Comments on: Confession: Romance, Schromance

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:43:34 +0000

Great article, Abby. You said: “My hippie-parents are a rare specimen.” I wouldn’t bet on it.

(OK, the Man does a hell of more farting than I do, but the other stuff sounds suspiciously familiar.)

Sometimes, in our decades together, he will buy me flowers or candy, but usually because I am depressed or upset about something, (and he buys me “Score” candy bars after we have sex, despite the fact that the “joke” was old about 10 years ago. He must still think it’s funny. “I scored. Hahahaha.” “Yeah, so did I.”) and he usually buys them as a last thought while checking out at the supermarket.

I’m not a Romantic, either. I forgot our Anniversary last year! LOL!

By: Natasha

Natasha — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 03:56:25 +0000

wow… so many people said it best… i love you and your thoughts lol wow … im so happy u mentioned ur parents maybe i will find love… please don’t ever stop writing lol this really put me in a better mood

By: Alice

Alice — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:59:01 +0000

I never thought I’d be romantic, lovey dovey or enjoy all those cliche things. That did change when I met my boyfriend. I’d like to think that we did not start off typically but we are very close and in love.

Yes, we are very comfortable with each other. Not like roll in filth comfortable, but can take showers together without any sexual overtones. But the romantic gestures we do are a way of differentiating ourselves from friends and reminding each other of our love. He is very romantic at times.

That said, that’s just us. Other people have their own styles. Like he says, “different strokes for different folks”.

By: Maddie

Maddie — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 22:23:21 +0000

You know what I’ve come to realize…..guys aren’t romantic, at all. They don’t think that way. My bf isn’t wired to think to pick me up flowers from the grocery store. But they do have it in them to do the occasional cute thing, like bringing you Starbucks or making the bed in the morning. I think it counts more when its not cheesy.

By: Sooter

Sooter — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 17:07:20 +0000

I think there’s room for everyone in this discussion. One of the things I like about someone is when they’re comfortable to be around, but I also respect thoughtful, “romantic” gestures (like flowers and, eventually, picking up the dog shit that makes them grow). It’s a way of showing you that you’re special, that you’re different from all of the other tequila swilling friends with benefits. I do agree with Jessica that dating would be a lot friendlier if people were honest from the get-go, but our current culture of dating makes people insecure. And if Mr. Cusack would like to present himself outside my window, I’d gladly let him in.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:44:08 +0000

That’s why I hate dating! This reminds me of a John Cusack rant in Must Love Dogs. Basically, when you first start seeing someone everyone is on their best behavior, afraid of scaring off the potential mate. After awhile, you theoretically gradually loosen up to be the real you. At which point, that’s when one of you realizes “hey! you’re not who you said you were” or something to that effect. then you break up. if we were all a tad more real up front (perhaps not farting right from the get go), we wouldn’t waste our time in pointless dating games.

By: Emily

Emily — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:01:07 +0000

me, too

By: Rolando

Rolando — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:34:27 +0000

I think I love you, Abby Spector.