Other peopleâ€™s dreams are never interestingâ€¦except when theyâ€™re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I’ve been in a relationship with a great guy for few months, and I’m really happy. Last night, however, I went to bed somewhat annoyed at my boyfriend for being uncharacteristically distracted when I was trying to tell him about the bad day I’d had.
Then I had a dream that I hooked up with my cousin, who in real life is the closest thing I have to a brother. In the dream, things got pretty steamy, and we both knew we had to keep it a secret, so we were hiding. Suddenly, another one of my male cousins (one with whom I’m not close) walked in on us, and caught us in flagranteÂ delicto. Ashamed, I pulled back from my kissing cousin and saw that I was holding two pairs of panties in my hand. I was puzzled by this, as I knew one pair to be the one I’d been wearing, but I had no idea where the other one came from.Â Â What does this all mean?
Lauri: Going to bed miffed is certain to result in interesting dreams! In your case, you went to bed with your mind and your anger very much focused on what your boyfriend lacked. And so your dreaming mind compensated for that gaping hole by inserting someone into it that had given you that focus and attention before in real lifeâ€¦ your cousin! You describe him as a kissing cousin so maybe I donâ€™t need to soothe your creeped-out factor, but for the sake of any readers who are, let me assure you that most sex dreams arenâ€™t even about sex at all but are more about a psychological union you need rather than a physical union you desire. Very interesting that you got caught in the dream! Was the â€śkissingâ€ť relationship you had with your cousin something you kept secret?
The other cousin that caught you represents the â€śnormalâ€ť relationship everyone around you thought you had with your kissing cousin. And this is where the unfamiliar panties come inâ€¦ they represent the secret, that naughty little thing that you have been keeping â€śunder wrapsâ€ť all this time. â€śBottomâ€ť line (tee hee) is that your inner mind — at the time — longed for the kind of attention you got from your cousin, but also knew it was something that needed to remain hidden.