Comments on: Wise Guys: Are You Down with Just Cuddling All Night?

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 13:55:12 +0000

I just fell in love with the most amazing man I have ever met, and we are both deeply in love with each other. We can’t take our eyes away from one another and he has proclaimed his love for and says it several times a day. Our love is so strong and we also have a strong element of passion and he enjoys making out and at times when it starts getting too sexual I just let him know I am not ready yet. Last night I slept over in his room because we missed each other so much and we did not have sex. It was so beautiful, and the best sleep I ever had. It made the passion between us even more exciting and more loving and I love the idea of sleeping together without sex. I want to wait with him because he is so special to me.

By: T

Sat, 15 Aug 2009 08:00:01 +0000

My boyfriend and I (I am a woman) have had many sleep-overs that did not involve sex. A year and a half of dating, and no sex at all. I was very upfront right from the start that I would not be having sex with him as long as we were only dating, and he agreed to this. He knows all my reasons, and he sees the logic behind them. We do lot’s of making out, but eventually we just say good night and go to sleep in each other’s arms.

By: Black Iris

Black Iris — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 20:27:44 +0000

If a guy doesn’t want to hurry into sex, can’t he just not make a pass in the first place? Or even, perish the thought, tell a horny woman to wait?

By: Rissa

Rissa — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 18:51:18 +0000

Before my husband and I put a label on our intimate relationship we were pretty close friends, so I didn’t think anything of sleeping over his house. One night I gave him this schpele about cuddling and how it helped me sleep blah blah blah. So, we gave it a shot — that shot did not work out! The only thing cuddling did for me was fast track me right to the sex! Which I enjoyed very much! So I guess cuddling without sex is possible, as long there’s no touching! lol

By: nic

nic — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 15:47:50 +0000

I love that the responses so far have all been from men!! A true glimpse into the male psyche.

By: Antonio

Antonio — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 14:00:23 +0000

Yes, I’m with Johnny here. We all need some easing up into relationships – and even into casual sex ! Even guys !
So the rule is there is no rule, and just take whatever time you want to do whatever you want to do together.

Personnally, I find first night sex fun but a bit awkward, and sleeping over with cuddles just nice, and it makes both of you confortable for higher and better things.

By: dale

dale — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 10:01:39 +0000

re Straight Single Guy:
I think is is a bit sad that the age-old narrative of “women don’t really want sex for themselves, so they give it out as a bonus to men who have to work for it” is perpetuated on Em&Lo.

By: Dave W

Dave W — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 21:36:37 +0000

Yeah, “make him work” and “get creative” sound like game-playing. How about just continuing to have a good time while being patient? You know, like, agreeing to take it slow.

By: AlanK

AlanK — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 21:35:51 +0000

Straight Single Guy has it right. Here’s a lyric from Eric Anderson:

Now and then I think about Rachael who I once followed up some steps
And I think it was Georges Clemenceau who once said
That the highlight of making love first time
Was to watch a woman from behind climbing up the stairway to her room

By: Johnny

Johnny — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 20:24:16 +0000

One immaculate sleep-over is fine – even fun. But no more than one. And preferably, sex immediately. My best relationships, including the one I’m in now, began with sex right away.

Max, man… where’d you get all that? You sound like a Rules Girl.