Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Should I pay more attention to my boyfriend’s balls?
Straight Single Guy (Mark): Well, at least don’t forget about them. Getting past the generic notion that everyone’s preferences are different, and thus communication with your partner is key — absolutely true of course — I’d imagine that some guys rather enjoy the attention there, others could take it or leave it, and still others might even be quite averse to any focus there. It could even vary from session to session depending on the mood. I’d probably most equate it to nipples for gals — certainly an erotic component of the sensual buffet that shouldn’t be completely neglected by any means, but bottom line, they’re not the feature attraction. Pay attention to them to the extent that they’re a complementary ingredient to an exquisite main course, and accordingly, season to, um, taste.
Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): I’m sure it’s not what you meant, but if you don’t pay attention, you can accidentally hurt him. Which brings up the most important thing about paying attention to his balls: even if you’re careful, he still might flinch until he’s sure you won’t hurt them. The great news is the skin covering balls is marvelously sensitive. And responsive! Most women have had partners who can’t get enough of using a light touch to crinkle their nipples…and then to soften them again by cupping or mouthing to warm them back up again. You can do much the same thing to crinkle his balls and then relax them again. It won’t hurt him, the combination of sensations will feel good to him, and you may find it just as fascinating. Final hint? It feels wonderful to have one’s balls lightly tickled or scratched during orgasm.
Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Yes. Yes. And Yes. And why stop there for that matter? Pay more attention to his inner thighs, his butt, his butthole (definitely there!), the nape of his neck, his ears, his collarbone, his nipples. My point here is that there are a lot of sexual organs on the male body other than the cock (and brain, of course). A lot of guys need to be re-programmed to thinking of their whole body as a network of erogenous zones. Likewise, a lot of men need to taught that a woman’s sexual areas are more than her breasts and pubic area. Am I right or what?
But back to the balls specifically. A guy’s nuts can be very sensitive and give all kinds of pleasure. Some guys are so sensitive, you could probably make him climax with just scrotal stimulation. One guarantee: play with this ball sac for better blowjobs! The kind of attention required varies from guy to guy, so try everything and be attentive to the reactions. Sucking and tonguing his balls while they are in your mouth, pulling the sac down with your hand and also licking the backside area — especially the area between the scrotum and the anus. And when using your tongue, mix it up: flick, swerve. explore, and use broad licks like a lollipop too.
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Gay Guy is one-time stripper and sex columnist Daniel; our Straight Married Guy is Figleaf, the guy behind RealAdultSex.com; and our Straight Single Guy is Mark Luczak, a tech geek at Carnegie Mellon University. To ask the guys your own question, click here.