Dr. Kate: I Orgasm in My Sleep

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Dear Dr. Kate,

I’ll just cut right to the chase: I have orgasms in my sleep, what can be called “wet dreams.” When I dream something erotic (even if it’s just my husband and I having sex), not only do I become aroused, but I have actual orgasms. I would say I have several wet dreams a month.

Now, I’m not complaining — it’s kind of awesome, to be honest! — but I want to know how common this is amongst women? Because I’ve never heard of women having wet dreams. Men, yes…women, no. Although, my own husband hasn’t ever had a wet dream. I find that strange, because I always thought that men are the only ones to have them.

So what’s the deal?

— Sexy Sleeper

Dear S.S.,

You’re not alone. The 1950s sex researcher Alfred Kinsey estimated that 40% of women will experience an orgasm while asleep before the age of 45. And these unconscious orgasms seem to be more common as we get older (something to look forward to!). The going theory is that during sleep, our normal inhibitions don’t hold us back, so things that we find erotic — even if disturbing or “forbidden” — will arouse us in a way that wouldn’t happen while we’re awake. And women may climax faster when asleep, for the same reason. For good or bad, these orgasms are not usually voluntary or under conscious control — so there’s no point in trying to prevent them.

Having orgasms while sleeping is not a sign of sexual dysfunction, and they’re not a comment on the quality (or quantity) of your sex life. While there’s some crazy psychoanalytic research out there about what sleep orgasms signify, I think they’re just a sign of a highly tuned sexual system, one that’s built for our pleasure round the clock. So enjoy!

Best of health,

Dr. Kate
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Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. She also lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. Check out more of her advice and ask her a question at Gynotalk.com.


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37 Comments on "Dr. Kate: I Orgasm in My Sleep"


J.D.
2 months 15 days ago

Bittersweet,

I 100% agree with Amandah. Being a born-again Christian nor having religious symbols in your home does not prevent the spiritual husband from entering in or manifesting. Even the demons & satan himself believes in Jesus. Having sex isnt the only way for this demon to enter in either. At any point that lust has enteted in, even in the heart, or if your eyes have been compromised by seeing things they shouldnt is potential for this spirit to enter in. This demon also has the ability to lay dormant for many years, or its possible that its been working in dreams or even while you sleep without you knowing it. Having orgasms while sleeping is just one sign. Have you ever felt a presence in your sleep, ever felt like a hand or a body near you while sleep, or that stage of inbetween sleep. It also effects other areas of life too. Its a very jealous & territorial spirit. Look up the incubus spirit for yourself & just read. Seek deliverance because i know from experience too that it’s not only affecting you w orgasms in your sleep.
I say this with the greatest love & concern for a sister-in-Christ.

Bittersweet
3 months 9 days ago

Ps again…..having twice a year sex dreams is surely not destroying My life either.

Bittersweet
3 months 9 days ago

PS….I read Amanda’s comment & I have God in My Life. Have always been a Christian. I have no Husband to even be mad at. I live alone. Haven’t had sex with a Man for over ten years. So I have no sex demon rebelling against My husband because I am single. The sex dreams happen twice a year, not all of the time. I have a picture of Jesus hanging up right in My bedroom. And Mary’s statue in My kitchen. And Jesus on the cross at The inside of My doorway entrance from outside so people who visit can be blessed when they enter My home. So I think the sex slave thing is nonsense. I think Our brains release Our inner sexual desires once in awhile to keep Our hormones in tact. Nothing more…nothing less. Just at age 63 it’s annoying…I have no desire for sex at this age because I have been going through menopause for over ten years.

Bittersweet
3 months 9 days ago

I am 63 yrs old. I have not been with a partner for over ten years thus, I live alone. I am sick of periodically humping the bed….it is actually frustrating. It wakes Me up & I feel horrible down there because I can’t release. There is no one usually in My dream but Me. Once in a blue moon it is a faceless Man. It wakes Me up & I feel like crap down there inside. I have been going through menopause for over 10 years so the night sweats are horrible as well as during the day. Does this ever stop???? It is very frustrating.

RED
3 months 13 days ago

Get help AmanDUH!!!!