We were expecting most of the advice for the “Your Call” post about a guy who doesn’t like it when his girlfriend dances with other guys to focus on jealousy and insecurity issues. But instead you surprised us with some awesome practical advice on taking dance lessons…
Why arenâ€™t YOU dancing with her? — Meg, responding to “Your Call: I Hate it When My GF Dances with Other Guys”
I am hardcore into dancing, to the extent that I would ignore my bf completely if there were a better dancer who was willing and able for a night. Itâ€™s not about being interested in other guys or anything else. Itâ€™s about wanting to have fun on the dance floor. If you would take an active interest in dancing, and learn some cool moves (check out YouTube), sheâ€™d probably not want to dance with those other losers anyway. Seriously, most guys suck at dancing, and when someone knows how to lead and teaches you a thing or two, you really have no interest in playing with the amateurs anymore. Actually, you could go the extra mile and take a ballroom or swing dancing class with her. Then youâ€™d definitely be her favorite choice when the two of you go out, and it would also get you used to being around other partners and watching her with others. — Hannah
When I go out dancing, I usually either dance with other girls or with guys that happen to be excellent dancers. If my boyfriend were to take a few dance lessons Iâ€™d be absolutely stoked (he currently, much as I love him, kind of lacks in the rhythm department =/) and Iâ€™d definitely be happy to be on the dance floor, getting all the attention but still with the guy I love. — Cadence
Iâ€™m going to gazing into my crystal ball and I see that youâ€™re from North America, land of the rhythmless, no-dancing dude. The bad news, if Iâ€™m right, is that your culture screwed you. If you were raised a North American white boy*, you were probably raised with a bad attitude toward dancing (dance lessons!? GAY!). Fastforward a few years to postpubescence and suddenly dancing is sexy, but youâ€™ve got no moves. And those â€śgayâ€ť kids who hung out with girls and liked to dance are getting all the babes. Turns out they were players from the start. The good news is you donâ€™t have to be that good to surpass most other North American white boys on the dance floor. Take some dance lessons like the girls above suggested!
*Disclaimer: Iâ€™m not suggesting that any particular ethnicity is/isnâ€™t rhythmically gifted. Iâ€™m saying that white North American culture tends to be prudish about dancing compared to, say, certain Latin cultures that encourage ALL kids, boys and girls, to dance from the time they can walk. — Johnny