Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What do men in general think about cougars?”
Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman):
â€śI am Cougar, hear me roar,
In years too big to ignoreâ€¦â€ť
If it isnâ€™t already, this should be the anthem for the beloved cougar.Â Prowl on, ladies! Honestly, whatâ€™s the big deal?Â OK, so maybe it is a sexual desire fueled largely out of a denial that one is rapidly aging off this mortal coil. Weâ€™re all headed there anyway, arenâ€™t we?Â Why not grab a little nubile ass on the way out? What the cougar phenomenon tells us is that (1) we like coming up with weird monikers for sexually-active women (see MILF); and (2) this country still has a problem with casual sex as it relates to women.
Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): The cougar is a bit of an anomaly to me. On the one hand, cougars have experience, confidence and generally pleasing physical attributes, all of which are very attractive characteristics. On the flip side, they can be difficult to please and tend to try too hard. Personally, I find confidence attractive, but a truly attractive woman doesnâ€™t have to try so hard to be sexy. So cougars aren’t generally my thing. But every now and again I’ll run into that mature woman who looks me in the eyes like sheâ€™s ready to pounceâ€¦and I hope she does. I think the trick to the sexy cougar is subtlety. If you can pull off a look 20 years below your age without appearing like it took you 20 years in the mirror to accomplish, you haveÂ mastered cougar purrfection. Grrr baby, very grrr.
Straight Married Guy (Jim): It seems like a largely positive stereotype and I’m all for it.Â However, the importance of not dressing like you just chalked your first ID can not be overstated.Â That makes me sad.
Our â€świse guysâ€ť are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Jim from New York, our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter, and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett, owner of the LA PR firm Barnett Ellman. To ask the guys your own question, click here.