Comments on: And My Parents Don’t Know I’m Gay? Part 2: Martha

By: lilith

lilith — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 20:51:28 +0000

writing this was the second gayest thing you did after having sex with a man. like… could this be any more stereotypical?

By: Saffron

Saffron — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:26:04 +0000

Rather its a case of denial or not, we’ll have to wait to see. But not all parents react to their child’s sexual orintation with dislike.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 01:07:33 +0000

Oh, also, Flicka, I kind of take issue with your assertion that it is more difficult to see bipolar disorder. First, even if you don’t know it’s bipolar, someone with those symptoms would very obviously have something wrong with them. And Secondly, not all little boys who dress up as a girl, play with girl toys or reads Martha Stewart Living may be showing stereotypical signs of being homosexual, but honestly, that’s not always true… Just often… and a parent who does not want to make sexuality an issue may choose to ignore this gender exploration as a way of trying to make the child feel like it is okay for them to be whatever they discover that they are.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 01:04:25 +0000

I don’t know though. I would still say the argument that sometimes you just can’t really see the truth of a situation because you’re too close to a situation.

Though, in this case, it seems pretty obvious… and definitely looks like denial.

By: flick

flick — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 22:29:35 +0000

ok bipolar disorder would be harder to guess than this situation, i’ll give you that, but when your son is out decorating you because HE reads your MSL it’s normally assumed your son is gay. If he’s not, good for him, but The parents had to be in some sort of denial about their son. Sort of like an “If I don’t ask him if he’s gay, then he ISN’T!” situation

Realistically? My dad calls me Oblivia. i’m crazy oblivious. I didn’t know my uncle was gay until one of my sisters told me, but that was because i was 10, and more focused on dolls, tv, and my cousins. I had friends in classes with me that didn’t “dress gay” or have “gay voice” but the way they took to certain activities made it pretty obvious that they were homosexual [btw i love gays. i have a gay boss, and co worker and they are AWEOSME ]

it’s probably left over cultural denial from his parents’ parents’ generation, which in my opinion, isn’t something you can really be angry at them for [to a certain extent]

By: Beth

Beth — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 16:52:21 +0000

I don’t think it’s necessarily denial. My brother’s bipolar and he wasn’t diagnosed until college when he had a full blown nervous breakdown, but he’s had symptoms his entire life. But, it’s difficult to break down a person’s personality. No one notices anything off about a family member because they’re too close to the situation. They just chalk it up to, oh that’s just Billy. Or that’s just Susan. He/She has ALWAYS been like that. When you’re not looking for a stereotype, you’re not going to see it.

I’m not equating homosexuality with bipolar disorder, I’m simply saying that parents and family members often just don’t see certain things in their children/family. I think you just become jaded to family antics due to seeing it on a daily basis.

By: Sophie

Sophie — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 15:46:14 +0000

Oh! The denial…