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Happy New Year!

December 31, 2010


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We hope you have a great New Year’s Eve, a very mild New Year’s Day hangover, and a nice long weekend off! We’ll be back with our regularly scheduled program on Monday. Thanks for a great year on EMandLO.com! In the meantime, here are some NYE/end-of-year-themed posts to ring in the new year…


Blog Snog: 5 Must-Haves for the Perfect Boyfriend

December 30, 2010


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Totally Unbiased Study: Saving Sex for Marriage Will Improve Your Relationship

December 30, 2010

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A new study shows that delaying sex until marriage will lead to a more satisfying and stable relationship, according to researchers at — get this — Brigham Young University. That’s the right, the university whose honor code bans porn, gay sex, sex outside of marriage, cussing, sleeveless shirts, alcohol, cigarettes, coffee, and tea (tea!) claims to have science on its side. Apparently couples who had sex the earliest — after the first date, say, or even in the first month of dating — had the worst relationship outcomes.

“What seems to happen is that if couples become sexual too early, this very rewarding area of the relationship overwhelms good decision-making and keeps couples in a relationship that might not be the best for them in the long-run,” says researcher Dean Busby, of Brigham Young University’s School of Family Life, sounding oh-so scientific and objective.

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Insecurity May Improve Your Chances in the Dating World

December 29, 2010


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We have long repeated the adage that confidence — whether real or faked — leads to success on the pick-up scene and in the dating world. But a new study by a psychology professor at Queens College in New York suggests the exact opposite: insecure people try harder in the dating world, which can lead to success at least as often as it can lead to your appearing desperate and needy. “Insecure individuals [present] themselves as warm, engaging, and humorous people,” the professor, Claudia Brumbaugh, writes. In other words, maybe insecure people who fake confidence actually do better than confident people who take their self-confidence for granted.

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Dear Dr. Vanessa: Is There a Morning-After Pill for STDs?

December 29, 2010


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Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here.

Dear Dr. Vanessa,

I know that women can use emergency contraception to protect themselves from pregnancy after unprotected intercourse, what about STIs?

– Little Miss Hopeful

Dear L.M.H.,

It is possible for women and men to protect themselves from some sexually transmitted infections after unprotected intercourse, but before a complete diagnosis can be made. This kind of protective treatment is sometimes called “post-exposure prophylaxis.” Prophylaxis is a prevention or protection against infection. (This is why the technical word for condoms is prophylactic.)

Protective treatment may be recommended by a clinician when someone is quite likely to have been exposed to certain infections through recent sexual contact. It can be attempted only for certain sexually transmitted infections, however. In the case of probable exposure to hepatitis B and HIV, the medication may prevent infection. This would be a true “prophylaxis.” “Prophylaxis” for hepatitis B and HIV must occur very quickly — in a few days –— following exposure.

The precise timing for protective treatment is different for hepatitis B than it is for HIV. Women and men who have been vaccinated against hepatitis B do not need to worry about exposure. To protect the unvaccinated against infection from possible exposure to hepatitis B, treatment must begin within 14 days. But the sooner treatment is started, the better.

Prophylaxis for hepatitis B is given in two ways. It can be provided in one injection of hepatitis B immune globulin. Or it can be given in a series of three injections of hepatitis vaccine over the course of six months. Treatment with the vaccine will protect against future exposure to hepatitis B.

To protect against infection from possible exposure to HIV, treatment should be started no later than three days — 72 hours — after potential exposure. The treatment is given with a combination of medications that must be taken orally for 28 days. Treatment with this “cocktail” is not a vaccine, however, and will not protect against future exposure to HIV. Read the rest of this entry »

Naked News: Teen Pregnancy, Fighting Sex Spam, and Judging Ugly People

December 28, 2010


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Wise Guys – What’s a Man’s Ideal New Year’s Eve?

December 28, 2010


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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What’s the ideal New Year’s Eve for a single straight guy/straight married guy/gay committed or single guy?”

anonymous_suitStraight Single Guy (Max): New Years, much like birthdays, should be fool-proof fun. Good friends, tasty beverages, and maybe something cuddly to look forward to. While a super sexy sassy lady is an ideal co-pilot for such occasions, I often prefer to spend such holidays without the chance of disappointment. In other words, if sexy naked time isn’t already in the bag, it might be better to avoid the frustration and settle for fun with my dude friends. Too often has there been too much drinking and not enough thinking with hopes that are held so high… and who wants to end a holiday feeling sorry for yourself? As some smart sportsman once said, “Nothing good ever happens after midnight,” and thus I say that if you aren’t smoochin when ringing in the new year, it’s probably best to focus on the heavy drinking and dancing and forget the dirty stuff. Even if you’re by yourself.

wiseguy_benStraight Married Guy (Ben): After you’re married and have kids – my wife and I just had our second – finding time to party isn’t the hard part. It’s finding time to recover. Shortly after our first was born, I went on an all-night bender with friends and for the next two days (yes it was that epic a night), I was completely out of it – total deadweight on the entire household; I felt terrible about it for weeks. So a perfect new years eve for us, right now, is really boring: probably not doing much of anything all that different than any other night. Maybe having a drink or two after the kids are sleeping. Then, seeing our close (and hungover) friends the next day, having brunch, going on a hike. Starting the year off right. Yawn. Smile.

Gay Single Guy (Bradford Shellhammer): Good wine. Good food. Good friends. A disco beat. Kissing strangers. And waking with a hangover with the person you love.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles who runs AdultParlorGames.com; our Gay Guy is fellow SUN blogger Bradford Shellhammer, the creative director of fabulis and a New York Times featured decorator; and our Single Straight Guy, Max, is a recent college grad in New England. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

Dream Interpretation: I Was Masturbating…Til My Alarm Woke Me

December 27, 2010


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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My boyfriend and I have been together for going on four years now; things are very serious, and we’ve been making plans for the future together. In my dream, I had just finished all my work for the day and was alone and comfortable in my room, on my bed, all snuggled up and relaxed and warm. I remember that this was a particularly calm moment because the dream-me had had a really stressful day (not an unusual happening in real life).

Suddenly, I got really turned on thinking about my boyfriend in this dream, and started to masturbate to a very vivid fantasy of he and I having sex. It was almost like a dream within the dream. My fantasy of us having sex was very passionate, and in it he was being very dominant and aggressive — not in a dangerous way, but in a very sexually-in-control way.

This was exciting to me, and things started to get really hot as I was masturbating to this. Unfortunately, I woke up before I finished, thanks to my alarm clock. I have a feeling my dream was saying something very important — aside from turning me on! What’s going on…?

Lauri: Choking the chicken, auditioning the finger puppets, beating around the bush — call it what you will, this is not only a popular indoor activity, it is also a popular dreamtime activity. And just as masturbation in waking life is about pleasing one’s self physically, masturbation in a dream is about being pleased with one’s self.

Notice how you say in your dream, “I had just finished all my work for the day and was alone and comfortable in my room.” That’s a good indication that in some area of your real life you must have completed something you had been working hard on and were quite pleased with yourself. It could be work related but it could also be something else that finally came to a resolution or satisfactory ending for you.

The vision you used to stimulate yourself in the dream has meaning as well. In what area of your waking life has your boyfriend taken charge? Did he finally come around, after all your hard work, and say, “Yes, let’s do this planning-the-future thing”? Whatever the case, the dream is all about you and is the way your inner mind is rewarding you for a job well done!

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! And don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site.


Top 10 Movie Sex Scenes of 2010

December 27, 2010


Okay, make that, the ten best movie sex scenes and/or kissing scenes of 2010. Things were a little prudish out there this year — you had to get your vicarious thrills where you could…and besides, we like to work with an all-inclusive definition of sex around these parts. Kissing counts too! (For the eagle-eyed regular readers: We know we posted this list a few weeks back, but it is our entry in a holiday traffic contest on our sister blog at SUNfiltered, so if you click here to check out scenes #6-#10, you’ll be doing us a huuuge favor. Mwah!)

  1. Get Him to the Greek: The awkward, let’s-not-do-this-again threeway. Low on chemistry, high on reality factor, unlike most on-screen threeways these days (yes, we’re talking to you, Gossip Girl). Oh yeah, and it’s an M-M-F threesome…meaning, Russell Brand and Jonah Hill totally French.
  2. Date Night: The sweet, married, sitting-side-by-side-in-a-diner-booth kiss. The one on the doorstep in broad daylight (hi, neighbor!) is not bad either. Hey, cheesy goes a long way after a decade or two of marriage. Let’s hear it for monogamy!
  3. Going the Distance: Naked ice cream sex play with the Mac guy, plus accidental exhibitionism over a sandwich? Awesome.
  4. The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo: The English language version is still more than a year away, but we’re sure the sex won’t be nearly as raw as it is in the Swedish movie released in early 2010. (The Swedes aren’t big on pretty when it comes to on-screen sex.) We don’t mean the revenge rape scene with extra-large dildo — though that did have its own satisfaction — but rather the matter-of-fact, woman-on-top, wham-bam-thank-you-sir booty call initiated by Lisbeth.
  5. The Runaways: Kristen Stewart — with sexy ’70s mullet — makes the move on Dakota Fanning (in rollerskates). Because when your band kicks punk ass and every other girl wants to be one or both of you, why not?

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE click here to read the rest of this list on SUNfiltered — you’ll help us win their holiday traffic contest!

People Who Get Paid to Touch Your Junk

December 27, 2010


This holiday season, spare a thought for the hardworking TSA agents who, though they get to wear blue latex gloves when they do it — unlike most prostitutes, one assumes — don’t get paid nearly enough to touch your junk. Also, we’re guessing that doctors and prostitutes aren’t regularly accused of attempting to “cop a feel” on the job. And to everyone out there who has ever accused an underpaid, overworked, frequently-yelled-at TSA agent of a bad touch (yes, we’re talking to you, Ms. Kardashian): keep your dirty little fantasies to yourself, please. Because we very much doubt that sweaty, stressed-out, shoe-less holiday travelers shuffling through the security line feature in the sexual fantasies of your average TSA agent. [via]

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