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photo by Jo_JakemanAdvice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious?
Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid anything that could sound even remotely homosexual. Not even a metro guy will tell his buddies how much he enjoyed the ass-play he got last night. This makes it hard to gauge how many butt-buffs there really are out there, but for me I can easily say no. No curiosity, no secret enjoyment. I’m probably in the minority here, but to me it’s sort of like a stray finger up the nose while making out: not terrible, but not particularly exciting either — just off-target.
Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I really think this has to do with the guy’s own level of homophobia. If the guy is open-minded and comfortable in his masculinity, then it’s just something else to try in the bedroom. However, I personally know a few guys who are otherwise pretty sexually adventurous, but who feel that any attempted ass play from their partners is a deal-breaker. Of course, these are the same guys who still think it’s funny to make “fag” jokes about each other in public. I think, for guys like this, asking for some anal attention would be too big of a threat to their warped sense of masculinity.
Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Let’s face it: The prostate is the prostate. Your nerve endings don’t care whether you like to have sex with boys or girls; when something feels good, it feels good. It’s possible that even ten years ago I would have answered differently, but twenty-first century porn has changed my mind: Sites like Seancody.com and BrokeStraightBoys.com, where supposedly straight men have sex with other men, are wildly successful. And I do think that at least some of these porn actors are straight, or at least straighter than they are gay. So this makes me think that there has to be something intriguing enough to them about the idea to overcome what’s left of the taboo. And this is with other men! So if very experimental straight men are willing to let other men explore their bums, then yes, I suspect that your average straight man is definitely interested in having his female partner explore his bum — even if he won’t admit it.
Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Gay Engaged Guy is Joel Derfner, author of Swish. To ask the guys your own question, click here.
October 26th, 2011 at 9:00 am
I just love bouncing up and down with pillows stuffed under my arse. Best scream out orgasms I have – can get out of breath tho
October 26th, 2011 at 9:32 am
There fantastic anal orgasms are very good for health of prostate. Even elderly men without boners can enjoy them
October 26th, 2011 at 3:40 pm
Most guys love a little back-door attention! Check out my article on TOOTIT.com on how to introduce this in the bedroom, even if your guy is hesitant: http://tootit.com/2011/10/taking-anal-play-like-a-champ/
Thanks!
January 16th, 2012 at 9:45 pm
More straight guys than admit it crave to have their anuses stimulated and penetrated. The stereotype that male anal eroticism equals homosexuality is sexist, homophobic, and entirely false. Unfortunately, it persists among women as well as men, making it difficult for many men to fulfill a deep, persistent desire.
Fortunately, there are signs of change. Consider the massive quantitites of porn on the internet having to do with strap-on dildos and analingus, with women giving it to men. And all the books–both how-to sex guides and erotic novels–just do a keyword search on Google Books if you don’t believe me. And all the anal toys marketed for male use, from butt plugs to prostate massagers (look up the Tantus Glide) and vibrators.
I am a straight man who craves anal gratification. I get it from my wife, who loves to bend me over and lick and penetrate my anus with a well-lubricated finger. Penetration itself is mind-blowingly pleasurable, and the stimulation of my prostate leads to the most powerful orgasms ever. Best of all is the sense of role reversal and being receptive and submissive. I have never been taken by a woman wearing a strap-on, but I hope to be one day.
January 18th, 2012 at 3:26 am
I love when my wife uses are strapon on me she.really gives.it.to me we both enjoy it and we have done this for 2 years are so its great to have role reversal she loves to pound me
January 22nd, 2012 at 9:39 am
Iv played with my tail end for most of my life and its a great aid to masturbation. My new wife asked me if she could play with my bottom and I was shocked at how good it felt. Im not gay but can understand why both sexes like a little back door action.
January 28th, 2012 at 3:18 pm
I’m a gay man and a clinician. I love having my ass pounded, or pounding my man’s hole. What’s fascinates me is the number of straight guys I’m seeing who are exploring ass play, prostate exploration and getting pegged by their girlfriends and wives. It’s also been pretty cool to hear how man straight boys are asking their gay male friends for advice on how to open their holes!