Comments on: Advice: Conquering Jealousy in an Open Relationship

By: Silvia

Silvia — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 07:46:58 +0000

I personally absolutely love my husband sooo much and moreover he is indeed amazing for me. I have a passion for just about everything that is related to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with way too many young women and I don’t like knowing that he could be speaking with numerous young ladies as an alternative to me. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.

By: patricia

patricia — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 01:43:33 +0000

i’m been in a relationship for 1yr and 6months my boyfriend
is bisexual likes both sexes. trying differnent things. he’s wanting
to bring new people into the relationship. when women would come into the picture, he’s going to pay more attention to the women. i told him he did that she goe’s or i go. this sometimes
scares me. i feel i’m not good enough for him. he tells me all the
time he loves me. i question the relationship and want to stay, will
leave if something happen for good or he drops her

By: Jess

Jess — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 19:10:38 +0000

Honestly I have been in this situation having been the other girl. Oddly enough the girl in the relationship defined herself as bisexual where as I don’t. I can find a girl attractive but it doesn’t mean I lust for her. I feel comfortable hooking up with girls, I just don’t pine for them the way I do guys. If someone were to ask me if I was bisexual I would say no despite my actions.

By: Dave W

Dave W — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 09:20:05 +0000

Sophie,

My internal definition of bisexuality doesn’t require that a person be equally attracted to both sexes. That definition has evolved over time, and for a while now there’s been a threshold of being able to have a love relationship with either sex. As a longtime supporter of gay rights, this may have been a reaction against lesbian chic fashion. I did a little searching on the net before responding, and information on bisexuality seems to have improved in the last few years. I may alter my definition to include people who’ve consistently been attracted to or had sexual relationships with both sexes.

By: Sophie

Sophie — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 08:18:30 +0000

Bisexuality has never meant to be equally attracted to both sexes. Except if all straights can picture themselves having sex (and pleasurable sex) with someone of their sex and gays with someone of the opposite, then I agree that bisexuality is about having an equal interest in both men and women. As I highly doubt it, we can assume bisexuality is a sexual orientation by its own, whether the self-described bisexual is more gay, straight, or equally attracted to men and women.
I find it quite questionnable to say the girl isn’t bisexual. What is she, then? A straight falling for a “lesbian chic” trend? That’s quite unfair. Let’s leave the girl identify herself and accept it, because none of us has walked in her shoes.
Plus, why the threesome would be a problem if she was equally attracted to both men and women? Zac is straight, why couldn’t he be the one falling for someone else? I can understand Zac jealousy, of course, but what about Zoe? Isn’t she (or wasn’t she) afraid to lose her boyfriend for one of the girl they invited in their bed?

By: Dave W

Dave W — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 08:09:56 +0000

I guess I finally get it, though it makes me kinda sad. If Zac’s GF were truly bisexual(which she’s not in my book), then he wouldn’t be able to handle their threesomes, right? The thought of her being capable of having a married life with a woman, instead of only enjoying sex with one, would make threesomes into a situation where hearts could get involved, not just friendly frolicking. Bonus points for Zoe – she’s trusted him all along.