Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Is there such a thing as too much sex for a guy? Or will men generally be up for it whenever it’s offered/available?”
Gay Single Guy (Daniel): THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH SEX for a guy. Any man who claims the contrary might be asexual or LYING THROUGH THEIR TEETH. HOWEVER, that isn‚Äôt the same as “We‚Äôll take it whenever it‚Äôs offered/available.” We DO have standards — even when drunk!
Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I’ll step past the “Too much sex? Impossible!” stereotype that guys are¬†just one-track hornballs who don’t think about anything other than where¬†and how they can get some lovin’, constantly hounding gals until they¬†finally give it up. Hopefully we all know by now that the spectrum of¬†sex drives runs the gamut independent of gender.
For the most part, hey,¬†sex feels amazing, and as humans we’re built to desire the connection,¬†and the release, and everything that comes with it. So my initial¬†thought is that “too much sex” would be a good problem to have, at least¬†compared to “not enough sex,” whatever those two relative phrases would¬†mean to any given person. So in those contexts, I’ll concede that guys¬†will probably be generally up for it, as long as it doesn’t start to¬†negatively affect things like work and other life responsibilities –¬†again, it’s something we’re designed to crave, but there has to be a¬†balance.
Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I know what my personal answer to this would be, but what if I’m abnormally low on testosterone, or technically a woman because of my tendency not to feel sexy enough, or just plain lazy? In the interest of impartiality, I opened up the question “Is there such a thing as too much sex for a guy” to readers of my blog Manflet.¬†Unfortunately the insight of our typical reader ranged all the way from “in prison, mayhap” to a straight “no.” So while I may not agree with the biological argument that men are hard-wired to screw around and women are designed to be faithful, my straw poll of “normal” guys indicates that — as suspected — they’ll do it whenever, wherever, with who/whatever.
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook of Most Likely To; our Gay Guy is one-time stripper and sex columnist Daniel; and our Straight Single Guy is Mark Luczak, a tech geek at Carnegie Mellon University. To ask the guys your own question, click here.