Your Call: Can a Bad Boyfriend Make a Good Booty Call?

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Dear Em & Lo,
I am in a situation where I can’t let go of my ex boyfriend. We dated for almost a year and in the beginning I felt loved, but as time went on he stopped calling. He wouldn’t answer my calls, didn’t reply to my texts — and that went on for 6 months. I broke up with him and then, three days later, went back to him. Currently I have a boyfriend and when things don’t go well in our relationship I always go to my ex for comfort. As much as I hate to admit it, I still love him and feel like he is the only person who gets me. So I thought maybe we could be friends with benefits, because he’s not a good boyfriend. What should I do?
–Pining


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8 Comments on "Your Call: Can a Bad Boyfriend Make a Good Booty Call?"


LR
5 years 11 months ago

Honestly, I’m in the same situation. Except I was with him for over 7 and a half yrs. I left him because I was feeling neglected and other stupid crap. Now I want him back and he doesn’t want it. We live in two different cities now so its kind of hard to get him back. He got a taste of freedom I guess. We still talk and believe me he was the best sex I’ve ever had. I would want to have him as a fwb too but we both know I want more than that and since he doesn’t it will only cause me more pain. We would definately have sex if we lived in the same city even when we first broke up we traveled just to have sex. I wanted more he didn’t so that went to shit. So here I am wondering if he could still just be a fwb. I’m thinking its not a good idea. Right? Try telling my heart to get over him and my vagina to stop wanting his penis. So to Pining I think we need to find a better sex partner than our ex and then we’ll get over them.

kb
6 years 8 days ago

figleaf said it all. Don’t go for booty call or fwb if you want more. He probably won’t change his mind. that said, the reason some of my booty calls/fwbs aren’t boyfriends is because I know they’d make bad ones.

TS
6 years 9 days ago

Unfortunately, it seems the best sex I’ve had has been with the WORST boyfriends. Men who weren’t even boyfriend material. Maybe it’s the passion of the forbidden fruit, that they’re unavailable. Men who are bad boyfriends are often a bit promiscuous, so they have lots of experience.

But most importantly, it’s nice to have a booty call with someone you’re familiar with, who knows your body and who you don’t have to act like strangers after. Hmmm, maybe I should make some calls…

Rei
6 years 10 days ago

Did I read this right? A current boyfriend, and wants to have sex with her ex-boyfriend. Uh, cheating, great you stoooopid girl!!!

Sarah
6 years 10 days ago

You are about to enter a world of pain. Sincerely. FWB is really great when you don’t want more. Bootycall is great when you simply want the sex. But this sounds like you want the person more than anything.