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Advice: My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me

Wed, Jun 17, 2009

Advice, Dear Em & Lo

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Dear Em & Lo,
About six months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months and have recently met someone new. The other day the new boy and I were engaging in some hands-on action which led me to discover that he nowhere near measured up to my ex. The new boy was around 4-6″. My problem is that I’m really worried about having sex with him because my ex was over 8″. I feel really disappointed and I know that 8″ is a high bar that’s been set. Am I bad person or should I go looking for something more? Why can’t good-looking men come with the measurements of their penis tattooed onto their wrist or something? The problems and surprises that would solve..

Dear Sizeist,

We almost didn’t print your letter because of the emotional damage it might inflict on insecure men everywhere. It’s the secret fear that everyone — male and female — experiences at some point in their hook-up life: Am I being compared to their ex(es)? And if so, am I failing to measure up?

But on behalf of all the average-sized men out there, i.e. the vast majority of men, we think you should give Mr. 4-6″ a chance. It’s not like you’ve dated a string of 8″ men and have discovered that only a super-sized schlong can satisfy you. (In fact, you need to understand that, statistically speaking, 8 inches is freakishly long). No, you just had one great experience with one 8″ penis. And this is by no means a guarantee that sex with a 4-6″ penis will feel only 50-75% as great.

For a start, men with big swinging dicks can get lazy in the sack, assuming that size is the only thing that matters. They may also assume that intercourse is the only thing that matters — and we all know how few women climax from intercourse alone; remember, orgasm achieved through non-penile means still counts as sex! Not to mention, you may suddenly discover new penetration positions that you really enjoy — positions that perhaps were not so comfortable with a larger specimen. Oh, and don’t forget that, when it comes to size, most women agree that girth is a lot more important than length, since the majority of sensation is felt in the outer third of the vagina, thanks to the extensions of the clitoris, the g-spot, and the pelvic floor muscles around the lower part of the vaginal canal (and also since a lot of women don’t enjoy having their cervix rammed).

On a final note: Maybe he was nervous and not fully inflated, as it were. Basically, you have no idea what sex is going to be like with this man. So if you dig him (and we surely hope the handwork you exchanged means that you do), why not find out whether the motion of his ocean can get the job done?

Of course, we can’t discount the fact that you may simply be less attracted to him (or not attracted to him at all) now that you’ve scoped out his unit — you like what you like.  This doesn’t make you a bad person, though you are severely limiting your dating options — at least until your tattoo idea catches on. We suppose you could post a personal ad specifying that only 8″-penis-owners need reply, but something tells us that’s not exactly the way to find the next Boyfriend of the Year. Here’s a better idea: Why not just spend some quality time with an average-sized penis and see if the experience converts you?

Here for the little people,

Em & Lo

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716 Responses to “Advice: My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me”

  1. Joseph Says:

    haha Giantess, can I have your contact info? I like when a girl embarrasses me in the bedroom. For the record, I’m like 5 or so.

  2. Jian Says:

    Giantess, so now less than 3inch ? I’m about 4-4.5inch erected. To hear that coming from you, I hope there will be enough girls like you out there. But well When I do eventually have sex, I’ll make sure my partner knows how much i care for her pleasure and learn up skills, that can compensate for my small penis size. Positions, fingering, etc. Well giantess, would you get together with a guy like me , and actually think of spending your entire life with a 4inch hardworking dick?:)


  3. Jian Says:

    @Harper, I suggest you tlel him the truth, but put it in a good way. BUT ofcourse, do try to work things out first, give it a shot if you really LOVE him. Find ways to improve your sex life up to a point you can think of livign with him for the rest of your life. ALSO, a guy gotta accept and deal with whatever penis size he has, he could try penis enlargement exercises, but it’s not 100percent safe and doesn’t guarantee results, )or at least permanent results). Either ways, you can perform some PC muscle exercises for your vagina, to make it tighter. it’s all over the net. one i knwo of is somethign to do with the muscle that can stop the flow of your urine.

    cheers and all the best. and really, talk it out with him, tell him you love him too much that you’re willing to work thigns out. Coming from a guy, I’d rather know the truth and get hurt, than hearing lies and never know what I did wrong .

  4. unknow Says:

    Those r deep words Giantess. I use to be ashame of my penis I am about 5 and a.half. so for years I went without sex and it affected my emotions until I met a women like you. I know that I don’t have a large penis but she make me feel like I have a 8 inch penis. She do not criticize infact she always tell me how good I feel and she always want me inside of her. We just got married and had our first child together. I thank you Giantess because there is a lot of Men out here that is emotional stress because of there size and there is a very few woman’s like you and my wife.

  5. Juan Says:


    Your site is a mixed bag, sort of offering useful knowledge, and more often than not, reinforcing painful insecurities and complexes. I think you guys should identify an endeavor more useful to society than your current one, such as founding some sort of women’s center that helps the disadvantaged, or working in private practice.

    The issue is that your site is a sounding board for some of the dumbest and most cruel people in cyber land. You both are responsible for broadcasting these opinions, and the various psychological harms they cause to others. Consider your contribution to society a mixed one at best. I hope you, or some hapless intern of yours, checks these comments periodically. It’s easy to waive responsibility for how the general public comments on here. But you are responsible. Go forth, self-deluded blogger/wannabe experts.



  6. That_chick Says:

    Some guys with a smaller penis can eat girls out the best ways possible and they are also some of the funnest guys to be around and make the best companions because of their selflessness. My bf always looks for ways to satisify me and it is just amazing. Plus, it’s a big bonus when I’m going down on him b/c I can please him so much easier and longer w/o getting my jaw tired. Small penis guys rock :)

  7. john Says:

    why women here always saying that men with big dicks always lazy and not want to explore other things beside penetration??? you said size dont matters but what you said are contradictive…you all here generally judge men with big cocks are arrogant, cocky, jerks ..i have big size but i’m not lazy and i want to please women not just by my dick but with my tongue , hands, any body part i have….i hate to said this but women who said all guys with big dicks are jerks are same cruel as women who dont like men with small dicks……thats why i hate my big dicks, cause i think women HATE men with big dicks and always judge us BY OUR SIZE!!!!! ALL THESE POSTS MADE BY WOMEN IN THIS SITE PROVE ITS TRUE!!! F*CK IT

  8. joe Says:

    My erection is 4-4.5 inches long. Like some ladies have said I do put a girls needs above mine and will always eat a girl out as part of foreplay.

    That said I understand how there are women that do prefer a lerger penis. Nothing wrong with that either. :)

    A friend told me she doesn’t think my penis size is that bad but does prefer larger. I think that’s pretty honest of her to admit.

  9. dallas Says:

    The massive dick, for me, is overrated. Anything above 8 inches is much too painful and its true, some positions you just can’t do without getting your lunch scrambled and squealing in pain. Maybe some chicks dig it but I am not one of them.

    That said, length is definitely important, but so is girth. Some of the best sex I have ever had have been with men who were about 6 1/2 inches long and pretty thick. It was satisfying because he filled me up without being freakishly large. For me, a penis like that is the absolute ideal.

    It also comes down to how its used. I (unfortunately) dated someone once who loved to talk about how he had pleased his exes, and how large they told him he was. His penis ended up being about 5 inches and thin, and to top it all off, the sex was simply awful because he had no idea how to use it. His misuse was the worst part of it all. His thrusts were very fast and shallow; it felt like he was only using half of his penis. Terrible, just terrible.

    I guess it all comes down to preference, but then also to how you use your equipment. Let us have it boys!

  10. joe Says:

    @dallas I’m sure you’d be disappointed with mine since its just 4 inches.

    I do like your honesty though! :) . That lady friend I talked to also said her perfect size was 6 1/2 inches.

  11. Anjali Says:

    My ex husband had a big one and hurt me a lot. He bragged how lucky i was. After 18 miserable years of marriage, i met an old flame. Have been having most fantastic sex of my life. He is only 4.5 inches, but can go on for an hour. Gals, its the feelings which count. I come umpteen times and its just heaven. I am 47 and he 50. My ex can wave his flag no end, he is no match

  12. Joe Says:

    Anjall – Sounds encouraging! Mine is about 4.5″ also but I can’t go very long at all. I do however give oral as part of foreplay! :)

  13. Jer Says:

    I have an average size penis about 5 or so, and have never really had a gal complain much. I am in really good shape from the work I do, and can put woman in great positions easily! Also after I have a few drinks of Tequila I stay erect for a long time, sometimes hours! You would think it would do the opposite, but not for me. So I think having an average size penis, and good staying power seems to be the ticket for almost all of the women I have been with. Just my oppinion though! Also I love a few shots of Tequila to get the mood right, so it all works out!

  14. almorr Says:

    Interesting reading all the comments from women who like men with small penises, its not the size that counts, its what you do with it of course. When my girlfriend first saw my erect penis she thought it was a bit too large, she measured it with a tape measure as 9″ long by just over 5.5″ circumference. I said that’s not the way you measure a penis, you counted the balls too, so take off 2″ making it 7″, anyway when we got married I had to take it gently, aware that I had a slightly above average penis, sex was great, as long as I had plenty of foreplay, she came everytime we made love. I think men with small penises are very gentle when it comes to making love with their wives, hate guys with large penises that go about boasting.

  15. Brando Says:

    The hypocricy of the original post and the comments is obvious. Giantless says guys under 6 are shy? Ya think they are dumb? Clearly today women JUDGE men based on the mass media fixation on penis size. Do you think men would not feel it? The message hits a guy like a brick, starting in middle school. Very sad that liberation of women now allow it to be openly discussed and put on TV! Our culture emascluates men in multiple levels and then wokmen add on penis size Just so you are aware, I do not fall in that category but have the same shy reaction to any women seeing me nude. Flacid penis size should never be revealed to a women without deep spiritual committment to the relationship. Women have been taught by their peers and the culture to use it agaist any guy and have been give full freedom that it is even a right so they OWN their SEXUALITY. After 30yrs of marriage the damage throughout the culture to relatships and families is beyond calculation. Do women really hold dick size as one of their checklist items? Any comment or critical implication should be a an absolute deal breaker for a man today. It reveals more than the words about the women, will not get better and will be used again as the women encounters relationship or personal stress. It is about the women, not the penis!

  16. JayNotGay Says:

    My penis can be ranked as really thick/huge to a tiny thin limp biscuit. I’ve had women tell me that I am a great lover and swallow my stuff in passion and I’ve had women turn down a second opportunity saying why bother. It might be hard for some woman to understand how a man identifies so much with his penis. I once had an affair with a married woman. She told me she loved me before we had sex. She told me her husband was older and way too antisocial and that she wanted a divorce. We made out passionately and got a motel one afternoon. We got naked, but I felt weird about eating her out. Afterwards she told me it was not good and that her husbands cock was twice as big as mine. I never talked to her again despite her apologizes. :) to me she said that because she did not feel passion during sex.

    I have an interesting spin on dick size. I love women and have had many I’ve enjoyed. But my personality goes dark and wanders sometimes. I get bored and anxious easily. I have no attraction to men.. but I have had sex with probably over 1000 men in my life..All safe and always as a bottom. I’ve been disappointed and I’ve also been ripped to the point I needed to take two weeks off from gay sex. I can honestly say my dick is bigger than average. I can also tell you many men have no idea how to fuck. I’ve told a man he has no business fucking and seen him crumble. Something about putting all that pressure on a man’s performance does turn me on somehow. Also having a bigger erect penis touch my soft small penis is a huge turn on too… and I’m not gay. I’ve never kissed or held hands with a guy in my life – and never will. It’s very complicated.

  17. BobNotPainter Says:

    You have been sodomized by over a thousand guys, willingly, and you claim your attraction to men is non-existent? You get fucked in the ass, by men. Over a thousand of them. And no attraction? Over a thousand penises have been in your anus and you’re not gay? You have gay sex, with gay men, but you, yourself, are not gay?

    I get paid to paint people’s houses on weekdays, 9-5. But I’m not a painter. It’s complicated.

  18. Lovewithpassion Says:

    I am currently dating this guy, he is so romantic, and so on.. The problem is like specified on the post is that his penis are very small and wouldn’t get up at all. He can finger and eat me well. This is our first time being intimate and I really like him and wants us to work out; I told him how much i enjoyed being with him and that I had fun being with him, however, he was apologizing for the disappoint. So I wanted to get some advice on how to deal with him or help him. Suggesting him a an enlargement pill which am not sure will work, will that be a good idea?

  19. Sideswithbobnotpainter Says:

    Jay not gay…please admit the truth….

  20. Esabel Says:

    Wel i wil luv to advice we girls dat d size of d penis do nt really matta amd dat wat mattas is luv. If u really luv him even while havin sex d size wld nt b noticed rather breeze of luv shal entangle u two 2 an extent dat d pleasure wil b somtin else.so if i may advice dnt luk 4 size luk 4 LUV

  21. dallas Says:

    ^you know what else matters besides the size of a penis? Grammar.

  22. Carl Says:

    Wow, 572 comments over 3 1/2 years, and still people finding this advice posting! Em and Lo, you got people going with this. OK, I’m a guy and very small downstairs, and I think the original advice is sound, and the comments open, honest, and informative. For women who want: (1) an exclusive/monagamous sexual relationship; (2) satisfying sex as an important part of that relationship; and (3) a feeling of being stretched and filled by a large natural penis (not a dildo, vibrator, or extender sleeve) is essential to satisfying sex, I can understand that. Just tell the guy. If he’s very small, as I am, he should find a playful way to tell a woman who has become a romantic interest before they ever get to the point of stripping each other for sex in full-passion mode. It can be a bit awkward, but there are lots of ways to do it – hints, asking about likes and dislikes in bed. The only time a guy who’s very small shouldn’t disclose is when he thinks she has no interest in having sex with him. Guys with tiny peckers generally don’t chase women just to get them into bed, based soley on lust and physical attraction. The humiliation and negative consequences can be pretty severe.

    Sure, I’m never going to wow a woman with vaginal penetrative intercourse. However, if a small one isn’t a dealbreaker for her, I am going to make sure she’s well-pleased in other ways, and then it may be my reward for satisfying her. I learned early-on not to try to make it the main event, or I would leave her frustrated and disappointed.

    If it is a dealbreaker in a relationship, or if sex with me just doesn’t do it for her, I begrudge no woman following her dreams and preferences.

  23. Smalls Says:

    Having a small thing really really sucks. I mean you watch porn and only imagine that having a huge thing is the only to satisfy a women. It’s very easy for me to fall in love with women I really like especially when they say they like me too. Lets be honest, the question that runs through my head a billion times is “why is she into me; I’m ugly, short and have a small ‘downstairs’”. I’m on the verge of quitting my love life all because the size of my manhood.

  24. Five@Best Says:

    I have 4.5-5 long, 4-4.5 girth and my wife says she is completely happy with it. My ex said the same thing. Its me that has a problem with it. I feel inadequate and feel they are saying its ok just to make me feel better. Don’t help me though. Anyways, I am just glad she loves me and treats me good! :D

  25. smallbutgood Says:

    I’m 4.5 approx hard, and I’ve had women propose to me, more than a few have wanted to marry me, I’ve had many girlfriends. Granted, I’ve always been told my looks and personality go a long way, but the sexual relations part is undeniable, I’ve had great sex with more than a handful of women. Of course, I’ve had sex with women who seemed to have really large vaginas, and I don’t think that was so great for her or for me. But there are plenty of women out there with smaller, tighter, and shallower vaginas that match up just fine. I’m also only 5’5″ tall, yet I’ve had great sex with women who are 5’8″, 5’9″. So, yeah I guess I’ve got “2 strikes” in the length and height areas against me but, nothing is insurmountable. I have a gorgeous wife right now (my 2nd, my 1st was also gorgeous), we’ve been together 10 years now. I can’t complain, not in the big scheme of things. So there you go, just my 2 cents. Don’t beat yourself up guys, you’ve only got 1 life to live (unless you believe in reincarnation), so don’t let the opinions of other people dictate whether you should love yourself or not.

  26. Goodgolly Says:

    8 inches is freakishly long? I’m 8 inches I’ve never had anyone tell me it’s freakish.
    Until this article I thought it was pretty average.

  27. Johnny Says:

    ^ It is neither freakishly long nor average. It is well above average, but not enough to get you a job as a side show. If your dick were a T-shirt, it would be L-XL.

  28. Molly Says:

    Oh us women are shallow because we like big penises? Coming from men who judge us on our looks,our weight and our breast size. Are you kidding me…..what a joke.

  29. Molly Says:

    Oh and you judge us on our vaginas too. Wow.

  30. Bruce Says:

    I am about 6-7, depending on the day and level of excitation. My shaft is thickish, but my glans is not that wide. My experience is that it depends on my partner. Some women have said I am too big, but I think the issue there was about relaxation and comfort level. When my partner and I are comfortable with one another and trusting, it all goes well. If I am into a woman I am not going to tell her I wish her breasts were larger or her hair was longer! All in all, I have never heard of a woman dumping a guy she was really into because of his penis. Sex is about more than that. You have hands, fingers, lips, mouth, etc. I liked the woman who commented that her lover’s small penis was more fun to suck on, which makes a lot of sense!

  31. Hi Says:

    women are misandrous SCUM…

  32. Christy Says:

    I was with a guy for a long time that was 5″ long and 4″ around. I am 5’8 tall so im not petite in size and yet I found him to be somewhat uncomfortable. The next guy I was with had a thinner one and a bit shorter if not the same in length. The sex was much better with the smaller size. It was more comfortable and it got me off easier. It’s sensitive down there and I preferred the less pressure. But more than anything – I was able to perform oral sex on him and that’s a huge turn on for me!

    I have heard a lot of guys mention guys in porn – but they look so painfully large – I’ve never desired anything like that. Bigger is not at all better in my opinion.

    But there is way more important things that matter (sex related), than just size. Being able to talk about sex, being comfortable with someone on every level, exploring each others bodies, trying new things, and etc. For me, I am not a girl who takes a long time to get off – and I was with a guy who believed all girls wanted to go for a really long time. So there are a lot of misconceptions out there and a lot of important compatibility factors.

    I am curious – I always hear the size issue from girls, but what about guys? All girls can not be the same size so why is it so uncommon to see those discussions?

  33. priss Says:

    The 1st guy to ever give me an orgasm was like 3″ long & 2.5-3 girth. We were together for a while till he cheated. Be wasn’t my 1st but the 1st to make me have a orgasm & yes he have me vaginal orgasms. I have also had a guy that was like over 10″ long & 5″ girth he didn’t hurt me but he also didn’t give me an orgasm. So no to me size isn’t a deciding factor at all. I don’t think guys should be judged on the size of his penis just as I don’t want to be judged on the size of my breast.

  34. Ted Says:

    You don’t see those discussions Christy because most guys aren’t that calus to sexually degrade a woman on her sex parts like women are to men.You may see the occasional idiot guy blow about large boobs,,,but he is in a very small minority of men who actually care about your cup size.All you see all over the internet are women bashing guys on their size…you also see an out of control suicide rate among males.I don’t give a flying f–k what women have suposedly gone through-there is no eqivalent of judgeing/bashing etc a guy on his size…something he CANNOT control anyway and you stillf–king do it anyway! I agree w/the misandry comment above that is staright away what it is period end of story

  35. Christy Says:

    I NO way hate men or want to make anyone feel insecure about any aspect of themselves as a person.

    I personally am very thin and not very curvy. Since early in my life, I have experienced the cruelty of people judging someone based on physique. Mine being more obvious and public than the size of a guys penis. Growing up I had boys picking on me in front of everyone at school – and being an adult hasnt changed things much. I do have the choice to get plastic surgery but I decided to feel good about myself without mutilating my body. There are always going to be people that just simply are only or more so attracted to certain physical attributes. You have to find the person that is right for you. And there ARE some girls that DO prefer a smaller dick!!! It just isn’t as common to hear just like it isn’t as common to hear a guy say they prefer smaller breasts.

  36. RICK Says:

    Ha ha ha ha. Bunch of “SIZE-QUEENS” Don’t you girls know that the vagina CAN in fact be stretched out after having sex with “large” men for a number of years. You might find the perfect man, that you love with all of your heart, and he might only be “average” in size (5 to 6 inches), … and you won’t get pleasure, … and believe me, … either will HE. If you are that cavernous down there, a normal sized man wont even get the friction that is needed to orgasm with you. Think before you act! I think todays society is soooo into porn, and everyone believes that a 10 inch penis is normal. Well ladies, a 10 incher belongs in a freak show (or a porno) ha ha ha ha

  37. harold Says:

    Sizeist, You need an education. Research shows that most women prefer girth, not length. Jamming up against the uterus does nothing to excite a woman. It’s not how deep you fish; it’s how he wiggles the worm. The porn industry has deceived us and we swallowed the lies about size. Most men are between 4 and 6 inches…that’s research, baby. Most women are aroused by foreplay more than penetration. Satisfaction comes from techniques, positions,foreplay, pheremones, artificial scents and women love pillow talk. The more than 9 erogenous zones in a woman’s body don’t need size, honey. But if 8 is your preference you will have a long search.

  38. camille Says:

    I had a man once who was over 8″ and thick and it did please me or at least I felt it much more than an ‘average’ one. But it was difficult to be on top which I like.
    My current boyfriend has probably 5.5″ which is very adequate. I didn’t measure him but I figured it out by measuring my palm width ;) I figure if I can get my hand comfortably around it lengthwise and still move it up and down then we’re doing just fine in the size department and as someone else pointed out it doesn’t gag me like the 8″ would if I got too cocky while giving oral (no pun intended).
    I also really love the shape of it, there are definitely cocks that are ‘prettier’ than others (sorry guys if that gives you one more thing to worry about). Also I LOVE the fact he’s not circumcised-so much fun to play with. He also makes me laugh and we can talk about our sex like I’ve never been able to with any other man.
    So in other words there’s a lot more to a penis than just length, and so much depends on how you feel about the man. So to answer the original question, it really depends on how you feel about the sex overall. How do you feel both physically and emotionally? Does it feel wonderful or just meh? Are you satisfied with the WHOLE experience or not? If not then My suggestion would be to move on since sex is such a huge part of the intimacy of a relationship and you’ll only be continuously disappointed.

  39. JJ Says:

    The 2 best i have ever had have been Mr Big (9″ and very thick) and Mr Average (Maybe 5.5″ and not so girthy)
    Mr Big could go for hours, changing positions, stopping to 69, he was not a lazy big man he was passionate and fun.
    Mr Average was amazing! made me squirt like a fountain.

  40. Frank Says:

    Maybe you just have a very large hoo-ha!!

  41. Dman1337 Says:

    Frank said it. 8 inches and you didn’t have a problem? Sheesh, search about the size of the average women’s vagina.

    But, about the whole size issue. Should I have left my ex because her vagina was too short for me? Sex is more than penetration.

    I am on the “average” range 4″-7″. If I used it all, she would be hurting. After a few weeks of pain, I asked what was wrong. she told me I was hitting her too hard(I felt soft pushing, nothing much) I said okay. After that I started using HALF(!!!) and she still orgasmed as strong and as often as always. Funny, I actually started using half at first and then after a few weeks used the rest(I even asked permission, SHE DIDN’T EVEN KNOW!) Does size matter? Tested with the same woman/vagina, it had the same effect.

    What screws women sexually(and nobody ever tells you) is their freaking psychology. If women actually knew more about sexuality, the physiology(function), the anatomy(size, what and where) and the psychology(desire/lust,the most important part) they would all have great sex lives. What makes a man great in bed? Fix a woman’s “problem”. Always works.

  42. Mc2Swt Says:

    I just hooked up with an amazing man and when we were playing around I pulled down his pants to give a little head and once I did the first things out if his mouth were “I know it’s small, isn’t it?” In such a shameful way. It blew my mind to see someone who is so outgoing, charming, and a true gentleman to become so insecure in a matter of seconds. I said not at all and to never think that and continued on, wondering how this will work.

    Well all I can say is it is the best sex of my LIFE! I never have any painful blows are pounded raw. We can go for hours, days, and I think his size is perfect for me! No more fake organisms, just to get it over with because of the rawness. He’s a hit everytime!
    Now that is my two cents!

  43. chm123 Says:

    Oh wow that’s average? I thought 8 was average….and I detest being called freakish thank you very much! I’m about 8+ so I assumed it was average -_-

  44. SizePrincess Says:

    First of all, I prefer larger. I have been with many men, ranging from the size of a baby carrot (literally) (thin and small), I’ve also been with a man whose size I would equate to a standard pill bottle (think 24 cap ibuprofen- short and thicker). String beans, baseball bats (ouch) and everything in between.

    I have also been in two long term relationships (2-3 years each.. I am 25 by the way). Both with men who were 8 inches large, and fairly girthy. I have had many short relationships that just end due to “no spark”, all of which have been with men of average or less than average size. I HAVE given these men a try, and try very hard they indeed do. It’s JUST not the same. 6.5 is good. 7 is better. 8 is ideal. 9 is probably too big but I’ll give mr 9 inch the same chance i give mr. 5 inch.

    I’m not denying that a lot of what makes a big man better is mental: My best girlfriend the other day in her new relationship finally saw her man’s penis, it was apparently so big that she herself had an orgasm while performing oral sex..??! This guy was so big it turned her on so much to c*m without being touched? If that’s not magic then i don’t know what is…

    And guys drop the whole “big vagina” thing. Size of vagina doesn’t matter. All that matters to a man’s pleasure is how STRONG the vagina. Do your kegel exercises ladies (I started at age 12 after reading a horror story in my big sister’s cosmo mag).

    I have been with many men and I have NEVER ever had a single experience where the man wasn’t screaming out loud, praying to the sky, trying not to bust before I’m pleasured. EVEN The little guys who gave me terrible sex have told me that I was the tightest thing they had ever experienced.

    All things considered, I have had bad sex with men with big penises as well. But it has never been as horrible as the sex with little skinnys.

    Bad sex with a man with a big dick > Bad sex with a man with an average dick..

    Bottom line: BIGGER IS BETTER and if you don’t want to know, then don’t ask! Seriously.

  45. LittleLove Says:

    I will say this, I’ve had the big one, and I’ve had the little one. The big one was a surprise and quite painful, not to mention he was straight lazy in the sack…not much foreplay etc. The little one was my favorite. He could go for a few hours, foreplay, lots of it, before we ever even got down to penetration, and when we finally did, WOOOOW!

    I do realize that not all largely endowed men are lazy, but to date, I have yet to meet another one and could care less if I do. I prefer someone who is creative in bed, and can ask for what he wants, which makes that easier for me as well.

    Sex, intimacy, both of these require good communication, even if it’s just with a FWB. So don’t get it twisted, Giantess has her facts straight and knows that it’s not ALL about size:)

  46. Dave Says:

    “We almost didn’t print your letter because of the emotional damage it might inflict on insecure men everywhere” Haha Em and Lo get us guys!
    PS Size Princess, you sound about as mature as your name.

  47. sweetness Says:

    ok folks, here’s the deal. Size *does* matter. It matters for both parties. Women who are tight and shallow will always prefer smaller men. Women who are deeper and wider want bigger. There’s a whole are of eastern medicine that helps determine if both parties’ genitalia are suited for each other. Just like ears, noses, breasts, arses, feet and everything else, our genitalia varies from one person to the next.
    I happen to be a rather deep woman with a very elastic vagina. I can take large cocks with ease and orgasm well, even when the guy is hitting deep. But, I also have the *best* orgasms from my very average hubby. We’re talking mind blowing multiples. His size is average, but he has taken the time to learn my body and what I like. He’s been with other women who were just way too shallow for him to do even moderately hard thrusting. Its all very personal, is what I’m saying. What blows one woman’s mind may be a total turn off for another.
    So my advice to smaller than average guys everywhere is this, learn your woman’s body and you can play her like a harp. If she’s deep, grind it. If she’s shallow, try lighter upward thrusts. Most importantly, talk to each other!

  48. sweetness Says:

    Oh, and for the women, stop giving men complexes about their cocks. Like I said above, we’re all different. Just because its not right for you doesn’t mean its not perfect for someone else. If if the intercourse is not cutting it, but you really like the guy, try introducing a different position. Tell him that you love it when he does x. And *don’t* judge by what you see, give the guy a chance. A guy may look small, but it can be a whole different ballgame once tab a is inserted into slot b ;)

  49. JLC Says:

    I’m 4.5′ and all I know is the comments I’ve had heard about me have killed my confidence for the rest of my life and I’m already in my late twenties. I have feel like the women I’m with can always get it better elsewhere. Over something I can’t change makes me feel worthless in bed. Nothing has ever felt as hurtful as being told your penis is small. Women really dont get it. The most insecure creatures of all time. Imagine how you would feel if you couldn’t put on makeup ever again, wear fake eyelashes, throw on heels, get breast implants, color your hair, if your fat u can lose weight, plastic surgery. You have all of these ways to make yourself feel better and more confident in yourself. Yet some women feel the need to mock and ridicule the most sensitive part of a man and destroy his
    Mental state for the rest of his life.

  50. lime60178 Says:

    One thing that is overlooked here is that this is a one sided argument. I have always loved to have girlfriends with larger clitorises, but have also had girlfriends whose clitorises were not so prominent. For those girls who have that fascination or obsession with large penises, hwo do you measure up? What are you bringing to the table, so to speak? Why should a girl with a tiny moesquito bite of a clitoris deman d that her partner have a giant penis? What is good for the goose,is good for the gander.

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