Comments on: Wise Guys: When Is It Okay for a Woman to Fart?

By: Mix

Mix — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:42:36 +0000

I agree that there shouldn’t be a double standard, but if you find it unsexy and your partner doesn’t respect your sexual desires, then you should get out of the relationship. Granted, dumping someone because they’re gassy is a little ridiculous to me, but if you find that it is seriously cramping your sex life, you might as well get out now before feelings get hurt.

Side note: my partner accidentally farted on our first date. I didn’t care, he didn’t care, and 22 months later we’re in a healthy, sexual relationship. And we fart in front of each other constantly.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 07:57:34 +0000

I fart in front of my guy and he farts in front of me and we haven’t been together quite five years. But after about one or two times of me passing gas and feeling completely embarassed and humiliated by it – he finally said “Baby, I love you and I know that you fart sometimes. I don’t care if you do that in front of me.” And so we do. I mean if you’re all down for that kind of uh… restraint, then its whatever. But I think it’s kind of silly.

Though I must say, personally my toots almost NEVER um, smell. It’s just air. (Which apparently is weird, since I’m about half a step from being a vegetarian). Certain foods mean smelly gas and if so, I run to the bathroom… no one should have to deal with that. But a silly noise? Get the heck over it is what I say.

By: Doug

Doug — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 13:28:46 +0000

I always felt that the golden rule, treat others as you would want to be treated, has a sub-clause: the golden relationship rule. And that is if I can do it, she can do it; if she can do it, I can do it. I wouldn’t be disgusted with myself if I accidentally ripped one, why would I be disgusted with her? Sure, I’ll try to hold it in and go fart in another room, but that’s courtesy, not something to promote an unnecessarily contrived image of myself as perfect.

As long as excuse me’s are said, I’m cool with it. There’s no reason for bad manners.

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 18:55:20 +0000

Elea, I don’t know why he does this. (I’m a nurse and I don’t remember this being covered in school, although there is a surgery for reflux which can prevent one from puking and sometimes burping as a side effect, he hasn’t had that surgery.) No idea why this happens. Just a variation with his GI.

And, yes, he has to do the same thing you do to get a burp out. Poor things.

By: Johnny

Johnny — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 18:31:54 +0000

Cally,

Yes, that’s how I’d take it. If I thought she was just throwing rectal restraint to the wind and letting fly every time she had to fart, or even a tenth of the time, I’d tell her I don’t like it. If she kept it up, that’s what I’d call persistently, insistently unsexy.

Unless she called, “SAFETY!” afterwards.

By: Elea

Elea — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 02:21:34 +0000

@Madamoiselle L
wow this is the first time i’ve read about that, i have that exact same thing as your man. I can’t burp! tried to learn it, doesn’t work. There’s like something in the way of letting it come up all the way.
It’s very frustrating and painful as-well. So i go into the bathroom, put my finger in my throat, therefore clearing the entrance, and then all the air comes out, just air.
I would be so curious to now why this is? Does he know?

By: Cally

Cally — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 21:59:35 +0000

This is really a non-issue. My boyfriend and I do not censor ourselves, except in extreme situations. We love each other as a whole, bodily functions and all. We burp and fart in front of each other, and yet somehow manage to still find each other incredibly wonderful and sexy! This is after 3 years, mind you.

Also, Johnny, what does “persistently, insistently behaving unsexily” mean? That they are stubbornly acting “unsexy”, just to spite you?

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 21:29:18 +0000

This is one of the most ridiculous conversations I have ever got into.

Decorum is, of course, called for. My Man tends to be proud of his farts, looks at me like he just accomplished something, or BLAMES me, and I assume this is a “Guy Thing.” Of course, after so many years together, I couldn’t care less. We had a friend going a few weeks ago, when, the men were hanging around, farting, I made a joke, “I don’t fart.” The guy believed me, my Man told him, “She burps like a trucker but no farts.” I am NOT a gassy person at all, but, I’m human. But we has this guy going for a while.

Oddly enough, my Man DOESN’T burp, I don’t know if there is something wrong with his upper GI system or what. If he needs to, he has to go IN AN OTHER ROOM (he learned that early, cuz it’s really gross) and….well, get the burp out. I am not going to go into detail.

What a strange conversation.

By: tay

tay — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:41:09 +0000

The difference is control. If you can control it and excuse yourself to the bathroom or another room, do it. if you cant, you cant; and your sig other gets THAT grossed out by it, there is probably some other issues there. For me, it is burping. I rarely, if ever, do it, and if i do it is 99% of the time controlable. I find it equally gross when men and women do it, but im not going to hate my boyf if he lets one slip ya know? It doesnt matter, man or woman. Manners are nice, and it is always ok to accidently let one slip. But imho even 35 years into the relationship, if you can hold it, do.

By: Leftos

Leftos — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:06:51 +0000

We had this exact question on our site, Leftos.com, but it was a guy asking the question. Coincidentally it was all women who answered the question and gave their 2 cents. Most of the women said they just don’t but it’s not because they aren’t comfortable doing it in front of their boyfriends…they just think it’s a bad image all together for a woman. Here’s the all whole post http://www.leftos.com/forum/view/328