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Other peopleâ€™s dreams are never interestingâ€¦except when theyâ€™re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
My boyfriend and I have been together for going on four years now; things are very serious, and weâ€™ve been making plans for the future together. In my dream, I had just finished all my work for the day and was alone and comfortable in my room, on my bed, all snuggled up and relaxed and warm. I remember that this was a particularly calm moment because the dream-me had had a really stressful day (not an unusual happening in real life).
Suddenly, I got really turned on thinking about my boyfriend in this dream, and started to masturbate to a very vivid fantasy of he and I having sex. It was almost like a dream within the dream. My fantasy of us having sex was very passionate, and in it he was being very dominant and aggressive — not in a dangerous way, but in a very sexually-in-control way.
This was exciting to me, and things started to get really hot as I was masturbating to this. Unfortunately, I woke up before I finished, thanks to my alarm clock. I have a feeling my dream was saying something very important — aside from turning me on! What’s going on…?
Lauri: Choking the chicken, auditioning the finger puppets, beating around the bush — call it what you will, this is not only a popular indoor activity, it is also a popular dreamtime activity. And just as masturbation in waking life is about pleasing oneâ€™s self physically, masturbation in a dream is about being pleased with oneâ€™s self.
Notice how you say in your dream, â€śI had just finished all my work for the day and was alone and comfortable in my room.â€ť Thatâ€™s a good indication that in some area of your real life you must have completed something you had been working hard on and were quite pleased with yourself. It could be work related but it could also be something else that finally came to a resolution or satisfactory ending for you.
The vision you used to stimulate yourself in the dream has meaning as well. In what area of your waking life has your boyfriend taken charge? Did he finally come around, after all your hard work, and say, â€śYes, letâ€™s do this planning-the-future thingâ€ť? Whatever the case, the dream is all about you and is the way your inner mind is rewarding you for a job well done!
Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! And donâ€™t forget: you can get access to Lauriâ€™s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site.