Comments on: Poll: How Do You Know When a Relationship Is Ending?

By: Robee

Robee — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 09:44:26 +0000

I am going through a 18 year breakup. He does not have time for me. Thare is always an excuse. He up and kicked me out aftr 15 years. He then started seeing a girl he works with. We still see each other but he does not call me like he used to, makes up excuses, never sees me and always expects sex, different sex than what we used have. Does not ever offer to spend time with me.

By: Katie

Katie — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 02:44:39 +0000

My ex and i lived in two different states. i missed him terribly and we saw each other every couple of months but the first time he came here i wasnt as excited and i thought i should be. and i knew then something was wrong. i stopped wanting to call him as much and its like we faded away from each other.

By: Gary

Gary — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 00:33:57 +0000

is it over r did it ever realy start think about it was it a fling are puppy love trust me i have been married three times and the first two times it never realy started could not see it then but now that i have met the love of my life i know for shore that the others was like a realy long fling but this is how u know that its ending and that is when they put the love of ur life in the ground and if thats not how it ended then it never began

By: Madamoiselle L

Madamoiselle L — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 13:46:51 +0000

@ Hopelessly Single when you even have an INKLING that he’s married, it should be over! (i.e. have a “long distance” relationship and realizing he lives in the same town.)

Lauren, I think it depends how old you are. If you are in your teens or early 20s, and he’s doing this, it’s pretty normal, if you are in your 30s or older, and he’s *always* choosing his buds over you, he’s a boy/man and probably will never grow up. By 30 or so most grown ups have paired up, (not all, but most) and see their friends much less frequently. Again, your mileage may vary. Trying to get a commitment out of a guy, over 30 or not, who is just not ready, or doesn’t feel this is THE relationship, is an exercise in futility. You can’t make someone do something they don’t want to do, not well.

That being said ALL men and women need their same sex friends. Even in a long term relationship. As for “mutual commitment” is should never be assumed. It’s something you both have to agree to, verbally. DO NOT assume “we’re committed and monogamous” unless it has been discussed.

By: Johnny

Johnny — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 22:52:41 +0000

Yes, Lauren, you are over-reacting. Lay off his friend-time unless you want some serious resentment to set in.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 21:14:48 +0000

My boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and 6 months and he’s very laid back and a total go-with-the-flow type of attitude.
So there will be times when he’ll go out with his friends and I’ll call him to meet up and he won’t call back until like 1 in the morning …
then the next time I hang out with our groups of couples they will all have these inside jokes that I am an outcast too.
Am I over reacting by feeling like he is choosing his friends over me?? I have no problem with “boys nights”. But I feel like too after a year and a half we should have a mutual commitment of wanting that other person with you when you go out.

By: Randy

Randy — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 20:29:13 +0000

It’s Over when suddenly she doesnt want you to come over every nite to sleep with her,The constant texts and calls stop, starts getting bikini waxed, Lipposuctioned and Tummy tucked,Lots of Make-up and straightening her hair,Buying new lingerie from Victorias secret and Hot jeans from Expensive Stores, Then when she finds out her new “Beau” doesn’t want her either, she will be on here asking how to get Me Back. “Please forgive me!…I made a Terrible Mistake!, Let me prove myself”. All I feel now is Pity.What a shame, and waste of 3.5 Years of my Life.

By: julie

julie — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 09:34:37 +0000

when you realized it has been 2 weeks since you last heard or saw the guy. His excuse of “im really busy” seems suspicious and your mother actually asked the question of why he hasn’t been around to see you.

By: cindy

cindy — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 12:23:53 +0000

you no its over when you find out his ex hangs out at his house more than you do.when you complain he says its for the kids….and they are adults.

By: Lovereaction

Lovereaction — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:03:12 +0000

When I hate to see the man eat, I know things are over.