We feel just awful that we canâ€™t answer every single advice question we get, but we figure that any answer is better than no answer at all. Which is why, once a week, weâ€™ll let you guys decide how to advise a reader. Make your call by filling out the poll after the jump:
Dear Em & Lo,
I know what I did was wrong: I’m happily engaged, I went out one night to a sort of impromptu high school reunion, got drunk and kissed a guy I’d always had a crush on. It was one sloppy kiss, nothing more. As soon as I did it I regretted it (although I must admit it did feel kinda nice). I love my fiance, want to be with him, don’t need sex from anyone else (and am confident I won’t, even after 50 years). I let myself do it because I knew it wouldn’t diminish my feelings or commitment to my fiance, this guy was no threat and it would just be harmless, meaningless fun. Of course, now I feel totally guilty, and terrible that I did that behind his back. My question is: do I tell him, just so we don’t have anything between us before we get married — I hate the idea of having this secret for the rest of our lives. Or do I just keep my mouth shut and live with the guilt, because no good can come of hurting him like that?
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