Comments on: Confession: I Need More Hot Sweaty . . . Cuddling

By: Pinkose

Pinkose — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 09:40:53 +0000

When I was getting I was getting random urges to curl up in the laps of my classmates in high school (I solved that by hugging my mother), my father found this website. http://www.cuddleparty.com/
It is for people who just want some human contact. As the introduction on the front page says “A Cuddle Party is: A structured, safe workshop on boundaries, communication, intimacy and affection. A drug and alcohol-free way to meet fascinating people in a relaxing environment. A laboratory where you can experiment with what makes you feel safe and feel good.

This playful, fun workshop has been a place for people to rediscover non-sexual touch and affection, a space to reframe assumptions about men and women, and a great networking event to meet new friends, roommates, business partners and significant others.

Can Cuddle Party restore your faith in humanity? It just might. But at the very least, you’ll have a great time, and leave feeling relaxed and inspired.”

This sound like just what you need.

By: Sammy

Sammy — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 12:22:15 +0000

Abby, you don’t seem to have an issue with sex to me. There’s good and bad parts to it and for the purposes of this article you highlighted some of the messier bits of the act. In doing so, you were doing nothing but being a good writer. Big ups.

I read this article because of the title and it sort of sounds like something I’m interested in right now. However, I do wonder what the stats are on how many men actually like casual cuddling. I think alot of them do it (not for the emotional aspect) but so they can get sex later.

By: Dave W

Dave W — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 05:45:24 +0000

Any cuddle parties at Wesleyan?

By: Hambydammit

Hambydammit — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 21:27:52 +0000

The words you’ve used here are very telling. When there is passionate cuddling, it makes sweaty sheets, and you miss that. When there’s “Penis and vagina” (how… clinical…) it makes “dirty sheets” that you don’t miss at all.

But they’re the same sheets, except for a little wet spot.

The way you talk about sleeping with someone is also very telling. All this about “swords” and dropping masks and so forth.

Abby, your life is your own, and I’m not going to tell you that you ought to do anything at all, but Cami is right. You’ve got some rather negative associations with sex, and it’s possible for humans to view sex in a much more positive light, and gain quite a bit of self-actualization from the experience.

I hope you find a happier place, and I hope you can make healthy, happy sex a part of it.

By: Cami

Cami — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 06:06:40 +0000

You have some issues with sex you need to address in therapy.

By: GG

GG — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 22:48:07 +0000

You said what I couldn’t

By: E

Wed, 21 Oct 2009 22:25:10 +0000

This is so true. Great essay!

By: Dannie

Dannie — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:52:49 +0000

@ Johnny:

Lots of soft, smothering blankets!

By: Carrie

Carrie — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:59:18 +0000

I know the feeling. The first guy I had sex with only liked to cuddle pre-sex, but when we’d fall asleep, it was with his back to me. Understandable as I needed some space to cool down too, but I always wished I had the option. Now with my current boyfriend, we spend the whole night holding onto each other, regardless of if we’re cold or too hot to even have the sheets on. Since he recently left for a 6 month deployment, I’m already missing the cuddling more than the sex!

By: Johnny

Johnny — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:09:52 +0000

How besides sex are you going to get sweaty before you cuddle? Non-sexual sweat isn’t exactly appealing.