even just smaller, it may not bother me but I’ll bet it bugs him, and it will show.

  42. richard ludwig Says:

    lisa –
    having a small cock kinda does bother me, because i was born with it and there is not much i can do about it. it is shallow, materialistic women who bother me more than my cock size because all they really care about is how much the guy makes in a year and how long he is. if the woman loved me in spite of my cock size and wanted me – thats one thing – that i would not mind. a woman who would pick on me because of it is the lowest form of pond scum and does not really love the inner guy – just his cock and how much he makes in a year.
    those kinds sicken me to death.

  43. Praialover Says:

    Anyone who thinks sexual satisfaction is just a physical thing related to the size of a man’s dick … is missing out on the best sex they could otherwise have. They don’t know what they’re missing.

    Like many of the women on here point out, at some point, the pure physical aspect is gonna hurt. If a dick is as big as a small baby, it would deliver “labor pain”, not pleasure.

    More girth might be nice for some women if it’s the only aspect of pleasure they’ve experience from a lover. Some men may be missing the boat in other areas of providing pleasure and the unfortunate woman may simply be unaware of these other areas of pleasure that a man can and should deliver, regardless of his size.

    The best sexual techniques start with the brain (like ludwig said) … you first have to start making love to her brain (set the mood, flirt with her, talk to her playfully, sensually, stroke her ego gently, tell her what you’re gonna do to her … there’s nothing like anticipation) and then do the outside of her body (caress & tease her to please her, e.g. there’s nothing more pleasurable to a woman than a hot tongue masterfully applied in all the right places … along with a finger or two … think about it … your fingers and her fingers aren’t as big as a dick but those can make her come when properly utilized, no?)

    This will bring her to the brink or orgasm. For some women, it may take a lot of work to get her there … but getting her there is 90% of the enjoyment. Keep her there … don’t give her the release of coming too soon. Make her beg for it! By the time you use your dick … she is either already coming or will come soon. If not, take your dick out and make her come some other way. Thee’s no rule that says you can only make her come with your dick.

    Then you can bust your nut after she’s had hers.

    Bottom line is that no size of penis or sexual aids can make up for lack of competence in sexual technique across the entire encounter. It’s not just about sticking a dick in there and blasting away. Anyone who thinks that – male of female – has been brain-washed and will miss out on an even more pleasurable experiences that are possible.

    Great overall sexual technique delivered by a confident, competent lover will deliver the most mind-blowing orgasms she ever had. So it’s not about the size of the dick, some men just don’t know how to f**k!

    Or they only care about themselves! And some women just may not recognize that.

  44. richard ludwig Says:

    Praialover -

    like i also said – many women do not really care about the guy himself – just how much he makes and how big his cock is. that is the type who only care about themselves and lower men to little more than breeding stock. then some women pick on the mans cock size if it is smaller than 5” and that is ever so very cruel and humilates the man. would women like it if men picked on them for not shaving or waxing their gash? – i doubt it. to me it is the exact same difference.
    then some women lie through whats left of their teeth saying the cock size is just about right when it is either too big or too small. wish they would just tell the truth for lands sakes. then some would fake orgasms when they are not getting any pleasure from it – to me that is little more than a form of lying to your partner. that also sickens me.

  45. richard ludwig Says:

    like i keep on telling myself – im NOT fucked up, the rest of the would sure as hell is – because all the rest of the world cares about is the mates money and material possitions when there is more to the mate than money, property and cock size.

  46. Alexis Says:

    No, you don’t answer that question. If he gives you successful orgasms. He is your man. I had one guy who I had a great mental romance with, the sex was disappointing. I had a 2 tiny guys, I didn’t feel a thing. Got rid of both. I would agree I am a ‘size queen’ I prefer appx 6″ with girth.

    As far a the breast implants, blame the media. Women are programmed to believe men LOVE and CANT live without women with huge tits. Pamela Anderson ring any bells? Porn stars, hello? And perhaps that effected women too in the size dept.

  47. richard ludwig Says:

    as far as i am concerned – ALL size queens should just be kicked to the curb for that reason alone.

  48. Richard little Says:

    I obviously am having issues within myself to have found this page…wanna hear the messed up part? I should be 100% ok with myself, but women are stupid and insensitive. Maybe its not fair to group “all” into a stereotype but its my perspective. First off I am 7×6 and I have issues with my size. My mom, when I was 10 saw me naked and said “Doesn’t that thing ever grow” Jump forward years into my sexual relations. Gf tells me her highschool bf was so big she couldn’t get her mouth around the head. Current gf saw me peeing in the bathroom, legs spread apart. Asked, “why do you stand like that?” I didn’t know but after thinking, I am a muscular guy, I said “I don’t know…i guess I would feel squished if I had them close together. She says to me “honey its not that big” Since then we have gone round in circles, she says she likes me and is impressed but CAN’T give me a compliment to save her life. I was content knowing that I wasn’t the biggest but that I was close to it….and that I pleased her. Then her story changed, she was comparing me to her past in stupid ways. She has no concept of size and put zero effort into even thinking before answering. Now I maybe the thickest she has been with and only a bit shorter. Women want support and love, but they do not in my experience extend the same compassion and understanding to the opposite gender

  49. Richard little Says:

    Wow…I expected to be able to proof read it or something:D Well, to the women who read this and are supportive please do not be offended and if someone comes along maybe you can relate. This was only a sample of the rude, careless comments women have given me. I also love the “well you seemed confident enough in your size, and an ego is bad so I didn’t say anything to you about it” Women, if a man has something that pleases you….TELL HIM!!!!! Ego, honor, and confidence are what make a good man a hero…Its what makes us do the right thing! Jerks will be jerks regardless, but think of this….bullies are NOT the confident strong person. They are insecure and scared, I feel women create the guys they hate by not feeding our inner boys.

  50. GUY Says:

    i have really small testicles, and i would say medium small penis (7 lentght and 5 girth) the issue about size has always haunted me , i think its to thin and the size of my balls always bothers me too.


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