I almost want to call bullshit here. Something’s off.

And IMO, porn doesn’t “make” her boyfriend “annoying” as he would be asking for or feeling her out for these activities anyway. If he is “annoying” he’s that way by himself. She seems to want to blame porn for her relationship problems, when it is obviously a personality and “novelty seeking” difference.

Does this not add up to anyone else? Something’s off here.

Not the porn. His need to take the staleness of the same old same old sex, juxtaposed with her her “I’m happy with what we always do. Why try anything new?” Myriad relationships do not survive this very quandary.

And I don’t see the author as addressing THIS as the real issue.

It is unrealistic almost by definition. How exiting would it be to see the woman struggle with her diaphragm or suddenly remember that today was the day to shove her Nuvaring in and then watch her position it for 20 minutes? During the shoot? Sexy. I have, however, seen plenty of porn where the man is using a condom, and a few where intravaginal spermicides were used. I have also seen some where obvious Tubal Ligation and Vasectomy scars are seen on the models. All porn is not devoid of birth control.

As for bestiality WHY does everyone who has ANY issue with ANY form of sexuality, from homosexuality to pornography HAVE to compare it to having sex with animals? Bestiality is wrong because it is sex without CONSENT. Because an animal simply CANNOT give consent and without consent, of course it’s creepy and wrong. However, I’ve seen a lot of porn and never actually seen any of this stuff.

Yeah, there are unrealistic things in porn. Baldly shorn pubes, too many fake breasts, bleached anuses (yep) but a lot of porn is made for men, and that’s the kind of stuff that OBVIOUSLY sells, or they wouldn’t continue to make it. My Man and I prefer “Vintage Porn” from the 70s and 80s, because this stuff is not that common.

The creating of a porn movie is no more akin to real life sex than the creating of ANY movie is to any form of real life situations. Too many takes, camera tricks and time lapses to make things different, a script, unrealistic relationships, treating the actors like “objects.” It is no different in ANY Hollywood studio where a G PG PG13 or R rated movie is being made.

Movies ARE fantasies. Unless you watch, what is in my opinion, horrible “amateur do it yourself porn” where people are ugly and pimply and wiggly in the wrong places, and take to long to change positions, and they miss the Money Shot, because the camera was on a tripod and his back was turned, you are gonna get Fantasy Sex in well made porn.

People want to see attractive people who are GOOD at sex and seem to enjoy it in a pornographic movie. NO, you aren’t watching it to see an Oscar Grade performance, you watch it because it enhances your horny. I don’t see why the author would expect anything else.

If she doesn’t care for ALL porn, that’s fine. There are so many different types, that there is nearly something for everybody, but she has every right not to like it and not to watch it. BUT, does she expect to really change anyone else’s mind about it? I doubt that this article could do that.

Does PORN “make” her boyfriend “annoying” (NO) or is that just the way he IS and is he simply wanting a little spice in their sex life? I doubt porn is “making” him want a damn thing he doesn’t want anyway.

“What do you think about a threesome? Can I come on your face? Can we do double penetration? Can I use all five of our sex toys on you at once? Can we have sex while wearing masks?” Outside of the threesome, which might have some residual issues on their relationship (depending on each one’s tolerance factor and jealousy rating) none of the stuff he is asking for is out of the ordinary for a lot of people. (And You only have FIVE sex toys?) I’m wondering why someone so inhibited is dating a man who is NOT inhibited, and so uninhibited that he USED TO MAKE PORNOGRAPHIC MOVIES.

I find it VERY odd that this author has so many problems with pornography and sexual experimentation BUT is LIVING WITH a “former porn star.” WTF?

Cancel her subscription, this lady has enough issues.

Pink Cross Foundation was founded on January 24, 2008 by former porn actress Shelley Lubben and her husband Garrett Lubben. Shelley began working with adult industry workers in 2002 when she began volunteering as a teacher and counselor at local rescue missions and prisons in the State of California.

Shelley has worked at Madera Rescue Mission, Bakersfield Rescue Mission, Central California Women’s Facility Prison, and Valley State Prison for Women. Having a passion to reach out to adult industry workers all over the world, she was stirred to action and put up a web site in 2004 sharing her story and the truth about the abuse she experienced in the porn industry.

Unprepared for the overwhelming response she received from the public, she realized something more had to be done about the destruction pornography was inflicting upon adult industry workers and the general public. She also realized, God had called her to expose the filthy and abusive porn industry and to be unafraid and unrelenting.

Inspired by the Spirit of God, she and her husband Garrett founded Pink Cross Foundation to reach out to adult industry workers offering emotional, financial and transitional support to those who want out of porn and also help for those struggling with pornography and other victims of pornography. Pink Cross Foundation was officially incorporated on January 24, 2008.

Shelley currently travels internationally and speaks on the negative effects of pornography urging people to stop contributing to the porn industry while also inspiring them to live the amazing lives God has for them.

Learn more about Shelley here.

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