Comments on: Wise Guys: What’s the Big Deal About BJs?

By: tboz

tboz — Wed, 27 Apr 2011 00:18:22 +0000

I do not have a strong background with datin tons of different people. I was married 2 years into college and remained married for a while. My exhusband and I explored oral sex a few times but just felt that it was not for us. I am remarried and my husband says in one breath that oral sex is not a big issue but in the next breath he holds it over
head, that I have not performed it on him yet. I honestly am a woman that can take it or leave it. He states that it proves other things such as me not putting limitations on our marriage. He states that this act shows him that I will do anything for him.I beg to differ. How does me giving him a bj prove that. I have had an exboyriend that performed oral sex on me in all aspects leaving nothing to the imagination. That didn’t prove anything to me. i just wondered how many other women he’d done this with. i still left him when he did something stupis in the relationship

By: Caris

Caris — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 14:31:25 +0000

I’m 18 and gave head on my boyfriend a few days ago, we’d just spent the best part of two hours making out and i was very turned on, as was he. Prior to seeing him i was contemplating going down on him, but was obviously nervous, but when it came to it he didn’t stop me and i just went for it. He loved it and it was the best feeling in the world to see him enjoying it so much he couldn’t even talk, i felt his hands grab the bed and it was a massive turn on. Nothing frightened at all, i was comfortable and i think it comes down to how much you care about the person, if they mean nothing to you then it might be awkward, but for me it was really intimate and laid back and i enjoyed it. Nothing to be afraid of, its like my body took over and everything in me wanted to, i can’t wait to be that close with him again, we felt high for hours afterwards, just amazing!

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 12:23:52 +0000

From a man’s point of view…
First off..it feels good. Also just the thought that you love your man enough to put his penis into your mouth is just the beginning. I mean, it’s obviously the most intimate part of his body, so right there that’s a huge turn on for most guys. Some guys dont care for it or they are not really into it. Which is fine. There are plenty of other ways to show effection. I mean…some people are turned on by sucking on toes…or fingers. Everyone is different.
The feeling is like a snowball effect. A woman is turned on by his man…so she goes down on him. A man is turned on because his woman is going down on him. The woman is turned on because his man is turned on, and the man gets turned on by that turn on…etc etc etc. You get the point.
I dated one girl that refused to perform oral sex on me, she thought it was gross. But she had never done it before. It’s like those people that wont eat sushi cause they think that it’s gross to eat raw fish. Get educated people…it’s fairly shallow and small minded to judge anything that you have yet to experience.
I think the more appropriate question is…how far do you take oral sex? If you have to ask what I mean…then you probably shouldnt know anyhow.

By: Alexandria

Alexandria — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:16:22 +0000

Strangely enough, me and my boyfriend both love performing oral sex… and not recieving it *thud*. This leads to a lot of awkwardness. Nothing like not being able to do something you really enjoy without turning off the other person. It’s not we can’t appreciate the theory… It’s just that physically, it’s not our cup of tea. Weird…

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Tue, 26 May 2009 05:26:24 +0000

gotcha slartibart… I misunderstood the first time.

By: cornell_guy

cornell_guy — Tue, 26 May 2009 00:18:42 +0000

Checked back in after a day or so to see what was going on. The woman who commented a guy had better seek a new g/f if she wasn’t going down on him is 100% right. A girl I was with before I married my wife was an absolute she-devil who thrived on a high-protein diet. I’ve spent my entire life wishing my wife was of the same mind set. It’s not that she won’t, but she mandates I wear one of those non-lubed, non-reservoir tipped condoms, and it’s just not the same.

As for men who don’t like going down there, What are you afraid of? For my part, though, I don’t like women who shave. I think that furry little thing is the sexiest sight on earth. I like when women use some floral fragrance shampoo in the pre-session shower. When I get down there, it’s like entering a veritable “garden of delight.”

By: LoveIt

LoveIt — Mon, 25 May 2009 22:50:57 +0000

I love giving my husband head. Always have, always will. I take every opportunity I can to do that. I don’t feel as if it is degrading. I truly enjoy, and crave it. I can get off while getting him off with only performing the act on him (look ma, no hands!). We all have our feelings, beliefs, and preferences. I love regular intercourse as well, but when it comes to oral, I would prefer to give than receive (and yes, he is quite skilled). It is as simple as that. I love every part of my man, c*ck and all.

By: Slartibartfast

Slartibartfast — Mon, 25 May 2009 17:06:18 +0000

Elizabeth, I fully believe that everyone’s been honest about it, as far as their enjoyment. Intellectually, I know that it’s absolutely possible. Still, there seems to be some portion of me that feels (as missE put it) a measure of degradation. It’s not entirely rational, and I’m the first to admit it, but I know that oral performed on me feels fantastic while also making me feel a bit awkward and slightly guilty. Enough so that, while it’s nothing I’ve ever made an issue of, it’s very seldom that I get off from it. And, yes, I absolutely love performing oral on women (and can’t quite relate to guys who say they don’t).

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 25 May 2009 09:19:50 +0000

You really can’t buy that a woman would enjoy providing oral sex to a man, Slartibart? I understand the distaste on the part of not doing that which you wouldn’t do… but, you (seem to) enjoy performing oral sex on a woman, why is it so difficult to believe that a woman would enjoy the opposite?

For me it’s the whole power thing… I like knowing that I, basically alone, am responsible for his pleasure. I fully disagree with the idea that BJs are a submissive act for a woman… and so does my guy!

By: Slartibartfast

Slartibartfast — Sun, 24 May 2009 20:05:11 +0000

As far as I know, I’ve never met missE but her description of her boyfriend’s attitude mirrors my own. I think part of my problem also comes from an egalitarian nature. I’m not comfortable with people doing to me that which I wouldn’t care to do myself. As a hetero male, I’ve never been enamored with the idea giving fellatio. Oral on a woman is an entirely different proposition and something I’m quite happy to provide. I’ve had girlfriends offer assurance that fellatio was something they actively enjoy, but there must be a part of me that can’t quite buy it.