Comments on: Dear Em & Lo: I Can Orgasm Easily, What’s Wrong with Me?!

By: sara

sara — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 00:59:13 +0000

Jane,
Don’t b frustrated. If u came, go along with it and come again. You will see that you can have more than one orgasm. I also get off in seconds,then enjoy it and come again. Multiorgasms, work on it and let it go. Yes, its a gift, you just have to use it to your advantage.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 05:29:14 +0000

I’ve been having sex since for about two years now, and I’ve masturbated since I was in middleschool. It’s always been really easy for me, and when I tried to figure out what an orgasm really was all I could find were things like “only acheiveable through oral sex” or “extremely rare”. Everytime I have sex or get off, I orgasm. I thought I was weird but I guess I’m just lucky. I usually come two or three times before my boyfriend does. I’ve heard that only old ladies can do that…but I’m 18, so I guess that doesn’t apply to me either. A word of advice for women: when you’re on top, don’t ride. Instead, do a sort of upside down missionary where your clit is rubbed constantly while you move and your legs are extended behind you. Works every time.

By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 14 Jan 2011 02:25:31 +0000

I also have the same issue. One thing that really irks me is when people say “its a gift,” like I am some rare treasure because I can orgasm and I am female simultaneously.

Yes, I can orgasm within a few seconds of penetration, and no, its not that amazing because then the pleasure is over for me and my partner, unless he wants to masturbate. It’s frustrating; I become an inanimate object, and want to take a break for 20 minutes or so. This is not what I want though, I want to keep going, I want to pleasure my bf, who is just getting started! It does feel out of my control, I feel like it happens to me, and I am not able to have the sex the way I want to because of it. It is a point of stress for me and my partner. He loves the novelty in it, but it doesn’t make sex easy for us, so he understands my issue with it.

It’s gotten more so as I’ve gotten older. Weird! I’ve found if we focus on other parts of my body besides my clitoris, I can postpone it. But I would really prefer to find a happy medium where I can feel clitoral pleasure but not come immediately.

Its good to read that other women have this issue. It’s not something that is talked about enough really. There is still this perception that no women have orgasms easily, and premature ejaculation is just the realm of men, and if it happens to a women, she should be thankful. Give me a break.

By: Yani

Yani — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 00:17:07 +0000

I started having sex when I was 33 years old. I promised myself I’m going to lose my virginity this time with my ex bf. We were together for a month but I never orgasm while with him. He got frustrated at me even if he used toys I still can’t do it. We broke up but a few weeks I met this guy who is my husband now. At first I really found it hard to cum and just like my ex he was getting frustrated. But my husband was so considerate and eventually I learned to cum. Now our problem is I literally have multiple orgasm. My husband used to take a while and sometimes find it hard to cum but then I think we helped each other discover ourselves when it comes to sex. Now we have learned to orgasm and I must say we truly are sexually compatible.

By: JD

JD — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 23:42:33 +0000

I have this too, I’m my boyfriend thinks I fake it. But I’m always the one in control & therefore move in the way that suits best/feels best for me.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:23:56 +0000

Yeah I know exactly what that girl is talking about hahah at first I thought I had a problem cause anytime i would have sex or masterbate I would orgasim really quickly especially with oral ! But it’s not a bad sooo I’ve heard it’s a gift !!

By: Jax

Jax — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:41:19 +0000

To Jess and Lorri:

U R both worth UR weight in gold!!!!!!!!!!!

Literally.

I’ll work 3 jobs to have either of you as a girlfriend & commute to wherever you are regularly.

Seriously, ur both the exception not the rule- contact me…skandel_es@excite.com

By: jim

jim — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 06:17:51 +0000

i cant have orgasm when a drink beer why

By: seks shop

seks shop — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 11:38:43 +0000

I agree with what some of the others say about the mental control thing. I find that slightly taking your mind out of that state of arousal can slow things down

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 22:59:11 +0000

I’m a lesbian and I orgasm quite quickly too. At first I thought that maybe I was missing something and that there might be a feeling BEYOND what I was getting from both masturbation and sex with my partner (then sense and reasoning made me realise that I actually couldn’t even TAKE any more!).

I agree with what some of the others say about the mental control thing. I find that slightly taking your mind out of that state of arousal can slow things down. But I don’t find that possible when I’m with my partner and, therefore, I orgasm a lot quicker than I hoped! Sometimes I wish I could orgasm later so that I get prolonged build-up of intensity, but my partner can adjust well to the fact I can be a little ‘quick’ and will sometimes carry me onto a second or third orgasm in one session (which can feel a little too intense, but most of the time is GREAT!)

I think the main thing is (like always) to communicate with whoever you’re sharing the moment. If any problems arise one night, have a discussion afterwards or the next day and try to figure out what you’ll both do about it BEFORE you get into the heat of the moment again.