We feel just awful that we can‚Äôt answer every single advice question we get, but we figure that any answer is better than no answer at all. Which is why, once a week, we‚Äôll let you guys decide how to advise a reader. Make your call by filling out the poll after the jump:
Dear Em & Lo,
I’ve recently hung out with a co-worker a few times, and even spent the night. Nothing happened at first — my pants stayed on and we cuddled and watched TV. The last two times the pants came off and he was all about pleasing me. It’s like he didn’t want to stop, he was so into it. I returned the favor, but I expected to have sex too. He didn’t do it! When I asked why not he said it’s a “process.” I thought, oh, maybe he wants to take it slow and might want to have an actual relationship. Well, I tried making movie and dinner plans with him to sort of test it and he said he was busy both times. What’s the deal? I feel like it’s mixed signals.
–Confused (No Pants)
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