Comments on: Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)

By: Kali

Kali — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 15:41:55 +0000

Turning all against one is an art that’s hard to teach. — Offspring

Somehow, this fits.

By: collegestudent19

collegestudent19 — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 09:07:07 +0000

I have to say, reading the posts that you all had left entertained me for hours (but not really. more like minutes). Im not going to voice my opinion on the subject matter, but I will say that for anyone (including James) trying to argue their point, the low-blows and stabs take all credibility from the entire post. Also, I have noticed that the longer posts also try to use big words to make a better argument when, really, the misspelling of simple words pretty much steals the attention.

James, you make good points and you make bad points. The same goes for anyone on the opposite side. What you all have severe issues with is keeping it to a civilized exchange of information, key points, etc. Seriously? Insults only make you sound like an insecure person who uses big words to sound important. On top of that, it makes it so you all have no idea what you’re trying to say. With the exception of the personal experience posts.

So I guess what I’ve been trying to say is that attacking is immature and cannot be taken seriously. Next time, try to make a good argument instead of bitch-slapping each other.

Yes, I realize I call out James a few times, but this whole forum is about his article, and there are too many names for me to put into this post. I don’t mean to offend anyone, I just wanted to give advice to the people who really want to debate and not fight.

By: bennybutton

bennybutton — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:33:26 +0000

ok I’ve read through most of the discussions. I often fantasize and have even tried to push my member off to the size and tried to have strap on intercourse with my g/f. she wont allow it. i tell her all i want her to do is have it her way and to really get into it with out me finishing first. and of course to try something new. has anyone else tried this or am i just weird?

By: bim

bim — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 10:59:12 +0000

Nb,

I partially agree with you. Strapon sex for a man has different reasons. (1) It could be just for the pleasure received through the nerves. (2) It could also be for submissive reasons. (3) It could also be because he internally is bisexual but society forbids him from knowing this. In case 3, he would most likely find out that he is bisexual or gay.

Even in cases 1 and 2 he might be bisexual too, but he still does not know so. He might be looking for a woman just because she is feminine (not because she has a pussy). That is, a feminine man or a transgendered woman may turn him on the same as a genetic woman. That happened with me. I had some flirting once with a TG and it was a big turn on for me.

By: Jimi

Jimi — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 12:30:33 +0000

I have been crossdressing and masterbating anally since I was 11 years old. My last two girl friends, and I think possibly my next girl friend to be, all loved wearing strap ons. I tried being with a man once in my life and it was such a big turn off I have never tried again. I wonder how James would explain that phenomenah.

By: Lotte

Lotte — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 12:59:37 +0000

my boyfriend loves bumplay, and he’s all man

By: Dixie Normous

Dixie Normous — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 07:21:45 +0000

Theres a difference between finding a man attractive and taking it in the ass and liking it… but either way your still gay!
Your prostrate is the most sensitive glan in your body, and if stimulating it brings yyou pleasure then so be it, but don’t be open about it unless your ready to be labeled!

By: Nb

Nb — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:40:48 +0000

I think that if a guy really likes to get penetrated, and he pursues it whether with toys or strap-ons with his girl, don’t you think there’s a chance he might think he wants to try it with other guys? I did! I’ve been trying to figure out whether I should seriously classify myself as bi for a long time. When I was in my teens I started to experiment with penetrating myself, loved it, and now I need it, a lot! I use toys mostly but yes I have let a few guys get behind me a poke me. I am much more attracted to women and love to fuck them. But I must say that if you like being penetrated, penises are made for that people and if you try a real penis you’ll find out that they feel a little bit different than toys or strap ons! Yes nerve endings don’t have orientations, but penises penetrate and I can say that if you’re a guy that finds out you really like it, you might try men to find out you liked it, and pursue it again and again. That’s me and I don’t really care, it’s just something I’ve learned to accept. Yes, I like it up the butt and I will take advantage of an opportunity for the real thing if I get the chance. So did experimenting make me gay or bi?

By: bim

bim — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 13:58:01 +0000

Hello,

I just came across this site after this blog.

I believe James is partially right; specifically when he mentioned that strap on sex has a side problem if the couple breaks up. And the reason is clear: Few women have the will to go for it, and if a man suggests this sex type, she will have automatically all the labels about him in her head, from gay, to sissy, to slave, …

If women who are into strap on sex love it for itself, not for other things in mind, I don’t think they would have this view of strap on sex.

The problem does exist, and that’s why many of the men who love to be penetrated seek lesbians thinking they could have something in common.

I think it is time to free up sexuality. It’s not wrong to be on the receiving end, because there is no giving without receiving, so they are both important. Likewise, it is not wrong to be submissive, and by the way, strap on sex need not make the person submissive beyond the bed!

By: Arvid

Arvid — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 10:24:04 +0000

I was talking to my girlfriend and we had a chat about kinky sex.I`m open minded on everything in sex,but she suggested she wants to penetrate me, I lost in words.I just asked her..what actuall satisfaction may man receive by being penetrated.Even it is only with the toy.I am very much up for a lot of types of kinky sex,but never tried something like that.She said,I`ll enjoy it..