Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Okay, so how different is intercourse with a condom? What does it feel like? Do different kinds of condoms make a difference?
Straight Married Guy (Fred): It’s different. It’s not as good. Think pancakes without the syrup. Scratching an itch with the palm of your hand. A foot massage while wearing slippers. “American Idol” without Adam Lambert. It’s still okay, just not great. It can be frustrating for guys because everything else about the experience is vivid but where it really counts it is dull. And we know what it feels like au natural. Different types of condoms definitely make a difference. Anything that says super-thin, ultra-thin, sensitive, etc., are usually waaaay better than your regular, cheap, vending-machine rubbers. Sometimes you have to use them. If you’re dating, it’s obviously a must. Ladies, if you’re buying, do him the favor of getting the thin, high quality ones. And remember, the more excited he is, the less he’ll be distracted by the lack of feeling, so getting a little naughtier than usual can really help.
Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I’m an exclusive bottom, so I had to e-mail hundreds of — er, a few past sexual partners to ask them. The general consensus was that it’s different but not by a whole lot. With a condom you have less sensation (“33% less,” said one when I asked) but you last longer (I didn’t ask, but the obsessive-compulsive in me has decided that it’s 33% longer), so it’s kind of a trade-off. Thin condoms are better, apparently, and polyurethane condoms are by far the best (though they’re more expensive). All the men surveyed said that condoms felt better when they were having sex with me than with other partners.
Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): It’s very different. Basically, it sucks. But not in a good way. What is it like? It’s like getting a massage with a sweater on. It’s like watching a movie with the sound off. I guess a way to describe it to a woman is that it’s like having sex with a guy with a really small penis. It’s sex…but not really. If you have to wear one (and you definitely should if you’re having casual sex), thinner condoms are better, and it helps to find one that fits right.
Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Gay Engaged Guy is Joel Derfner, author of Swish. To ask the guys your own question, click here.
October 12th, 2011 at 3:56 pm
I’m not convinced for a single second that “Fred” is straight. He likes American Idol? And worse still, he puts Adam Lambert on a pedestal? The dude is as straight as his taste in music is good.
January 1st, 2012 at 8:37 pm
lol
January 11th, 2012 at 6:58 pm
Mr partner and I a few years ago had to use a condom and tried the female condom. Wow what a damn good idea that was. There was something about the way it was positioned in her vagina that made her go wild. She would climax in less thn a minute and scream the house down, it was such a turn on that even now when we do not need to use one we still do on occasion just for the fun and excitement of it.
January 11th, 2012 at 9:48 pm
I think this depends on the guy. Some guys are ultra sensitive to condoms and lose their hard-on as soon as they try to put one on. Others seem to not think twice about them. As a woman, I don’t know how it feels for a guy but I love the nakedness which is the ultimate intimacy. I have only done that with 2 guys that I was closest to sexually before meeting my current boyfriend.