Comments on: Dear Dr. Kate: I Hate My Small Breasts!

By: Kay

Kay — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 07:14:40 +0000

It’s sad to say but us ladies always want what we don’t have, it sucks. Many small chested women gripe about wanting juicy juicy mangos and large chested women gripe about theirs and long for a pair of mosquito bites. That’s not all; straight haired women want curly hair and curly haired women want straight locks, and there are so many more examples. We are all doing such disservice to ourselves. Instead of sounding older than you really are fussing and complaining about something we can’t easily changewithout drastic and possibly potential side affects which you would already know if you are not willing to chance to risk negative outcomes by putting yourself under the knife. If you have big ones you can go on a diet or exercise and more specifically bench presses should athleticize your chest. If you have small ones certain pectoral muscular workouts are supposed to work the pecs which may make the breasts appear larger only because they are pushed out so hey it’s all about appearance bay-be! Just avoid too much or you will look like the very muscular but strong as tanks muscle ladies from the musclehead magazine(hmm not sure if steroids are at play though) and apparently benchpresses tend to flatten the chest. Just a few tidbits I picked up along the years.

By: Kristina

Kristina — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 02:29:24 +0000

I also have small B cup sized breasts and have suffered through trying to find ways to push and lift and so on for years. I am 22 years old and have a 1 year old daughter and breastfeeding seemed to only make things worse. BUT, i can now honestly say i have become more comfortable in my skin (boobs and all) WHY? because of my partner. We have been together for 5 years now and he has been singing the praises of my small chest from day one. It has taken me this long to gain my confidence but when you find a loving partner who will make you feel beautiful no matter what size any part of you is it makes all the difference. I was borderline going in for breast aug. a year ago but now would never think of it. His opinion (outside of my own) is all that matters. How about search for a greater confidence within before permanently altering the outside?

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 18:40:05 +0000

Look on the bright side. Smaller boobs are less likely to sag, you’ll stay firm longer, you have a lower risk of some breast cancers, and you can always get a nice push up bra with little pads or water pads on the sides and bottoms and PUSH those babes together.

Women with smaller breasts have no problem feeding their children, as most women have the same amount of glandular tissue, the size is usually fat deposits. Yes, pregnancy and breastfeeding will make your breasts temporarility larger, but I don’t think bringing a child into the world for the reason of JUST making your breasts larger is a good idea. Also, a lot of us leak a lot while breastfeeding, so our breasts are temporarily off limits during sex anyway, at least for some things.

I don’t have many hang ups about sex but I HATED my husband putting his mouth on my nipples when I was breastfeeding our kids. (My regular Cs balloned to double Ds, (Es the first week with each kid) and my Man’s tongue was hanging out for the first few weeks I was nursing our babies, *sigh* until I had to put the breaks on, because I was so sore and uncomfortable due to milk coming in. I had a visceral “ICK” reaction to his wanting to get too close to them at first (“Hey, that’s for the baby!”), not something I am used to. (Neither was he.) I was freaked out milk would come out, and he said he didn’t care, but it just make me feel prickly and gave me the heeby jeebies and didn’t want him to do it again until the kids were older, and only nursing a small amount and I wasn’t making gallons of milk a day. HE didn’t care, I did. Any other time, I love that kind of attention, but a lot of us, when we have babies get “baby brain” and it puts sex on the back burner for a while. That doesn’t mean “no sex” (well at least not for me) but just “not everything we usually do, and not the frequency we used to have.”)

There’s not a lot sexy about newly lactating breasts. Beautiful, yes. Natural, yes. Healthy, Absolutely. Sensual, yes. Sexy, not really.

Most mothers are really focused on their babies when they are young and although good men will be patient, infants are never a boost to anyone’s sex life. (except for the part where you are making them.)

Anyway, I don’t think making a human being just to get larger breasts is a good idea. Most women do NOT have their breasts stay larger, a few do (as the female breast is not considered finished developing until it has lactated) but who knows? But, I’d save the baby making until YOU are ready for a child.

In the meantime, make the best of what you have. A lot of men LOVE small perky breasts (What’s not to love? They are adorable!) and think “more than a handful is a waste.” My sister used to have an “Itty Bitty Titty Club” T shirt (our mother HATED IT) but it really boosted her self esteem. She has Bs and for some reason thought THEY were “small” while the guys loved everything about her, and still do.

Be proud and confident about what you have. You’ll never have to resort to a torturous “sports bra” just to work out, and when men talk to you, they’ll spend more time talking to you FACE instead of your chest. All good things.

By: bettyboo

bettyboo — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 12:28:33 +0000

ok, sorry if this sounds weird, but it’s the best real world example I know that, even if a man may have an ‘ideal’ body shape in his mind he can be very happy with someone who doesn’t fit that ideal if that’s who he falls in love with.. It’s pretty obvious my dad is a boob man, i mean nobody watches baywatch for the plot, but he has been very happily married to my mum, an A cup at best most of the time, for 35 years. They’ve raised 3 kids together, dealt with all the hard times life throws at them and still very obviously love each other and are attracted to each other (they still do that good coupley thing where if you’re close you touch, not in a sexual way (in front of us at least), more a comfort way, lots of hugs, a hand on a knee when watching telly etc.) Anyway, the message is, a guy who loves your personality, who you have chemistry with, who is attracted to X, Y or Z about you is not going to walk away because he likes a D cup! Love yourself as you are, do what you can to improve your self esteem, be it diet, exercise, a makeover or gorgeous undies or whatever and be happy with the unique person that is you and even if your perfect guy is a boob man he will love you and your B cups :0)

By: taco

taco — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 07:34:13 +0000

Since when is B small? I thought that was average. Try having A’s lady.

By: james

james — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 02:44:38 +0000

Elizabeth, we can disagree on some things and agree on many others, that is what adults do, respect each other and celebrate our differences.

About this issue, I think the poster needs to concentrate on her weight problem. She says she is heavy set and has a large body frame.
With exercise and proper dieting, she can get that hidden body of hers out for her to enjoy. Once she gets rid of the extra pounds, her beautiful feminine body will shine and her breats will look perfect.
I exercise a lot, did it all my life, and I know a few female friends that do so. I can tell you that once you get in shape, your body will no longer deposit fat cells in just about any part of your body ( because of the fat burning due to exercise and proper diet )…so the part that is left, naturally rish in fat cells, which is your breasts, will then become the magnet of your remaining fat storage functions ( body functions ), so your body will get leaner, and your breasts will get fuller.
And one last thing, a man that tells you or screens you for breast size is a piece of garbage that you want very far away from you.

By: T

Wed, 22 Jul 2009 22:10:28 +0000

i know how this lady feels. i have always felt that way, but being athletic, it was always hard to have any typed of curves. i disagree about the getting pregnant part. yes, you do end up having bigger boobs, but that only lasts a little while and then you end up with saggy boobs…which suck…especially when you’re young….and a lot of the time, your boobs end up smaller than what you had before. i say if you’re not happy with your size, buy some lingerie or bras that make you feel sexy and look the size you want.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:30:28 +0000

At the risk of sounding “hippy-ish”, I really wish we could just all find a way to love ourselves. I really hate that women are basically pushed by society to all but hate themselves because of their physical appearance – we all have boobs that are too small, or too big, or we’re too short or tall, or fat or thin, or we have too many wrinkles or what have you. I think it sucks. Women are beautiful, no matter what size boobs or butts or waistlines we have. And someday, someone will love us, despite, or maybe even FOR these percieved flaws. I mean – James, I know we disagree about other stuff, but I truly appreciate what you’ve said on this post – that if you care for a woman, all of those little things she worries about don’t matter. And that’s true for a lot of guys I know too.

I hope that this poster can find a way to really care about herself, rather than doing something dangerous. Not that I would judge if she did! I just mean, its very very sad that people feel so pushed to change themselves to some ridiculous standard of beauty.

By: phatbootycutie

phatbootycutie — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:05:30 +0000

Boobless, I have large breasts, however I do understand how u feel in regards to feeling inadequate. We as women ALL have self issues that we feel insecure about, and no one can usually say anything to make us feel any better about it.maybe you should look into implants for your own gratification, from what you’ve stated in your letter it seems as if it would make u feel so much better about yourself. My only recomendation besides making sure the ogmentation looks as natural as possible by going to a good surgean, and NOT getting them TOO BIG.

I am a completely heterosexual woman, however, I look just like other women do, and too big is TOO MUCH. Good luck on whatever you decide to do, whether it’s implants or ultimately accepting what you have.

By: james

james — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:21:58 +0000

I love whatever that woman I fall in love brings in. I do not screen a woman based on her breasts, or other things.
The woman I like and fall in for is what I take home, and I accept her with all her attributes and shortcomings.
Years ago I went out with a woman with big implants. Let me tell you I do not ever want a woman like that, unless off course I learn that after the fact. Her breasts were hard and cold, like an actual barbie doll’s
Problem is that a lot of women are going the implant route…what a waste!