Dear Dr. Kate: My G-Spot Is Not an Ecstasy Button

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Dr. Kate,

I have this great new boyfriend and we have fantastic sex — often including orgasm, sometimes rough and with lots of oral, all of which includes some heavy use of the G-spot (none of which I’ve done much of before). I am enjoying it and so is he, but I’ve been having a problem with feeling like something isn’t quite right “down there” after our sessions. It basically feels like I have to go to the bathroom all day (but I don’t need to actually go — it just feels that way) and is a general discomfort/feeling like I have some sort of problem with that area. It doesn’t burn when I urinate and it doesn’t seem to be a yeast infection. Could this discomfort be from over-stimulation of the G-spot? Is it a normal reaction or should I worry that this could be a signal for something else?

Thanks,
G-Gal

Dear G-Gal,

Discomfort isn’t normal, especially when it lasts for hours after sex. The first thing to do is to rule out a bladder infection — not all UTIs have burning with urination, and they can present just like your other symptoms. Plus, it’s more common to develop a UTI when you’re having lots of sex. (Your gyno can also test you for STDs from your urine sample, just to rule that out.)

If your doc tells you that your urine is clear, your discomfort may be from vaginal chafing (ouch). Any part of your vagina — including the upper wall where the G-spot is targeted — can become sore from too much friction. Perhaps your marathon sex sessions are leaving you a bit dry, or there’s a bit too much attention paid to such a small area. Try adding lubricant to reduce any, shall we say, rug burn.

Or perhaps you’re just one of those people for whom G-spot attention doesn’t feel so good. He is, after all, pressing pretty hard in the direction of your urinary tract (which is just beyond the upper wall of the vagina). Try focusing on other spots that feel really good to you, like your clitoris or labia or lower wall of the vagina (known as the PS-spot to some), and give your G-spot a break to see if the discomfort abates. Such an attentive, giving boyfriend is sure to experiment with you to keep the sex fantastic — as well as pain-free.

Best,

Dr. Kate
Gyotalk

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. She also lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. Check out more of her advice and ask her a question at Gynotalk.com.


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15 Comments on "Dear Dr. Kate: My G-Spot Is Not an Ecstasy Button"


Johnny
3 years 1 month ago

^ Female sexual satisfaction doesn’t depend on orgasm, huh? My girl would strenuously disagree. Drives her nuts if she doesn’t get off.

Either way, MY sexual satisfaction depends on female orgasm.

yentapisshala
3 years 1 month ago

Female sexuality is a myth, it’s mostly mental. Evolutionary sense female orgasm is not necessary, other mammalian species females do not have orgasms. 43% females never achieve orgasms, 75% females do not achieve orgasm during coitus. 77% moaners say that they do it to validate their partners. Female satisfaction is not dependent on orgasm. Even female doctors do not understand female sexuality. For males erection, orgasm and ejaculation are necessary but for females that is not true, female sexuality is hard to understand for men.

chris
3 years 1 month ago

ALL WOMEN experience pleasure in their own unique ways. If you don’t know what YOU like, how the hell is your partner supposed to know? Also, some women are more sensitive in certain places than others. NOT ALL WOMEN can reach orgasm by g-spot alone. In fact, it might even be uncomfortable. The G-spot is very sensitive tissue and if you can’t get off with it, you’ll just end up hurting yourself! Sheesh, think people.

If you are a healthy individual feeling discomfort doing something during sex STOP DOING IT! Focus on other areas that will get you off and stop thinking about how you’re “supposed” to get off.

Also, internet is a bad place to look for advice in a lot of circumstances. Be wary of men disguised under a woman’s name trying to give sex advice. I’ve seen so much BAD advice from mary janes all over the internet! Just a cautious remark!

christina
3 years 6 months ago

Hi, I am newly married girl. I am very concern about my sex life. I had a pain everytime when the penis contract with inner side of my vagina, I think people called it as G-spot. only way to get the feeling or orgasm is by rubbing or using his fingers on my cclitoris. is that how other women get orgasm? pls help me in this to get lil solution. or am i trying so hard?

GraceE
4 years 6 months ago

I’m 40+ years old, married 15 years, and I don’t think I’ve EVER had a g-spot orgasm. I’ve tried: “letting go”, relaxing…all I’ve felt is the sensation that I have to pee and more recently, pain – to the point that I started crying and having to say “STOP”!

I’ve had my OB-GYN look into my vagina, and there isn’t anything wrong.

Recently, while stimulating my g-spot not only did I have to cry stop, the the pain after was TERRIBLE!! Waves of cramping for the next few hours that had me on the brink of tears. (BTW – I can suck up alot of pain, so being weenie is not an issue).

Does working through the pain work? I’m feeling like there is something wrong with me.

Thanks…anyone.