Other peopleâ€™s dreams are never interestingâ€¦except when theyâ€™re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I am in a relationship. It has its ups/downs but I love him. Yet I have recurring dreams about having sex with other men. Actually, I’ve even had many dreams about having sex with women. Recently I dreamed I had threeway sex with my boyfriend and another man. What could this mean?
Lauri: Usually I need a few more details so that I can give you more insight into what you may be telling yourself through the dream. For example, the actions leading up to the sex, whether these other men are actual people you know, the setting of the dream, etc. But I believe the way you opened your message says enough. It seems that, even though you do indeed love your boyfriend, there is something missing in the relationship as far as you are concerned. Keep in mind, sex in dreams is rarely about physical sex you desire but more about filling a void in your own life or in your own personality.
Is the olâ€™ intimacy department A-Okay? Is he able to hit all the right buttons, rub all the right spots, and tickle all the right magic areas for you? If so, then these dreams suggest the relationship itself — not the sex — is lacking certain qualities you desire. Take a good look at the men you are partnering with in the dream. Is there anything about these people, any quality or behavior of theirs that you wish your boyfriend hadâ€¦or even that you wish you could possess? Having an awesome job or being a good listener, for example? The girl-on-girl dreams may indicate that you desire a partner that is more sensitive to your needs, a better listener, more empatheticâ€¦like we gals tend to be! And that fun dream with you, your boyfriend and another man, well, again another indication that you may need a bit more in your relationshipâ€¦NOT MORE GENITALSâ€¦just more attention.