Comments on: Dear Em & Lo: He Says He Just Wants to Hook Up But Doesn’t Act That Way http://www.emandlo.com/2009/05/dear-em-lo-he-says-he-just-wants-to-hook-up-but-doesnt-act-that-way/ Your daily dose of advice, news, and stories about sex, love, and other important stuff. No yoga mat required. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:40:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: KHM http://www.emandlo.com/2009/05/dear-em-lo-he-says-he-just-wants-to-hook-up-but-doesnt-act-that-way/comment-page-1/#comment-2534 KHM Thu, 21 May 2009 21:39:45 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=3090#comment-2534 Earlier this week, I had been daydreaming about the freedom of my 20s. Now, I am reminded that with such freedom comes incredible immaturity! This pseudo-romantic college drama is far too juvenile upon which to waste "texting minutes". (Another reminder to self: so happy that my college experience was void of cell phones & the internet, or even voicemail ... when I guy left a message on the machine, the whole apartment heard it, too.) Although most of these commitment-inept, intimacy-challenged, post-pubescent males claim to "hate mind games" they continue to play them, don't they? So, totally let this guy go, mentally. Considering the predictability of his behaviour thus far, I feel quite sure that the moment you abandon ANY attachment to him, he will pursue you like the last salmon upstream Earlier this week, I had been daydreaming about the freedom of my 20s. Now, I am reminded that with such freedom comes incredible immaturity! This pseudo-romantic college drama is far too juvenile upon which to waste “texting minutes”. (Another reminder to self: so happy that my college experience was void of cell phones & the internet, or even voicemail … when I guy left a message on the machine, the whole apartment heard it, too.) Although most of these commitment-inept, intimacy-challenged, post-pubescent males claim to “hate mind games” they continue to play them, don’t they? So, totally let this guy go, mentally. Considering the predictability of his behaviour thus far, I feel quite sure that the moment you abandon ANY attachment to him, he will pursue you like the last salmon upstream

]]> By: emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/2009/05/dear-em-lo-he-says-he-just-wants-to-hook-up-but-doesnt-act-that-way/comment-page-1/#comment-2527 emandlo Thu, 21 May 2009 14:30:00 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=3090#comment-2527 We came up with the term intimacy lite, though we're sure we're not the only ones to have noticed this phenomenon. But do let us know if you find any other writing on the topic, we'd love to check it out! We came up with the term intimacy lite, though we’re sure we’re not the only ones to have noticed this phenomenon. But do let us know if you find any other writing on the topic, we’d love to check it out!

]]> By: Johnny http://www.emandlo.com/2009/05/dear-em-lo-he-says-he-just-wants-to-hook-up-but-doesnt-act-that-way/comment-page-1/#comment-2526 Johnny Thu, 21 May 2009 14:29:21 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=3090#comment-2526 Lame that he passed you the "intimacy lite" message through your friend instead of directly, but we can chalk that up to age - the younger the luvva (male or female), the less the tact. Yeah, I agree with Em & Lo though. Speaking as a sampler myself, you can go along for the ride, or you can bail out, but you can't corner him into being your boyfriend. You'll blow it that way. He'll bolt. Lame that he passed you the “intimacy lite” message through your friend instead of directly, but we can chalk that up to age – the younger the luvva (male or female), the less the tact.

Yeah, I agree with Em & Lo though. Speaking as a sampler myself, you can go along for the ride, or you can bail out, but you can’t corner him into being your boyfriend. You’ll blow it that way. He’ll bolt.

]]> By: Kelly http://www.emandlo.com/2009/05/dear-em-lo-he-says-he-just-wants-to-hook-up-but-doesnt-act-that-way/comment-page-1/#comment-2525 Kelly Thu, 21 May 2009 14:16:29 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=3090#comment-2525 This "intimacy lite" is not something I have ever thought of before, but it seems like what I might be going through at the moment, too. Em and Lo, is the concept an original idea? If not, is there anywhere I could find alternate perspectives on it? This “intimacy lite” is not something I have ever thought of before, but it seems like what I might be going through at the moment, too. Em and Lo, is the concept an original idea? If not, is there anywhere I could find alternate perspectives on it?

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