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Wise Guys: Do Most Straight Guys Secretly Love Bum Play?

Tue, May 5, 2009

Advice, Wise Guys

butt_statue_bum1photo by Jo_Jakeman

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious?

Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid anything that could sound even remotely homosexual. Not even a metro guy will tell his buddies how much he enjoyed the ass-play he got last night. This makes it hard to gauge how many butt-buffs there really are out there, but for me I can easily say no. No curiosity, no secret enjoyment. I’m probably in the minority here, but to me it’s sort of like a stray finger up the nose while making out: not terrible, but not particularly exciting either — just off-target.

Straight Married Guy (Jamie):
I really think this has to do with the guy’s own level of homophobia.¬† If the guy is open-minded and comfortable in his masculinity, then it’s just something else to try in the bedroom.¬† However, I personally know a few guys who are otherwise pretty sexually adventurous, but who feel that any attempted ass play from their partners is a deal-breaker.¬† Of course, these are the same guys who still think it’s funny to make “fag” jokes about each other in public.¬† I think, for guys like this, asking for some anal attention would be too big of a threat to their warped sense of masculinity.

Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Let’s face it: The prostate is the prostate.¬† Your nerve endings don’t care whether you like to have sex with boys or girls; when something feels good, it feels good.¬† It’s possible that even ten years ago I would have answered differently, but twenty-first century porn has changed my mind: Sites like Seancody.com and BrokeStraightBoys.com, where supposedly straight men have sex with other men, are wildly successful. And I do think that at least some of these porn actors are straight, or at least straighter than they are gay. So this makes me think that there has to be something intriguing enough to them about the idea to overcome what’s left of the taboo. And this is with other men! So if very experimental straight men are willing to let other men explore their bums, then yes, I suspect that your average straight man is definitely interested in having his female partner explore his bum — even if he won’t admit it.

Our ‚Äúwise guys‚ÄĚ are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week‚Äôs Gay Engaged Guy is Joel Derfner, author of Swish. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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73 Responses to “Wise Guys: Do Most Straight Guys Secretly Love Bum Play?”

  1. Dave W Says:

    I’ve personally learned many life lessons from the plotlines of my favorite porn websites.

  2. Nick Says:

    I think it’s personal taste.
    some people like ass play, some like bondage, some like roll play.

    sometimes people are too homophobic to try, some just know it’s not for them, and others are willing to try it before deciding.

  3. amanda Says:

    My husband (who im seperated from, not legally, he just walked out) asked me on many occasions for booty play. I think he’s gay, on the downlow, or/and bi-sexual. I feel in my heart that he is. He has done and said a lot of things in the past that has made me question his sexuality. I’ve spoken to many of my straight male friends and they believe he is gay also. I just don’t think its normal for a straight man to want the type of things he has asked me to do to him. Including booty play. That is just how I feel.

  4. Steve Says:

    Secretly? This isn’t a big secret, and it is sad if a guy can’t be open about it. I’m surprised people make a big deal of of this.

    Enjoying a finger or toy in your butt doesn’t mean you’re gay, it means you’re adventurous.

    P.S. It’s 2009.

  5. Stephanie Says:

    My bf loves booty play. He might not tell all his friends about it, but in the privacy of our bedroom, he asks for it.

  6. Sarah Says:

    If it feels good, It feels good. I know a guy that loves it and I know another guy that would not even dare sample that.

  7. Shasta Says:

    You Guy Friends aren’t helping me here.

    I initially agree with GayEngagedDude. Prostate is the Prostate. I introduced a little outer rim play to my boyfriend of 13 months and he loved it. He never seemed Gay to me.

    Howevva, Straight Single claims he doesn’t like it, Straight Married completely dodged the subject and Amanda’s guy who liked it turned out to be Gay.

    So which is it?

  8. Slartibartfast Says:

    Hmmm… It’s beginning to look as though another difference between men and women has been revealed. While it may be a long-established and widely known fact that all women enjoy the same things in the precisely the same ways, early evidence suggests that not all men like exactly the same thing. Curious. A biological population with individual behavioral variation. Who’d-a-thunk-it?

    I vaguely remember reading an advice columnist (possibly Dan Savage) who opined that gay or straight was revealed by *who* someone chooses as a playmate rather than *which* activities are selected. At the time, I thought that seemed pretty reasonable. Still do.

  9. emandlo Says:

    Well put, Slartibart (and Dan Savage!). We agree: nerve endings aren’t straight or gay, and acts aren’t straight or gay, either. We also agree that different men and women enjoy different things in bed. This question was a little tongue-in-cheek, we admit. We do tend to harp on this topic a bit because we think it’s kind of a bummer (heh) that this act could be enjoyable to a lot of men if they weren’t so anal (sorry) about its implications. But it’s also true that plenty of men are totally relaxed about the topic but just plain don’t like it, and that’s fine. We just think you should dislike it for the right reasons. :-)

  10. Elizabeth Says:

    shasta – my straight boyfriend likes bum play… Emandlo are right … nerve endings are nerve endings. Some boys won’t play because they are afraid it’ll make them homosexual…but those aren’t fun boys anyway. :)

  11. missE Says:

    it’s a turn off for me to be with a man who is so opposed to something that could potentially feel nice because he thinks it is a “homosexual” action. i just want to say to those homophobe guys, “hey, gay men give each other head, too. does that mean you’re gay if you like a little oral?” come on, people, grow up. yep, nerve endings are nerve endings are nerve endings and it something feels nice, why should it ever be shunned? my current boyfriend is very sexual, very open, and very masculine. in our relationship, everything is about feeling good. if it feels nice, it feels nice. there is no shame in enjoying the pleasures that our bodies can give us. sex is a gift, our bodies and orgasms are gifts to enjoy ourselves and to share with our lovers.

  12. missE Says:

    my experience…current boyfriend enjoys it and feels no shame in admitting it or asking for it, only if i’m comfortable. bum play is just another tool in the pleasure toolbox : ) . last 2 boyfriends liked a little bit of attention to the bum but would barely admit it.

  13. carlos sas Says:

    i found very erotic wend my gf rim my bum i don’t find anything wrong whit that, i love to rim her bum for long time and make me crazy

  14. Shasta Says:

    All good points. And I’m a huge Dan Savage fan.
    Thx.

  15. Winston Says:

    I like bum play strap it on girls

  16. Lisa Says:

    I’m 45…divorced (for 2nd time) different man. Had lots of “encounters sexually in my life. My last lover…..who had overtones of a “homophobe” , asked me to rim play him w/my toy…another time with my tounge…another time w/my finger…..could tell he loved it. Guess ur never too old to learn!!! I won’t hesitate to go though,,,,but gently with my next lover. I won’t ask or wait to be asked. I will just wait till the time is right and if it’s not for him…leave it alone…but I wonder how many men have wanted it but are too afraid to ask???

  17. sean Says:

    i guess its 50 50 maybe experienced it from my wife and really creates pleasure.

  18. ms. mott Says:

    I have had my share of men who have phobia. And my experience is that they have ragged on the next man about that is gay. But I love to fingered that azz. I like to be able to assit in this and no I don’t think they where gay.
    But just know someting you need to do is try it. Only if he is game.

  19. straight man 30yo Says:

    I like it licked but am still no interested in penitration, just preferance….oh yea, i tell everyone…well good friends hbow much fun it is. if you havent tried it you should boys and girls

  20. really confused Says:

    i just dont get it. does it make you get there?? why does it feel good? im a girl and hate having anything put in my ass. it just doesnt feel right. so why do men enjoy it? details

  21. luke Says:

    i think ass play is for everybody! I luv when my women touches or licks my ass! It feels so fuckin good! i luv it! but not gay!

  22. Jeffery Says:

    Im only 19 but had a few experiences. Ive had 2 girls finger my ass and 1 rim. Im never afraid to try new things and admit trying it. I do really enjoy a girl fingering my ass, but didnt enjoy the rimming tbh.Im 100% straight and i think if you like it or not it doesnt actually tell anything about the sexuality of the guy. my ex actually wanted to wear a strap on and fuck me up the bum, does that mean shes a lesbian? not at all…well its the same with guys. Your gay if you think a man is hot and you think a hench body and a six pac is sexually attractive…not if you want a GIRL to do stuff to your g spot…for sureee

  23. Madamoiselle L Says:

    Just an aside to the dudes who say “no way!” Especially if you haven’t really explored it (meaning the first 3 times she tried to touch your bung hole you jumped up like a spider bit ya, and screamed like a woman) Did you expect your woman to “love” anal sex the first time you gave it to HER? Did she? Or was it something she found out after some experimenting and learning she either liked or didn’t like? (I can pretty much guarantee it, she DIDN’T like it the first few times….)

    I don’t care if a man has fully investigated the genre and really doesn’t care for it, but for a lot of men it seems to be a knee jerk reaction. “My ass? No way!”

    My concern is anyone leaving out a part of their sexual experience which they REALLY might like or LOVE because of some prejudice or fear.

    Only because I care.

  24. Loves it Says:

    My girlfriend and I use a strap on a few times a month and I have absolutely ZERO hang ups over it. She is the hottest woman I have ever ever dated and we are madly in love. No confussion here. Its simple for me..I love women and the mutual vulnerability we share with each other leads to the most passionate…deep…soul baring sex I have ever and will ever encounter.

    I AM BLESSED WITH THIS GIRL!

    Get real guys and let go!

    Ohh and by the way…the orgasm I experience when we do have mutual anal sex is MINDBENDING…straight insanity!

  25. Stevie G Says:

    yeah. Good points. I think if you’re doing it with a girl and you refuse to have a nother dude do it to you, it pretty obvious that you just have a fetish for females doing that. So I think you’re not gay. But also remember we all might get certain urges but you actually aren’t born straight or gay. It’s sometihng you usually develop when you’re growing up. Just like how when boys are young they aren’t interested in girls but then they get in high school and they flirt and have sex with all the cheerleader and female flag twirlers.

  26. Nick Says:

    Weither or not a male who likes recieving anul pleasure is gay or streight is not the issue. It is the body itself reacting to what is being done to it. when a person is recieving anul pleasure in what ever form the brain recieves a sort if signal from the anul walls which have super sensative nerves, along with the same stimulation sent to the brain by the prostate. the brain then decides if this is a good or bad stimulation which in turn can be influenced by “mind over matter.” -if the perspn does not believe they will enjoy it from the start then most likely they will convince themselves of that. but if a person is open minded enough to try while in a state of unbiest opinion then the possability of enjoyment is greater.- … anyway… the nurves send a signal to the brain and the brain decides weither this is a good of bad stumilation. i’m not a professional on the subject but in my opinion; (as a man who has experienced anul sex. who is gay) it is the indivituals own comfort level and open mindedness that can truely allow them to decide if anul stumilation feels good to them or not. as well as their own sence of curiosity. .. … if you haven’t experienced anul stumilation then you have no right to give your opinion on weighter it is right or wrong. you can give your opinion on the IDEAH of anul stumilation, but don’t try to convince someone of it is right or wrong if you have no personal experience. hypocritical opinion is the worst kind of opinion. basically all i’m saying here is, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it for yourself.” if you find out that you enjoy it that’s great and if you find out that you don’t enjoy it that’s fine too. (AND if you don;t like this subject matter them just click the “X” at the top right corner of your screne and pretend that you’ve never read this. lol.)

  27. Riotact666 Says:

    I think that all men and women should at least try some anal play. If a man is willing to let a woman play with his butt, the woman should not be opposed to allowing him to penetrate her anus.

  28. Bettyboo Says:

    Riotact666 – I love anal, so this isn’t a personal complaint, just spotting an inequality on your argument, a finger in his doesn’t equal a cock in hers.. ;0) gotta be even if you’re gonna argue a tit for tat arrangement ;0)

  29. tryanythingonce99 Says:

    any man reading this if you have never had your prostate milked while getting oral i feel sorry for you!! most intense male orgasm there is and easy to learn for females, period!!I consider myself an average man. If you do your research you will find many men enjoy this. Woman do too for diff reasons. you have to build up the trust factor with someone you know will not judge no matter how they feel about it.and dont just start out stuffing things in there, step by step. women this is your time to hold the reigns and feel the power your lover feels. its about role reversal not about homosexuality.if for nothing else anything kinky sex acts i want to perform on my gf she should have option to do to me.

  30. Troy Says:

    Hello everyone,

    I realize this is an old thread but I wanted to make a comment. I am a straight man and I love ass play! There I said it. I love it in all its forms. I love giving and receiving. I did not always know I enjoyed it until late in life. I had a girl that licked me there and at first it freaked me out. I knew physically it felt incredible, mentally I was confused. I like a lot of guys thought it must mean I’m gay if I like that, obviously not true. I learned to enjoy it. I have had everything back there from toys to tongues. I have actually been lucky enough to find 3 women that enjoyed the experience as well. All 3 have used a strap on to penetrate me. The feeling of being the “submissive” person is incredible when done with the right woman. It takes a lot of trust to let your woman penetrate you. I love seeing a woman take on a new role and new power. That is an erotic and arousing and exciting sight. I also figured I can’t ask her to do something I’m not willing to do. I’m so gad I tried it. Men who want extra pleasure should try it. I suspect there are alot more men that do but don’t talk about it. I’m glad you had/have this thread, it lets me know I’m not alone in this pleasure. Enjoy everyone!

  31. Eli Says:

    I’m straight (as in sexually and emotionally attracted to women), but thoroughly enjoy when a man fucks me. The feelings ti provides is amazing–something that a woman cannot do (even with a strap-on).

  32. Handyman Says:

    I own an Aneros prostate masssager. I use it when masturbating and while having sex with my wife. The orgasms are mind blowing. I am not gay, I love women and my wife. The only thing that makes you gay is if you are attracted to men.

  33. hartbroken Says:

    My husband who claims to be straight, perhaps bi has been with men, woman & trannys.. Ive used a strap on with him and i used to enjoy it… Im not so sure these days about his sexuality and it kills me.. seems like the porn he watches is all geared anally given from all of the above stated.. I understand nerve endings being nerve endings and all, but i once thought it was the fact that I was giving him this pleasure was what was exciting him most, but when he chooses to anally stimulate while masturbating it makes me feel like all he wants is dick, no matter where hes gettin from.. Ive also indulged him in his fantasy to dress up in lingerie and be “taken”…. I am so lost.. I dont have a normal sexual desire myself, which is what i think made me okay with his preferences.. but i just dont know.. im feeling so hurt and lost and i know this isnt like a venting sight but i just had to get it out….

  34. Johnny Says:

    PERHAPS bi? Miss, your husband is most definitely bi.

    So there’s your answer to that. Now the question is how you handle it. Whether or not you can deal with it is an entirely personal thing.

    Good luck.

  35. WD Says:

    I’m a straight married man and I am crazy for anal play. I wouldn’t have married my wife if she weren’t into playing with my ass. The physical pleasure is mind-blowing, and the emotional experience is extremely gratifying. Anal play has nothing to do with sexual orientation–the notion that it does is an unfortunate myth.
    Any man who has never been rimmed or anally fingered is missing out BIG TIME. I suggest using an enema, washing well, and bending over for your girlfriend. It’s wonderful having your anus licked and then penetrated with a finger or a toy, using lots of KY Jelly. Not only does it feel great doing it, the orgasms (which usually require simultaneous masturbation or oral sex) are INCREDIBLE!

  36. Gari D. Says:

    Never had that experience till I had an affair with a lesbian who wanted to experiment. She slowly lubed & entered me in such an erotic manner it blew my mind. I’m pretty straight when it comes to the man/women dance, but I have to tell you, I would love to meet a straight women who was into ass play as this women was. She fingered me for about 20 minutes till I cum as she masturbated me. I will never, ever, go back to mission/doggy as “the best options” only…
    Any women who enjoys this type of sexuality is numero uno on my list. My ass is yours!

  37. Confused. Says:

    Okay. So here’s the thing…
    I have never had a guy ask about this until now..
    my boyfriend is into a lot of the same things as me, like hitting and choking and what not. I am very open sexually so I was happy to oblige this request of his.. however.. I am not sure how I feel about it. I mean I get that he likes it, but at the same time, he wanted to suck his own fingers.. the problem I have is that logically I am not okay with this for sanitary reasons. I masturbate and sometimes use a finger in my ass, but I HAVE to wash my hand and finger thoroughly after. So I feel like I can’t get past some of these hang-ups of mine. And I worry because I am thinking, is he going to want this every time I give him a blow job? I just keep thinking about it, and don’t know if I am into it. I realize that in a relationship you do things that you may not be completely fond of to please the other person, but it worries me I keep thinking about this. Any thoughts would be helpful…

  38. Gari D Says:

    Confused…

    I can tell you after a long life of very interesting and heated sexual encounters…cleanliness comes first.

    Our bodies beautiful as some may be carry various harmful entities that in their customary environment are just fine. Bringing them as they say “into the light of day” is another thing altogether. Before entering into any heated, sexual act, number one for anyone…

    Take a thorough shower, even porn stars know the importance of this simple, delightful, act.

    But, a shower does not clean a persons rectum, unless extreme effort is made prior to the sexual activity. Again, you’ll find this within the higher end sex industry who know full well the importance of such wisdom.

    Bottom line (pun intended) DO NOT suck anyone’s finger that has been in a rectum, it’s asking for trouble in about 24 hours.

    Do NOT have your finger in your ass and then masturbate! You transfer everything to your vagina, his mouth, your insides, and again a very dangerous infection can take place.

    Smart sex, is recognizing reality. Take a class on microbiology and not unlike getting your fist DUI, will your perspective change for the good & his too.

    Take the proper precautions and have at it,

    And live to have at it another day!

  39. Loves it too Says:

    So my boyfriend introduced my to my ass about three months ago. I had no idea it was fucking awesome. But it is. It has many nerve endings. It likes being licked, it likes being stroked, it likes being fucked. That’s just how it is (though so far we can’t manage anal sex because he’s a big boy and we’re using training toys to try to make room without pain.)

    He, I knew going into this relationship, had a fantasy for strap-ons. Which I thought was odd but I’m experimental and if he liked it and I didn’t HATE it? I’d do it occasionally. Why not? Also I’m a dom and he’s a sub and it’s a good way to put him in his place sometimes. But I admit, I was curious why he liked it and he said he’d show me if I asked, and he did and it was /awesome/.

    He is not gay, not even close. Doesn’t find men remotely attractive. But he likes his ass, and mine, and I’m so glad the ass has become a part of our lives!

    (also, showering YES definitely if tongues are going back there. If just hands, meh, I just wash up after. Also it’s good if I have him in the shower to use a bit of soap and two fingers to clean outside AND in. I feel more hygeneic that way, and hey. It feels good.)

  40. Omg Says:

    Have to say I think anal sex is an incredibly disrespectful thing for a man to ask a woman he cares about to do. The fact that the anal area does not ¬†lubricate; anal tissue easily tears; regular anal penetration can loosen the anal hole so much, that the woman might end up ¬†having to wear colostomy pants; you can’t go for anus to vagina because it will – I reiterate – WILL lead to bacterial infection, and it has to be final sexual act during sexual intercourse because of bacteria and concerns about hygiene. Shouldn’t all that be enough set alarm bells going. Apparently, the general consesus is some of the main reasons men like anal sex is ¬†because the anus hole is tight, it’s taboo and it’s it makes the man feel dominate. What about the women? I’m sure some may like it but most probably do it because they don’t want lose their man.¬†
    ¬†And what happens when the poor woman’s anal hole becomes too loose for the man liking due to all that penis penetration. What’s he going to do then to ratchet up his sexual kicks? Stick the penis up her nostril or in¬†her ear? I’d love to know how many heterosexual men would let their girlfriends regularly stick a used dildo up their anus hole. ¬†For crying out loud. Step away from the porn sites for a bit ¬†you’re obviously becoming too desensitized

       

  41. Omg Says:

    Here are just a five ¬†reasons why you shouldn’t take it up the arse. And no I’m not homophopbic or overly sexually conservative. I just have respect for people I love and do not want to give then a serious medical condition ¬†

    1. The actual muscles responsible for holding the rectum in place are surprisingly NOT that strong, these muscles will progressively weaken over time regardless of if anal sex happens but anal sex will SPEED up this process.

    2. There is a medical condition known as rectal prolapse (or pink sock to some) that is caused directly from the act of anal sex, it actually tears the inner rectal walls of the rectum and cause them to become weaker, over time its likely that they will become so damaged that it will not be able to hold itself in and the walls of your rectal path will actually collapse in on itself protruding OUTSIDE the body resembling the appearance and size of a pink sock.

    3. There is also a risk of causing small tears to the inner rectal walls which can be highly hazerdous and potenially quite dangerous, unlike the vagina, the anus is not lubricated and therefore friction can be a problem. You need to be really careful with that area because small tears in there although small can still easily become infected. All it takes is a little fecal matter to seep into the wounds and you could have yourself a SERIOUS infection.

    4. There is a risk of anal leakage, through use over time. The anal muscles will weaken and your bowls will not be able to hold thereselves in. 

    5. .Once weakened, you will have no choice but to go forward for surgery to smallen the gape. 

    6. Continues acts of anal could also than go on to causing prolapse

    7.It also heightens the chances of anal cancer.

    And before you comment please note, I am  not homophobic, or overly sexually conservative. I just have respect for people I love and do not want to give them a serious medical condition, or kill them.

  42. Bill Curtis Says:

    I am 81 years old and gay, but I have never liked anal penetration with a penis or a toy. I love being rimmed and gentle fingering of my ass, however. The notion that all gay men like to be fucked is just as inaccurate as saying that no straight guy would want any ass play.

    Jeez, guys, get over it. Supposedly young people are much more comfortable about homosexuality, but God forbid if anyone suggests that a straight guy might be gay. Relax and enjoy yourselves and stop being so obsessed with how gay you might be perceived.

    Enjoying some ass play is neither gay nor straight. It’s like changing in the locker room – you don’t need to act like little girls when showering with your clothes on for fear another might might see your penis, and therefore, GOD FORBID, you are suddenly gay.

  43. Kris Says:

    Omg obviously wrote a lot of paranoid bullshit. If you don’t do extreme things and always use lube, you’ll be perfectly fine.
    And for the topic: it’s pretty simple, butt is butt, it’s a universal body part and not just a female attribute. so it’s perfectly normal if some boys like it the way we girls like it.

  44. mimma Says:

    OMG, you ARE a homophobe. If people didn’t do things that had risks associated with them, we wouldn’t do anything. get off your high horse and enjoy life. You only live once.

  45. learning to open up Says:

    I have always enjoyed ass play but never was comfortable enough to ask for it or tell anyone guess i was a little homophobic an nieve but now my wife knows she found out in all the wrong ways but says she accepts it it just pissed her off i didnt tell her. Now i want to completely open up to her and experiment further because it is an incredible feeling. Im not gay did question it for a few years but am far from it. but to all those who try to brainwash us into beliving for what ever reason that this sort of thing is wrong shame on you its because of the standards you people set forth that anyone like me is morally wrong and make us feel a shamed of ourselves until it finally comes out and we realize its not that big a deal. i am so pissed at myself now for being ashamed of it. more power to those who enjoy it be open be honest if your partner decides they dont like dont push they may still experiment with you and maybe just maybe itll change their mind while they are blowing yours.

    But to anyone else dont judge it isnt fair maybe someone thinks your morally wrong for car you drive or the house you live in.

    live peacefully live happy and enjoy life it only happens once.

  46. Mark canter Says:

    The anal area is very sensitive and attention to it is very enjoyable.But because it considered to be gay to enjoy this area it’s prohibitive… It’s only geography,forget the stigma and enjoy it.

  47. Thad Says:

    Okay, let me say the whole “I’m straight, 31, married, have kids and have no gay impulses at all” thing up front. Not interested in it, don’t want a boyfriend, nothing like that.

    But my roommate in grad school was a very closeted gay who made moves on me when he got drunk. One night we got wasted together and I finally said “sure” to his suggestion, figuring “hell why not?”

    It was just one time and never repeated again with him or any other guy. But ladies and gentlemen, I just want to say WOW. We didn’t f*ck, but I got the single BEST blowjob of my life that included two fingers up the ass with some pretty vigorous action leading up to and during the orgasm. It was a complete game changing moment in my sexual life and since then I LOVE assplay! LOVE! IT! I don’t care how “gay” it is, I put a toy up in there during sex and have incredible orgasms. My wife brings me to the edge orally then takes me over it with nothing but a dildo across the prostate. Again, WOW!

    So if you think it’s gay or are too uptight to try it, I really don’t care. My orgasms are better than yours, so there! :P lol

  48. Italiand0m Says:

    all i can say is wow… my girl loves it. it actually gets her more off doing it.she wants to fuck it bad. and tonight im going to let her. emotions have a lot to do with this. cause not just anyone i would let and im 100% straight

  49. max Says:

    I’m an openly gay guy with mostly gay friends. My gay friends don’t like the three or four straight male friends i hang out with quite regularly (and these guys kinda know each other but they’re not friends with each other – it’s always one on one time). They’re always up for getting sucked off and two times out of three THEY will initiate penetrative anal sex where they are the recipient. None of them are interested in touching or sucking anything and I’m absolutely certain that I’m the only guy these guys play with – so whether that makes me an enabler to their bi-sexual side or just a greedy guy with a personal secret stable I don’t know. Personally, all my friends are awesome and amazing sex is just another way that we connect/bond, even if it is a secret..! It’s just a good job none of them have ever turned up when one of the others stays over…!! (yet..)

  50. max Says:

    just to add to the above,
    they get what they want, I get what I want and the world hasn’t ended yet :-)


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