Comments on: Dear Em & Lo: Were We Ever Really in Love?

By: jim

jim — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:45:01 +0000

I could have really used girl friends like e&l to call my dumpers fuckface for me.

The problem is that if you’re an honest and open guy, when you get dumped all you can do is second guess everything. You hate yourself for not being a dick, but then know better and still hate yourself.

By: sweetthing

sweetthing — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 01:54:55 +0000

At least is was only a three year relationship. How would like to find out that after 22 yrs. of marriage and three kids that your husband tells you your marriage was a mistake. I asked why he married me then and he said because he loved me back then. So, I guess he doesnt now. Merry Christmas to me!!! Thanks alot

By: Jerry

Jerry — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 04:21:35 +0000

Em & Lo make good points. Bottom line, though, is that if Fuckface dumped you after 3 years, SHE didn’t love YOU. And would you really want to be with someone who wasn’t CRAZY about you, too? Some people would. I wouldn’t (which could explain why I’ve been single for 11 of the last 12 years… but I digress). If someone loves or loved you, you shouldn’t have to wonder the reasons why you broke up.

By: bigdoug

bigdoug — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 02:59:52 +0000

The only thing i would add is screw the ‘cherish the good times’ BS. You are better off without the heartless she-dog, take comfort in knowing that one day when she is old and alone, quite possibly she will wonder, ‘what ever happened to…’ you on the other hand will be hard pressed to remember her name.

By: JD

JD — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 01:55:14 +0000

The thing is that people can also be scared once they realize what the relationship really is. It may be safe to say that she was scared and made excuses as to why she could no longer be with you. Or it could have been a deep crush. If you feel you are in love with somebody one way I can tell you are in love is if you are willing to die for them. If you can easily jump in front of a bullet for somebody you truly love them. Some people say they would but they cant. That is just my look on love. And by the looks of it she probably wouldn’t have jumped in front of a bullet for you so I say don’t trip she ain’t worth it.

By: Gabi Patel

Gabi Patel — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 00:12:19 +0000

OH THIS IS SO SAD!!!!!

I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS IS HAPPENING!

By: JUDY

JUDY — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 08:59:43 +0000

l feel so sorry for you even though l went through it some 4 months ago. l even cursed myself of not having any man again in my life. He ruined eveything of mine including even failing my (KNEC) papers during that period because of stress.He was the only man l had put all my dreams on,he loved me yes but up to now l dont understant why he left because to his parting, he just told me he still loved me but wanted some room to solve his personal issues and left, he even changed his cell phone number. Thank God lm now relieved and now working under the Ministry of Agriculture. So my friend, that is part of life. You have to forget about everything and start planning afresh for your life. ITS YOUR LIFE and you have to admit to that.Go on!

By: patricia

patricia — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 06:30:37 +0000

Love is elusive, and few of us in this culture made of illusions have a clue about love. Love is given freely, and not dependent on “the other”. Loves lessons, and loves agonies are not for the weak. Read many classical literature pieces, and you may get a better idea about love than what we have adopted in this fast paced superficial “all-about-me” culture.
I do ache for all those who wrote, and I am very old, and can say, … Love is never what you think it is, and you are blessed if you have tasted the joy of feeling it with all your heart, no matter what pain it caused you. Blessings to all of us that have loved and lost, and found that love itself was worth it… if you really love you are always the better for it.

By: Chickie

Chickie — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:12:49 +0000

I feel for you as I have been head oer heels for a man I have been seeing for over two years..then one day boom he was gone no real reason other than I love you but gone..I was so upset it made me so Ill i could not eat nor sleep for months..6 six now I lost 46 lbs cried and the pain is still there..He was my soulmate there shall be no one else for me..Real Love exists when you find it old on to it treasure it for it may be gone>>>

By: Lyndsay

Lyndsay — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:39:41 +0000

Love can be an emotion, but a long term relationship like a marriage or serious dating soon loses its emotional love somewhat and should gain the act of love for one another. True love is an act done day in a day out whether you feel like it or not. I feel like the path to find that person is finding a true best friend that you are attracted to. My husband was first my friend, then my boyfriend, and now my husband. Butterflies turn into a lifelong friendship bond of love that surpasses all others. Many marriages fail because their concept of love is not correct. The butterflies don’t last forever day in and day out. The come here and there still, but our devotional love for each other is what lasts.