Comments on: Wise Guys: What’s a Guy-Friendly Date? http://www.emandlo.com/2009/06/wise-guys-whats-a-guy-friendly-date/ Your daily dose of advice, news, and stories about sex, love, and other important stuff. No yoga mat required. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:33:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Slartibartfast http://www.emandlo.com/2009/06/wise-guys-whats-a-guy-friendly-date/comment-page-1/#comment-2981 Slartibartfast Wed, 17 Jun 2009 19:28:10 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=3650#comment-2981 It seems to me that the general response here is spot on. If the "Who" is right, the "What" becomes almost immaterial. I know from personal experience that if my date and I are into each other it doesn't really matter whether we're dropping a new engine into her pickup, picking strawberries or scrapbooking at my apartment. Regardless of the setting, we'll have fun. It seems to me that the general response here is spot on. If the “Who” is right, the “What” becomes almost immaterial. I know from personal experience that if my date and I are into each other it doesn’t really matter whether we’re dropping a new engine into her pickup, picking strawberries or scrapbooking at my apartment. Regardless of the setting, we’ll have fun.

]]> By: AlanK http://www.emandlo.com/2009/06/wise-guys-whats-a-guy-friendly-date/comment-page-1/#comment-2976 AlanK Wed, 17 Jun 2009 13:04:11 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=3650#comment-2976 Swing dancing is an excellent idea: sexy, wearing clothing that will say a lot about each of you, probably very slightly outside both your zones of comfort forcing you together, very physical (much better than stereotyped banter), and...dadah!...fun. However, as all the men keep saying over and over...why are you trying so hard? Sex and beer will attract men as surely as peanut butter will attract mice. (Note: reverse order of importance for Australian men.) Just relax, wear something sexy but subtle, don't talk about your ex-boyfriend, and let biology take its course. Swing dancing is an excellent idea: sexy, wearing clothing that will say a lot about each of you, probably very slightly outside both your zones of comfort forcing you together, very physical (much better than stereotyped banter), and…dadah!…fun. However, as all the men keep saying over and over…why are you trying so hard? Sex and beer will attract men as surely as peanut butter will attract mice. (Note: reverse order of importance for Australian men.) Just relax, wear something sexy but subtle, don’t talk about your ex-boyfriend, and let biology take its course.

]]> By: Sam http://www.emandlo.com/2009/06/wise-guys-whats-a-guy-friendly-date/comment-page-1/#comment-2968 Sam Wed, 17 Jun 2009 02:16:21 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=3650#comment-2968 Guy friendly? What the heck does that mean? Are you afraid he'll run away if you don't jump through hoops to read his mind and give him what HE wants? Get real! Dates vary by mood, income, children, and phases of the moon so you need to be more clear about the situation when you ask the question in the first place. If you mean a "getting to know you" date then I suggest that learning to swing dance would be fabulous. It's a new skill for both of you, puts him outside his comfort zone, and it's not all stiff like ballroom dancing. The good part here is seeing how he learns, how he deal with frustration in a new environment, and if he's comfortable being a "newbie" in front of others. Patience, humor, physical grace, good manners, and the ability to keep a beat are all useful man-type skills you might see (or not) on display and assist you in your decision to keep or toss. Bad part is the same goes for you. Other sorts of dates (say escaping from kids after 10 years of marriage, might be longer than one night, involve better wine, and are things both of you know you enjoy already but in a new location. Just some thoughts Guy friendly? What the heck does that mean? Are you afraid he’ll run away if you don’t jump through hoops to read his mind and give him what HE wants? Get real! Dates vary by mood, income, children, and phases of the moon so you need to be more clear about the situation when you ask the question in the first place.

If you mean a “getting to know you” date then I suggest that learning to swing dance would be fabulous. It’s a new skill for both of you, puts him outside his comfort zone, and it’s not all stiff like ballroom dancing.

The good part here is seeing how he learns, how he deal with frustration in a new environment, and if he’s comfortable being a “newbie” in front of others. Patience, humor, physical grace, good manners, and the ability to keep a beat are all useful man-type skills you might see (or not) on display and assist you in your decision to keep or toss.

Bad part is the same goes for you.

Other sorts of dates (say escaping from kids after 10 years of marriage, might be longer than one night, involve better wine, and are things both of you know you enjoy already but in a new location.

Just some thoughts

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