Wise Guys: What’s the Appeal of the Money Shot?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why are money shots so prevalent in porn? What’s the appeal? And is this something that doesn’t translate into real life or would most guys like to see their own money shots more?”

colin_adamo_100Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): If it weren’t for money shots in pornography, male ejaculation would be the worst thing in the world. We as men feel pretty cheated when it comes to our orgasm in comparison to women’s. Seriously, what a mess! And where’s all the intensity? (Sure, I’ve had some orgasms that are out of this world, where I feel like a firework exploding, but those are once in a blue moon. I’ve also had plenty of orgasms that are like an exaggerated sneeze, too.) But with decades of money shots now enmeshed in our cultural conceptions of sex, we’ve put some thick layers of lipstick on a pretty ugly pig. After you watch enough videos of women delightedly begging for it all over their face, bodies, and mouths, you can start to believe that your ejaculation is the most coveted prize on the planet. With this sort of mentality, all anxieties are pushed aside and we’re super psyched to come.

Every guy probably wants to see their money shot just once — to know what it’s really like. But it’s not something we need all the time. We recognize all the problematic weight it carries to finish on you the same way we usually do with a dirty sock or wad of tissues, so most of us aren’t up for doing this all too often in the real world. But everyone’s got to try everything once… right?

terence_100Gay Committed Guy (Terence): Why does everyone turn to watch the champagne be uncorked. Don’t they know they could lose an eye? Money shots are the champagne explosions of porn, and everybody loves champagne. So for the same reason the crowd continues to cheer and hoorah after the fifth bottle of bubbly being popped, so too will multiple money shots in porn make a man smile.


anonymous_suitStraight Married Guy (Fred): Well, for guys, ejaculation is the grand finale of sex.  It’s the big explosion at the end of a Hollywood movie.  Why wouldn’t you show it, really?  What I want to know is, what’s with all the money shots in women’s faces?  It seems 90% of the time porn ends that way.  I think it’s weird.  It most certainly has a defiling component.  Like he’s pissing on her or marking her in some way.  It definitely puts her below him.  Is that necessary?  It’s popular, so I’m guessing that, generally speaking, men like it.  Are men really that angry at women?  Did I answer with a question?

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. Colin Adamo is an undergrad at Yale University where he directs the biennial Sex Week at Yale; Terence is an American living in Sydney; Fred is a little shy. To ask the guys your own question, click here.


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22 Comments on "Wise Guys: What’s the Appeal of the Money Shot?"


Kate
5 years 3 days ago

Honestly, as a woman, I love the money shot. It took my boyfriend (now husband) a really long time to get used to the idea of it, at first he respected me too much for it. Eventually, I explained to him why I like it when a guy comes on my tits. It makes me feel powerful and sexy, now he will do it occasionally, but I do have to ask him to for it. I still love it, but again it is about consent I get why some women and men aren’t into it. However, if your partner is into it, then why not try it.

greg
5 years 3 days ago

as a straight male (married 25 yrs Sept) I see absolutely nothing enjoyable about splurging on my wifes face, the same way I see nothing fun about fucking her tits and shooting my load on her chin. I don’t know if I would call it degrading but it sure isn’t much fun. I would much rather shoot a big hot load inside of her and see her face as she feels it shooting out of me and into her. But to each his own

Jess
5 years 18 days ago

Yes, I am straight female and I do not love the money shot on a woman’s face, do not understand it. It is not a turn on for me in any way. I would much rather see a woman in a porn truly enjoying herself (instead of faking it) and orgasming then the guy. I really do not care too much about the guy. It is sad to me that porn is generally all about the man’s pleasure and the women just fake it. It also contributes to more men being clueless about how to give women pleasure and orgasms.

JLWPGH
5 years 24 days ago

I think people have grown accustomed to this and other vantages the industry has provided. Originally when people did not know as much or enjoyed seeing a woman do something they could usually only fantasize about. We have all evolved and some porn can be credited for ultimately our education. These acts were taboo, foreign …ect As for a women. Most don’t have gushing, squirting and visible orgasms so it is difficult to truly know if they did or did not orgasm. Once a man passes a certain point you will see and pretty much know how he feels. And his partner can and should be happy for getting him there. There are times with our partners we, make love. There are times we want to *&%# her like a porn star. It is not meant to be degrading. We like different things and usually at different times. However, with a partner sex should be an endless buffet of options, choices, support, opportunity and a shared expression that strengthens the relationship. Open mind, open heart, open up. And Enjoy.

Rei
5 years 1 month ago

^I agree, the cream pie shot is way hotter than the cum on the face.