Comments on: A Woman’s Handbag Is a Relationship Litmus Test

By: Timmay

Timmay — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 13:42:59 +0000

Purse fetishers-SEE THIS GROUP! Click on my name for the link-you are not alone!

By: ED

ED — Wed, 05 May 2010 01:31:51 +0000

I AGREE WITH THE ARTICLE, I HAVE NO PROBLEM HOLDING A WOMANS PURSE, I EVEN ENJOY HOLD A SOFT LARGE LEATHER HOBO. IT DOES NOT MEAN ANYTHING OTHER THAN YOU CARE FOR THE OTHER PERSON. THOSE POOR MEN WHO FEEL SO INSECURE AS TO HOLD THEIR GIRLFRIENDS HANDBAGS. I LOVE A PINKY IF IT IS PLACED CORRECTLY, IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN/COME TO PORTLAND OREGON WE ARE FAR MORE ADVANCED FOR THIS SUBJECT.

By: Ricky

Ricky — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 09:50:32 +0000

OH I LOOOVE holding a girl’s purse for her. I have a purse fetish, and love dry humping them. If we’re at her house, or another house, and she goes into the bathroom, i’m on top of her purse like white on rice, riding it like i’m at a rodeo! I can care less about all that litmus testing stuff. I don’t care if we’re in a public place and she asks me to hold it for her. I’ll do more than that!! I’ll hold it in front of me, and slam it into my crotch, creating an awfully hard tent pole!

By: Slartibartfast

Slartibartfast — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 01:45:35 +0000

I never really thought of the practice as any sort of litmus test, although I suppose it could serve that function. Dannie has the right take on it in my view. I’ve been happy to hold purses for both of my ex-girlfriends and innumerable girl friends without giving it a second thought. Occasionally a passing wag might comment “I like your purse” which is easily handled with “Thanks so much! I’ve always accessorized well.” It actually seems weird that anyone would feel their masculinity threatened by such a request. Hmmm… maybe I should go kick a puppy to attenuate any lingering feminization? Can I still exfoliate though?

By: twg

twg — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 19:37:02 +0000

I agree that testing someone over this is ridiculous, but yeah, if I just needed to adjust my shoes or something and asked a boyfriend to grab my purse for a second and he balked, I would wonder how much he was actually into me. Admittedly, I carry a big camo knapsack instead of a purse, but still.

Meanwhile, I thought that article in the Globe was ridiculous. Oh, I should date someone because they seem like they would stick by me when I’m sick? What about love and passion and values in common? Besides, even the most sturdy oak can break down under the right circumstances. You can’t know from the outset if someone is going to be there for you when the chips are down. You have to build something and hope you’re on the same page. Nothing is guaranteed, after all.

By: Johnny

Johnny — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 17:43:16 +0000

I’ll buy tampons, watch chick flicks, let a girl peg me, go monogamous, picket for gay rights… all that.

But do NOT hand me a pocketbook to hold.

She may as well say, “You stand here with my bag, while I run off with your balls!”

By: John

John — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 14:22:49 +0000

Wow. Why don’t you just call it “How to deviously see how much crap a guy will take from you”. Taking every good trait a man has and beating him over the head with it to purge it from him and teach him to hate women.

Jen’s article about men in Cancer Clinics was 10 times what this is. THAT’S what real men do. You on the other hand see that kind of behavior as stupid and gullible. /retch

By: Rei

Rei — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:41:07 +0000

The reason guys don’t want to hold a woman’s purse is because he doesn’t want to be perceived as a gay man. No man wants anything feminine on him, unless its a woman. Some guys are just too caught up on what other guys are going to think.

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 21:09:14 +0000

No, my Man won’t hold my purse, ever. We’ve been together decades, and legal (married) have kids together, have bought houses together, invested money together, love each other immensely. This has nothing to do with lack of ability to commit. We’ve been loyal to each other since the 80s.

This man also won’t buy female hygiene products, or even medication for himself when HE gets a yeast infection. He is not shy, but has some issues. LOL!

I don’t if or how a man holds your purse indicates anything about a relationship. Some men feel uncomfortable holding a purse, and see nothing wrong with it. At least not enough to worry about.

By: Dannie

Dannie — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:14:31 +0000

I don’t think this article is specifically telling heterosexual women to deliberately test their partners by handing over their purses and watching what happens. I think the goal here is mostly to make women aware that, if there is an instance where she genuinely needs to have her guy hold her purse, his reaction to that request can say a lot about him. It seems to me more a recommendation to pay attention rather than go around testing people, because I agree that tests like that can open many troublesome doors.