I have this great new boyfriend and we have fantastic sex — often including orgasm, sometimes rough and with lots of oral, all of which includes some heavy use of the G-spot (none of which I’ve done much of before). I am enjoying it and so is he, but I’ve been having a problem with feeling like something isn’t quite right “down there” after our sessions. It basically feels like I have to go to the bathroom all day (but I don’t need to actually go — it just feels that way) and is a general discomfort/feeling like I have some sort of problem with that area. It doesn’t burn when I urinate and it doesn’t seem to be a yeast infection. Could this discomfort be from over-stimulation of the G-spot? Is it a normal reaction or should I worry that this could be a signal for something else?
Discomfort isn’t normal, especially when it lasts for hours after sex. The first thing to do is to rule out a bladder infection — not all UTIs have burning with urination, and they can present just like your other symptoms. Plus, it’s more common to develop a UTI when you’re having lots of sex. (Your gyno can also test you for STDs from your urine sample, just to rule that out.)
If your doc tells you that your urine is clear, your discomfort may be from vaginal chafing (ouch). Any part of your vagina — including the upper wall where the G-spot is targeted — can become sore from too much friction. Perhaps your marathon sex sessions are leaving you a bit dry, or there’s a bit too much attention paid to such a small area. Try adding lubricant to reduce any, shall we say, rug burn.
Or perhaps you’re just one of those people for whom G-spot attention doesn’t feel so good. He is, after all, pressing pretty hard in the direction of your urinary tract (which is just beyond the upper wall of the vagina). Try focusing on other spots that feel really good to you, like your clitoris or labia or lower wall of the vagina (known as the PS-spot to some), and give your G-spot a break to see if the discomfort abates. Such an attentive, giving boyfriend is sure to experiment with you to keep the sex fantastic — as well as pain-free.
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. She also lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. Check out more of her advice and ask her a question at Gynotalk.com.