Comments on: Confession: I Had a Friend with Benefits…and Drawbacks

By: Senna

Senna — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 23:37:14 +0000

Unfortunately, I learned this at a young age. I was fourteen, and stupid. It was a bad “first love” experience, because in reality, there was no love there. And me, being my fourteen year old girl self, craved that love more than anything. It potentially ruined my outlook on men, sex, and love. Friends with benefits is an all around, bad idea… Unless you’re an Ice Queen or have no soul.

By: The Other Woman

The Other Woman — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 13:34:53 +0000

Feelings……

They always seems to get in the way.

By: Raz

Raz — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:16:27 +0000

Hear Hear! Long live the FWB-s!

By: sumsucker

sumsucker — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 06:59:22 +0000

When you are a girl… who cares about what other people think, it is tough to ask, “where is this going?” You don’t want to seem too eager to put a label on anything for fear of scaring the other person away. Although I had to learn that I would much rather be comfortable and “knowing” rather than having someone else be comfy and having all of the answers. I have lost too much sleep over stuff like this.

By: hedgehog

hedgehog — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 14:20:27 +0000

Why should it be necessary to end up having the two hour-talk? I have had a few FWB-s, one of them is still one phone call away. Or maybe it’s two?

It’s the best thing one can do if you don’t feel like falling in love with the person you’re having sex with. It’s the best thing for those who just had a bad break up or simply don’t feel like a relationship.

And grownup people don’t start hoping for a wedding whenever they wake up in somebody else’s bed. Ryan, this will pass with your college years.

There has to be something between ‘no sex life’ and ‘long term relationship’ – long live the FWB-s!

By: RECONTETON

RECONTETON — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 04:13:59 +0000

Wow…either I’m a giant bitch or I throughly luv having a FWB. I might be one of the few women out there that are okay having a FWB and not having to be tied into a ‘relationship.’ And they can last. I had one for a year. And we have recently re-hooked back up. We have busy, active lives, but need the good sex- so why not? And it’s HOT every time we hook up. Now the story above was in college… I don’t think I could have handled it then- I was young and naive…but now, in my 30′s- I say: HECK YEAH! If you can find one who fits what you need and is on the same page as you- go for it!!

By: mermaid

mermaid — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:12:28 +0000

OK, point #1: as far as I am concerned there is a big difference between fwb and a booty call. Let’s get our terminology right.

point #2: There are times when a fwb relationship will last. I had one that lasted for 2-3 years. It stopped when I got married. We didn’t see each other regularly all the time, but we had our periods when we called each other. We were good friends who also had excellent chemistry and really, really good sex. To this day, I remember him with fondness and I hear he does too. I moved abroad more than 10 years so I haven’t seen him for a very long time.
I don’t know if we would have worked out as a couple couple. Perhaps we would, but it was never really an issue that we weren’t. We were fine just being friends when either one of us was in a relationship, but when we weren’t and we ran in to each other… well, that was a different story, a great and steamy one.

By: kb

kb — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 15:26:07 +0000

am I the only one here who will admit when I don’t want fwb to turn into something more? I tried that once-we went from a one night stand to a relationship. the relationship was awful, the sex was good. from then on I learned to listen to my gut and say “fwb only, take it or leave it” when appropriate. Maybe I’m just secretly a man, in that I do in fact have guys that could be a boyfriend and guys that could be nothing but fwb? but seriously. It’s not that hard.

By: avarie

avarie — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 08:24:18 +0000

unforunately, i’m there right now except we both know the reason why we can’t date is because he’s leaving for good. he always says “if i wasn’t leaving we’d be together” we’re both young and if it was different, if we met sooner, we would’ve been together. it’s sad though, his mom loves me, knows about me from him, my friends who were skeptical at first loves us together, his friends base everything that happened in the past based on when we first started our fwb. everybody knows about us, it’s no secret, unlike my ex who was started off as a boyfriend for a week and then ended up as a fwb, i spend the night at my now fwb’s room, we lounge around in bed, watch movies, youtube clips and we have inside jokes. we’re pretty much dating without the title and i’m pretty sure i’m the only girl he’s been with who he hasn’t “cheated” on and probably the longest he’s been with one girl. it’s a hectic ride.

i did have that one fwb, my ex, who i wished it’d turn into something more but now that i look back on it, i had nothing in common with him, we’re too different, he was boring to me while my now fwb is interesting and we can talk about anything, everything, life, work blah. hmm… unfortunately he’s leaving or i’d have one of the best relationships i’ve ever had. i don’t believe in long distance relationships either, he’s young and i believe if we’re meant to be then we’ll meet up one day soon.

By: erica

erica — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 20:58:01 +0000

haha I’ve totally been there… I think we, too, hoped that the sex would turn into something, but it never did. we never had anything to talk about!!! and actually, it started off as something we did when drinking, but once we began hooking up sober on weekdays, i realized that the sex wasn’t even good! so it was like, what’s the point? I guess everyone has to learn that lesson sometime.