Comments on: Dear Em & Lo: I Hate Receiving BJs

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 19:46:29 +0000

OMG! Im so glad to read this post to know im not alone. But my gf seem disappointed that she cant do a good job. but its not her fault….

By: Ross Evans

Ross Evans — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 12:47:13 +0000

A little late to the party here, but I’m another guy that doesn’t get off on oral.
Frankly, if you told me I couldn’t have another blowjob again, I would not be sad.
For me, it’s all to do with technique; most ladies seem to think that the porn style of gagging/deep throating is the way to go and it just isn’t.
Plus, there’s the whole teeth aspect (I don’t think I’ve had one that hasn’t had a painful moment included).
They’re seriously overrated…

By: jboog

jboog — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 22:15:30 +0000

Wow. I need to get me a guy who hates oral. I found this site because I hate receiving but love giving. Thought there was something wrong with me. Like a previous poster said, it’s like I can’t sit back and enjoy something that I would not do myself. And I cant imagine ever performing cunninculus.

By: John Smith

John Smith — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 01:43:46 +0000

The first time my girlfriend ever gave me a blowjob, it lasted about 5 seconds before i told her to stop, i didn’t “hate” the feeling, it just didn’t appeal to me. I very much love to give oral to a girl, but receiving it is a different story. The first time it happened, was just a horrible experience, lets just say she couldn’t get me off herself. To me, Intercourse is so much better than oral.

By: Phil

Phil — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 19:50:38 +0000

I don’t like bj’s either. But because of the popular perception it’s hard to convince women you are serious. I actually had to sit my my wife down and promise me to never go down on me again. She never breaks her promises so when I made her do that she realised I was serious.

I find it demeans the woman, it awkward, sloppy and the sensations are mainly sucking and licking. Instead I just LOVE hand jobs.

By: ruckus

ruckus — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 23:00:04 +0000

I thought I was alone, I never really liked oral sex either. I loved giving it to my girlfriend but not receiving it. I’ve had it before, many times but never really enjoyed the feeling of it, I enjoy intercourse much better which I know sounds incredulous to many others. I don’t really know where this notion came from that all men enjoy oral sex, I and a few acquaintances I have seem to be different. I love sex but just not oral sex.

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 17:29:27 +0000

Milo, I said ONE of the reasons SOME people may not allow themselves to enjoy oral were due to religious issues.

YOUR mileage may vary.

Chill, huh?

My parents and my DOG? Gross, my parents are divorced! It would be quite uncomfortable….

By: Milo

Milo — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 03:44:35 +0000

@Madamoiselle L: Yeah yeah but to be honest many people even WITHOUT religion dislike oral sex so don’t even touch that subject. I’m an atheist and many of my friends are and I know plenty of people who dislike the act, why should it affect YOU if this person doesn’t like it? How would you feel if someone said that sleeping with your parents and dog would bring the ultimate pleasure? I’m pretty sure there are those who do indulge in that sort of activity but not many relish the thought. You’re making your own generalized conjectures. DON’T CHANGE SOMEONE IF DON’T WANT TO. Sheesh, you’re sounding like some kind of jerk telling people to try it twice before making a decision, although I do agree that it may be pleasureable the next time around it doesn’t mean everyone should follow your unsolicited advice. You obviously need to learn more about sex if oral sex is so limelighted in your relationships. I know plenty of couples who don’t indulge in oral sex but do have a very healthy sex life and a happy relationship. Quit your generalizations because they’re so fucking selfish.

By: BCofUIMhere

BCofUIMhere — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 04:44:02 +0000

I appreciate Hank’s pov & concern for women. I’m a very oral person, always have been and do not consider bjs degrading per se (there have been previous partners who created a degrading atmosphere with their comments/actions, but that’s another story…).

I would like to comment that oral sex doesn’t have to just be about sucking–there’s a lot to play with there and a lot of ways to play, including licking and kissing.

Nobody should be made to feel bad because of what they like or dislike in bed. I’m sure Em & Lo’s response was completely tongue in cheek, but when a topic is sensitive, as this one obviously is, even well-intended humor can be painful. Their advice is on-point: Communication. Sam I Am’s GF needs to know once and for all that his feelings about bjs will *never* change, whatever the reason behind it. They can have a completely satisfying relationship without it, but she needs to respect his boundaries for that to happen.

By: henry

henry — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 15:22:07 +0000

I’ve gotta disagree with hank / strange person up there, in my experience, it hasn’t been degrading to the women I’ve been with. They seemed to relish the control they have over me and my orgasms. Perhaps if hank / strange person have been staring at porn too long and seen the woman where the face is all covered in spunk, yeah, that does seem degrading. (Hey, why are 90% of them grinning like crazy people then?)

On the other hand, I’m not a fan of BJ’s anymore. My current partner/wife is terrible at them. She’s too small and it gives her jaw problems and she gets too toothy.

I did have a girl friend once that … Wow. she knew how to do things.