Comments on: Wise Guys: Do Men Snoop On Their Partners?

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 22:55:55 +0000

My current boyfriend emailed my X boyfriend from 5 years back. My current BF created a fake profile of a woman, contacted my X saying she (he) was new to the area and was looking for friends. My X took the bate and my current was digging to find out about my past sexual experiens with him. I just ended the relationship yesterday….psych!

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By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 18:16:19 +0000

My boyfriend snoops to find dirt on me constantly. I’ve asked him about it several times and he’s admitted that he doesn’t fully trust me. I don’t have anything to hide and I’m not exactly an open book so it doesn’t really bother me at the moment but what happens if this never goes away? He left the house (yes we live together amazingly) and I used his laptop which he left running. What I found left me almost speechless: instructions on how to clone a sim card… WTF

By: His Baby Mama

His Baby Mama — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 01:35:17 +0000

My baby daddy snoops on me all the time. He imagines in his own head that I would cheat on him. I love this dude so much but all he does is cause me stress that is not needed. Once he placed a tape recorder in our bedroom…of course nothing was on there but in his head he heard a male’s voice (must have been the t.v.)…and violated is what I now feel..the feeling stays rather he is here or not….this has been over a year and the accusing of cheating has still continously comes up…the other snooping is of my phone…and personal belongings. He says I have skeletons in the closet but it is him with the dark past (but i am not concerned of it- i want to focus on the now and the future). After the tape recording incident he proposed ….but how is it possible for us to wed IF HIS CRAZY ASS DOES NOT TRUST ME!? I am coming to the point where I do not think he loves me. How can you not trust someone and in the same sentence you say I LOVE YOU?!!

By: amo45

amo45 — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 00:46:57 +0000

Yes! they do and unfortunately just as women do they make things up from little pieces of what they THINK they find sad yes,but true.I’ve cared deeply for men who because of their own insecurities didn’t trust me.

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:35:56 +0000

My Man and I have Trust in each other. I don’t snoop on him, never go through his wallet, e mails, etc, and he leaves my stuff alone.

I have a couple of times looked at his history list, but he had referred to some, er, videos that he watched alone on the net, and wanted me to see them. He didn’t know how Mozilla “History” worked, or the name of the site where he saw them, so I viewed the videos and showed him how to view the history later. But, that was with consent, and for something he WANTED me to see. Not snooping.

I think Trust is something a couple NEEDS to build. Snooping is just so……insecure and needy and often brings up things that are seen as having more impact on the relationship, when in reality most are just innocent things.

I think if you DISTRUST your partner enough, either get some counseling, to help YOU get over your insecurity and trust issues, or if you have “enough” information something bad is going on, get out. What good is “proof” going to do, if the damage is already done? And IMO, if you have to snoop, the damage is already done.

By: Spes

Spes — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:44:58 +0000

My current husband wouldn’t bother snooping on me. He seems to have more of the mentality of Colin. However, my ex-husband snooped through my cell phone and actually called some of the numbers to confirm that they matched the name assigned to them–creeeeepy.

By: Johnny

Johnny — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:12:13 +0000

Bit of a broad question… it’s like asking “Do men cheat?” Some men do, some men don’t, some women do, some women don’t.

I dumped my GF hard and fast for snooping on me a few months back.

Two words: inadmissible evidence. I will not even discuss whatever a woman may find if she snoops on me. I immediately shut the discussion down and break up. Even if she makes her way back into my life, she will never, ever get closure from me regarding what what she saw. That’s my default policy on snooping: inadmissible evidence. You don’t even have the right to mention it to me.