Comments on: Poll: What Do You Call a Female Cuckold?

By: Aimee

Aimee — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 14:19:04 +0000

Do u not get the question? I’m a female in a commited relationship with another woman. I’m bi…she’s bi, i crave her with a “stunt” dick. Right down to tasting her and and switching some nights so she can do the same. Name that tune?

By: Robert

Robert — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 20:06:11 +0000

A cuckold is a man who either permits or accepts his wife fooling around without hiding it
or..a man who likes to watch his wife be taken by other men
or..a man in a relationship who’s wife makes him watch her be taken by another man or men whether he likes it or not and may make him participate in a derogatory way. There is a whole lifestyle and porn around this and even has a hit of domination to it.

My question to you all is: what is a woman called who is in this situation.

Note the above male chooses to stay in the relationship and may even enjoy it.

By: swinger

swinger — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 10:02:14 +0000

interesting question – we are looking at it now, as we are building a dating site which is tailored for swinging couples, and singles.

its complicated to build a system which gives users all the correct options to describe their sexual needs – for instance, if you have two lesbian swingers, which one is the cuckold / ress / quean?

i think using term “cuckold” for both is going to be understood by most people, just hope it doesnt offend!

this isnt really relevant to article, but it does highlight how a lot of english language is quite rigidly defined and outdated now.

By: emandlo

emandlo — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:39:23 +0000

Pepper, you must have not read past the first sentence of our post. In the second sentence, we note: “Actually, according to Wikipedia, the female equivalent cuckquean first appeared in English literature in 1562. Though clearly that moniker never caught on — and after four and a half centuries, we don’t think that’s going to change. (Perhaps because the term cuckquean sounds like it belongs in the fetish world.)”

By: Pepper

Pepper — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 06:57:59 +0000

There actually IS a word for a female cuckold: cuckquean. It dates back to the 16th century.

Check it out:

http://www.sex-lexis.com/Sex-Dictionary/cuckquean
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cuckquean

By: seks shop

seks shop — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 11:39:25 +0000

So if forced to choose a name for a “female cuckold,” my vote would be for “cuckoldress.”

By: figleaf

figleaf — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 20:39:18 +0000

If you don’t mind sounding judgmental “wronged partner” sounds familiar. If you want to be expansive and swingery (I’m pretty sure being a swinger doesn’t immunize against infidelity) you could say “excluded partner.”

But Elton Andersyn’s remark about the cuckolding fetish makes me wonder if there’s anything like *that* for women (either the fetish or the term.) At any rate I’m inclined to think we should probably drop the term cuckold for anything but fetishism. Which actually might be happening anyway. The first couple of pages on the keyword “cuckold” in Google yields fetish-related links.

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Also, not to disagree with Johnny but while I agree that imagining insufficient masculinity goes with cuckolding fetishes I, well, disagree that it has much to do with women”s infidelity. (Any more than insufficient femininity has much to do with male infidelity.)

figleaf

By: Johnny

Johnny — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 10:13:15 +0000

Not to exonerate the female with the wandering eye, but a deficit in masculinity is often to blame when guys get cheated on.

By: Zen

Zen — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 10:04:29 +0000

Jilted Spouse
Betrayed lover
injured spouse
victim of adultery
wounded party

By: Elton Andersyn

Elton Andersyn — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 16:52:21 +0000

As someone who’s been observing the cuckolding fetish for some time, this question has occurred to me as well.

I’ve often seen the word “cuckoldress” thrown around to mean the woman doing the cuckolding most of the time. On other occasions, though, I’ve seen it used to mean a “female cuckold,” which makes sense from a grammatical standpoint.

So if forced to choose a name for a “female cuckold,” my vote would be for “cuckoldress.”

However, I am loathe to tack that gender identifier on the word. Just as with the words “whore” or “slut,” I think it’s rather sexist to have to add the word “man” before those words (man whore, man slut), as it implies that those words are gender biased to women. Men can be whores and sluts too.

Ultimately, I’d just stick with “cuckold” and petition the dictionary to change the definition to “a PERSON whose SPOUSE is unfaithful.”