Comments on: Wise Guys: Why Didn’t He Call When He Said He Would?

By: judy

judy — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:25:11 +0000

Unfortunately, this behavior has become an epidemic. Stick to your guns tired of men, if you hold out for the best you will get it.

By: Tired of men lies

Tired of men lies — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:07:12 +0000

Since I have been single for the past 4 years, the men will approach me, I may or may not show interest. If I decide to give him my # the men will call once or so then say they will call but don’t. They sit back and wait for me to call them. I have been told after not calling them for months, ” I haven’t heard from you.” My response, the last time I checked you have my #. These men her in Charlotte, NC act like they are a king on a thrown. I have news for them, I never chase after a man. I am way too beautiful and I do mean beautiful inside and out to chase a man! I’m not agressive at all. If you don’t show interest in me like you did to get my # then I will back off. I’m really tired of men stupid childlike games. I can be by myself and be okay with it. My friend once told me men are intemidated by me because I a pretty and smart and won’t be controlled.

Sincerely,
Tired of men (black men especially).

By: Sugar

Sugar — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 08:09:17 +0000

@ Johnny..I admit that women love to talk to their guys on the phone. but my question is if you don’t like talking on the phone or its not your obligation to, why tell her that your gonna call every time and then don’t? JUST DON’T TELL HER YOUR GONNA CALL BECAUSE YOU ONLY DISAPPOINT HER WHEN YOU GIVE HER EXPECTATION

By: Johnny

Johnny — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 15:05:42 +0000

Some guys – especially guys who don’t like the phone – just resent the expectation. We don’t feel we should have to check in like that.

To us that feels like, “ok, here’s my obligatory phone call. The one you made me promise to make. Not that I have anything to say.”

Women hate this because they want us to want to call. They wish we’d WANT to pick up the phone and gush about our day and how much we miss each other, just like they might with one of their girl friends.

But I, for one, am just not like that. I too get irate when beholden to call-appointments. I’ll call when I’m feeling it. Or, if you want to talk, you could, you know… call me. Instead of tearfully enforcing demands that I call you.

By: A girl

A girl — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:59:44 +0000

I met a guy. Were in our teens. He’s foreign. I like him a lot. BefOre he left for his far away home, he asked for my email and full name. I gave it. The next 3 days he mailed. He said he was sO excited to mail me. He would of done it sooner but he couldnt check his mail for time dif. He was sleeping for 3 days. So we mailed a lot everyday. He was really sweet. Then 2 weeks ago he suddenly stopped mailing me. It was so sudden. I saw him online on skype but he didn’t talk to me. I finally said hi what’s up and he went offline. Then I went invisible then he came back online 5 mins later then I went back online 5 mins later then nothing happend. If he was online why didn’t he check his email. 2 weeks no reply? He told me he wanted to skype with me and he thinks I’m pretty and I need to make a Facebook in previous emails. Now it’s all so sudden.
PLEASE, I really need help on this one. I’m so confused and I really like him.

By: marian

marian — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 19:05:34 +0000

I am PISSED. Da guy said he will call everytym we pass by in uni campus (we pass by every couple of weeks). Somehw we hit it off wen we wer both in dis uni society thing, n i guess i played a little hard to get, but he backed off immediately, so it seemed.

Now he says he wud call but never does. Its been a couple of months nw, somehw even thou ppl tell me 2 move on i still feel hurt at him. I am so pissed i wiss i cud pour it out 2 him, but dat of course wud make me look stupid and needy. He is by da way a quite shy guy, good looking, smart, but slightly bashful. Otherwise very social. Wat cud be da reason 4 him not callin bak? I wish i knew

By: Emma

Emma — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 18:23:24 +0000

Mikey,

Well, it did seem a little angry and bitter, but hey, I would rather know the truth of someone’s behavior than just keep kidding myself. You are right, I believe he is a Narcisist and I have been unhappy in this relationship for a long time. He just isn’t good enough and I deserve better. Sometimes, we need to hear the horrible truth about someone from someone else that has an objective viewpoint to cement it in our heads. I am ready to move on from this situation and kick his ass to the curb! Thanks for your honesty, Mikey!

By: Mikey

Mikey — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 18:32:57 +0000

Wow – I totally came off angry and bitter up there. sorry about that. Im just guessing and really, what do I know? Why dont you just go “old skool” on him and withold sex and BJ’s for at least a good month, maybe flirt with some of his friends or coworkers to get some good old fashioned revenge/rules of engagement established? Works every time.

By: Mikey

Mikey — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 18:28:24 +0000

uh, news flash…He’s not that into you. Or this “relationship” for that matter. He is probably only into him, what he wants, needs, feels like, etc. Hmmmmmmm? He was out there in Vegas “doing him” or “doing his thing” as they say. He slept with someone, and if he somehow didnt actually sleep with someone, he damn sure tried his little butt off to do so and just couldnt close the deal. When he doesnt call from Vegas, IT IS ALWAYS A BAD SIGN. When he gets irrate with you for wanting to talk about it what he is actually telling you is – “hey, back-off…I did’nt call because I dont really have to. You wont leave me. I know it, you know it, and your mom/girlfriends know it. You dont command that kind of respect from me, and Im going to just go ahead and conveniently use this opportunity to set myself up to do the same thing again next time – thanks”. I know your mind will resist this explanation and your heart wont want to believe it. But down the road, when his future behavior validates every aspect of what I am saying and he eventually leaves you, try to look at it as a gift of freedom and ‘singlehood’ rather than a ‘breakup’. He’s a Narcisist and relationships with narcisists always suck

By: Emma

Emma — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 23:48:19 +0000

I have boyfriend who went on a business trip to Vegas two days ago. He said he would call while he was there. I haven’t heard from him at all. He has had a bad habit of not calling when he says he will or not calling at all. I questioned him about this behavior 4 days ago and he became irate and said the not calling and not calling when he says he will meant nothing. I tried to explain to him how this hurts me and still was told that he would not always call me when he says he will and that sometimes he might not call at all and made me feel as though there was something wrong with me wanting this. What the hell is going on with him?