However, for the record, I was the one who had the salad while she had grilled marrow bones. And stole my french fries while I tried to eat my burger. Still, She Who Must Be Obeyed and I have been together for a pretty long time.

Curiosity is one of the most underrated phenomena in the world. It’s ironic that people aren’t more curious about curiosity. It’s a powerful thing.

For example, if you ever wondered if someone is attracted to you, the answer lies in curiosity. If someone asks personal questions about your past, your plans, your likes and dislikes, that is an unambiguous sign of attraction. If someone tries to steer you into the bedroom without some conspicuous data gathering, that is a sign of simple horniness.

He said it here

That sounds about right though doesn’t it?

I’d just like to slip in between Madamoiselle and Virginia Slim (in the non-innuendo sense) and say that while it’s not necessarily true that no-genuine-curiosity booty-call relationships might almost never “blossom” into long-term romance, neither do most genuine friendships. But here’s the trick: booty-call relationships can can evolve into lifelong friendships. If you allow yourselves to get to actually know each other. Even decades later I’m still very good friends with quite a few of my old flings, flames, and one-night-stands.

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BTW, I usually order a steak.

I am seeing a lot of “why would he buy the cow….milk for free” references. THIS points to both some men and women who see sex as a Commodity which women “give” (or sell, if one really sticks to the Cow analogy) and men “take.” (or buy)

Sex, when done properly, benefits both partners. It is NOT a “prize” that women give away only to the “perfect man” and the highest bidder, at least not women with a real sex drive and any semblance of self esteem.

As for the “booty call” thing, nah, probably most won’t evolve into a real relationship. I’d think anyone getting into a Booty Call type situation would realize this. Yet, I’ve known too many women who cling to any attention her Fuck Buddy gives her, despite the obvious lack of interest in anything else on his part to everyone else. So many women engage in SO much wishful thinking. It’s kind of sad. A fuck buddy is only going to be that, most of the time.

But, I really HATE the whole idea that sex is a “present” or “gift” that women give to men. Ot something she “allows.” Cripes, how Victorian. I can only see this as thought by women who really don’t know how to enjoy it. “Oh, it’s something I let him HAVE so he will do other things for me.” WTF?

Sex should NEVER be thought of as a commodity, unless you are in the Sex Industry. Then, I guess the whole “cow-milk-farmer-free” thing may work. (which is why “Pretty Woman” is the most stupid,
unrealistic, degrading, and damaging-to-women movie EVER made.)

When women continue to think of sex as a commodity, they not only start using it as a “reward” or holding it back as a “punishment” for things her Man does or doesn’t do, but the relationship then becomes only a series of manipulative endeavors, and tricks, in which neither the partner can ever feel happy or comfortable. It’s just sad, I know too many women who see sex this way. And none of them seem to enjoy it very much. For them, it’s just a way to “get things and get him to do things.” UG.

Sex on a first date? Yeah, that can definitely become a relationship. In fact, with the right two people, it can greatly accelerate the relationshipification process.

But a girl who’s a booty call… nah… that’s the girl who gets ditched when the guy meets a woman he really wants to be with. Same vice versa, I suppose.

Booty calls are usually women who, for one reason or another, don’t quite make the cut. Again, probably true the other way around, too.