Other peopleâ€™s dreams are never interestingâ€¦except when theyâ€™re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
For several years I have worked with someone whom I find to be very attractive mentally, physically, and emotionally. In the last year he has become a supervisor, and so while we see each other at work, we no longer spend very much time together talking as we used to and our relationship seems less close. In the last year I have had a few dreams about him. The most recent dream I had was quite strange. I dreamed that I went into the break room at work and he was there reading a newspaper. He lowered the paper and smiled at me like he had been waiting for me, and at that point I realized he was reading the paper in the nude. I don’t remember being surprised or shocked at that but I was shocked to discover he was sitting in an easy chair in our break room. I was more concerned about where the chair came from than the fact that he had no clothes on.
Lauri: You donâ€™t need me to tell you that you had this dream because you miss him. But the details of the dream are quite interestingâ€¦ and quite telling of what has been going through your mind lately. The setting of your dream is the break room because that is the place where more intimate conversations often occur, since people are “off duty” while there, and it is also may be the only place you ever get to see him anymore. He is reading the newspaper because — when the two of you were together — you probably enjoyed “reading” his body language, his expressions, and perhaps even innuendos, and you may have even wondered if he could read yoursâ€¦ all the “information” you give him without using the exact words.
His nudity is connected to the open honesty you wish you could have with him. You would probably love to be able to “bare” your soul to him and he to you. Now, donâ€™t worry, your interest in the chair rather than in his naked bod doesnâ€™t mean that it is likely less than impressive. The concern over the chair is actually connected to your waking life concern over “where he sits” in regards to you. Whatâ€™s his position? Whatâ€™s he thinking?
Your dream reflects a desire to “open up” to him and “inform” him of your feelings so you can be sure of “where he sits” in his feelings towards you. The not knowing, Iâ€™m sure, is killing you.
Dreamer’s response: Thanks for the dream analysis. I found it to be spot on in most respects. The only part that perhaps wasn’t involved the location of the break room.Â Most of the conversations I have with this person occur in other parts of the building, not the break room.Â We are rarely there together and when we are in the room at the same time we are usually with others.Â A fewÂ coworkers have even asked about the status of our friendship because in the past we talked a lot and now our conversations are much less frequent and shorter.Â There is certainly a frustration within this relationship which you picked up on. Thanks again.Â It’s time for bed.Â I wonder what I will dream about tonight?
Lauri: The break room may not be where you and he had intimate conversations but rather it is a place where intimate conversations take place in general. People donâ€™t just talk about work in there, they talk about their lives. Your inner mind wants some open honesty with him. It is up to you whether to pursue that or not. Good luck!