Comments on: 10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/ Your daily dose of advice, news, and stories about sex, love, and other important stuff. No yoga mat required. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:40:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jackie http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-33925 Jackie Wed, 28 Sep 2011 07:24:51 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-33925 I've had this problem for years. I always believed that I was in that group of women that just wasn't stimulated enough during any kind of intercourse that didn't include a vibrator to achieve an orgasm. I've actually withheld from any kind of stimulation for the past month because I thought there was no point to get myself worked up without my vibrator nearby. But, I have to admit that literally right after I read this article I tried these tips and I had my first non-vibrator induced orgasm. It was just as, if not more, intense than any orgasm I've ever had with my vibrator. Thank you so much! I’ve had this problem for years. I always believed that I was in that group of women that just wasn’t stimulated enough during any kind of intercourse that didn’t include a vibrator to achieve an orgasm. I’ve actually withheld from any kind of stimulation for the past month because I thought there was no point to get myself worked up without my vibrator nearby. But, I have to admit that literally right after I read this article I tried these tips and I had my first non-vibrator induced orgasm. It was just as, if not more, intense than any orgasm I’ve ever had with my vibrator. Thank you so much!

]]> By: Michelle http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-28017 Michelle Mon, 31 Jan 2011 08:57:34 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-28017 This is really the ONLY set of practical tips on the web. Everywhere else it's ONLY a vague "practice", or worse, "cold turkey" which leaves one with no orgasms at all. Actually worked, too. Just a small one at first, but that's a start! :D Pretty soon I'll be able to sleep with people in good conscience. This is really the ONLY set of practical tips on the web. Everywhere else it’s ONLY a vague “practice”, or worse, “cold turkey” which leaves one with no orgasms at all.

Actually worked, too. Just a small one at first, but that’s a start! :D

Pretty soon I’ll be able to sleep with people in good conscience.

]]> By: Amanda http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-18737 Amanda Fri, 08 Oct 2010 10:16:10 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-18737 What worked for me was hiding the vibrator... waited a few days, and couldn't take it anymore. I mentally broke down, got some lube, popped the hood and went to town. I'm still working on not being able to get off whenever I have sex with my boyfriend, but being on top, I've gotten damn close. ;] Wish I would've thought of a google search to answer my problem before... Oh well, I hope this helps someone. :] What worked for me was hiding the vibrator… waited a few days, and couldn’t take it anymore. I mentally broke down, got some lube, popped the hood and went to town.

I’m still working on not being able to get off whenever I have sex with my boyfriend, but being on top, I’ve gotten damn close. ;]

Wish I would’ve thought of a google search to answer my problem before… Oh well, I hope this helps someone. :]

]]> By: jenny http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-10252 jenny Mon, 22 Mar 2010 02:27:53 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-10252 I learned this from I Heart Female Orgasms: Go ahead and masturbate with your vibrator, but right before you climax cut the power and just stop. Repeat this at least 5 more times (or as many as you can stand without coming). It will feel like it's taking forever but the buildup makes the payoff amazing, and that's what makes it great practice for partnered sex. I learned this from I Heart Female Orgasms:

Go ahead and masturbate with your vibrator, but right before you climax cut the power and just stop. Repeat this at least 5 more times (or as many as you can stand without coming). It will feel like it’s taking forever but the buildup makes the payoff amazing, and that’s what makes it great practice for partnered sex.

]]> By: Jamie http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-10251 Jamie Mon, 22 Mar 2010 01:12:31 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-10251 This is the exact reason I've never used a vibrator. I'm afraid to get dependent on it. I think I probably started experimenting with manual masturbation around 14, and was an old pro at it by the time I actually got around to being in bed with a guy. I've contemplated buying toys....but ultimately decide that I'm doing just fine without it. This is the exact reason I’ve never used a vibrator. I’m afraid to get dependent on it. I think I probably started experimenting with manual masturbation around 14, and was an old pro at it by the time I actually got around to being in bed with a guy. I’ve contemplated buying toys….but ultimately decide that I’m doing just fine without it.

]]> By: Emma http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-10204 Emma Sat, 20 Mar 2010 08:57:32 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-10204 LMFAO - I love the O face pics too! Top row middle pic and middle row right pic are my FAV's. LMFAO – I love the O face pics too! Top row middle pic and middle row right pic are my FAV’s.

]]> By: Helixbill http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-9961 Helixbill Fri, 12 Mar 2010 12:51:39 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-9961 Putting pressure on yourself to orgasm is going to guarantee failure. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner about what turns you on. He will appreciate the pointers if he is wanting to please you. If he is not willing to be patient and only wants to 'get his' dump him and find a better partner. Don't forget that sex is supposed to be enjoyable, not stressful! Putting pressure on yourself to orgasm is going to guarantee failure.

Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about what turns you on. He will appreciate the pointers if he is wanting to please you. If he is not willing to be patient and only wants to ‘get his’ dump him and find a better partner.

Don’t forget that sex is supposed to be enjoyable, not stressful!

]]> By: Snowman http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-9896 Snowman Tue, 09 Mar 2010 16:26:16 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-9896 I'd love to be with a lady who would use a toy while I was with her. I think it's fun. Your boyfriend missed out. I’d love to be with a lady who would use a toy while I was with her. I think it’s fun. Your boyfriend missed out.

]]> By: Suzanne http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-9887 Suzanne Tue, 09 Mar 2010 12:56:36 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-9887 This post reminds me that I ought to give manual stimulation a try. I've become so lazy these days with the range of toys available to me. This post reminds me that I ought to give manual stimulation a try. I’ve become so lazy these days with the range of toys available to me.

]]> By: LoveHoney - Carly http://www.emandlo.com/2010/03/dear-em-lo-can-i-learn-to-orgasm-without-my-vibrator/comment-page-1/#comment-9886 LoveHoney - Carly Tue, 09 Mar 2010 11:55:41 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=8749#comment-9886 All of this is spot on. We always recommend enjoying the sensations of masturbation and stimulation, rather than ignoring everything else in favour of an orgasm. The build up is pretty nice after all. All of this is spot on. We always recommend enjoying the sensations of masturbation and stimulation, rather than ignoring everything else in favour of an orgasm. The build up is pretty nice after all.

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