This is actually something I go for in a toy. The wider dildo actually makes it easier when I’m trying to please myself and has nothing to do with the size of my husband. It’s simply that the wider dildo stimulates more of my vagina that would normally get stimulated during sex, without a lot of additional contortion and funky movement. I agree though, that if she made a point of saying it is bigger than you then she’s a rude idiot you need to drop like a hot potato!

we have quite a variety of toys at home and my boyfriend loves playing on me with them – and so do I

@fastthinker: get a masturbator (i.e. from dildos.com.au.tt) and let your GF “operate” it

That is SO funny! My husband’s family had a similar situation, in fact both his mother AND his grandmother had babies after only 7 months gestation, apparently it runs in their family?….

Bill, I can understand a man feeling a little less than adequate at times, if toys are used a lot, or if a woman needs them to go over the edge. But, a woman has NO control over her orgasmic threshold. Some women have low orgasmic thresholds, and can have orgasms at the drop of a hat, others need a great deal of stimulation and many as time goes on NEED the help of a motorized toy. As long as the woman lets him know what he DOES DO is great, even if she can’t get all the way there from it, and that he is still the MAN part of the process when the toy is used, it shouldn’t offend his ego.

Ladies, make sure you include your man in any toy play, and things should be OK. If either of you feel some less than positive feelings about it, TALK it out.

It’s always worked for us.

His mother was “offended” because not only did we live together before we were married, but I had a bun in the oven by the time the wedding happened. She wanted us to have a “secret” wedding, probably so she could tell every one “the baby was early” or something. Then told us we didn’t “deserve” a nice wedding (which MY parents paid for, and his contributed zilch) because I guess only virgins get a party for their marriage celebration. Still, he has formed a lot of his own opinions about sex, as his parents NEVER discussed the subject and even had separate bedrooms. IMO, if it comes to that, just call it quits.

Nicole, honey, you’ve mentioned his issues with your multi orgasmic ability before. NO man should feel put out by this, nor does it mean you “owe” him anything. Most men would be happy just to see their partner have such a good time in bed.

It’s time he stops trying to black mail you for your orgasms. It’s immature and in the long run, will be poisonous to your relationship. Have you two thought about couple therapy? Because his issue with your ENJOYING sex is not healthy.