Your Call – I Hate It When My GF Dances with Other Guys

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Dear Em & Lo,

I’ve been with my girlfriend for over two years and I still get very upset when other guys ask her to dance. I understand she’s not doing anything wrong, just going out and having a good time. I assume it’s because I’m just very scared of losing her. I think it sort of bothers me I feel like she goes out and gets all done up and then ends up on the dance floor which I feel like invites this contact.

I know many guys would feel proud or something that other guys are interested in their girl, but I suppose I am insecure. I don’t think I get overly jealous about most things with our relationship, but for some reason this drives me crazy. Again I understand the way society invites guys to approach girls and all is not her fault or anything, but I can’t help getting upset when this happens. I don’t know why this affects me, do you have any advice?

— Just a Jealous Guy

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19 Comments on "Your Call – I Hate It When My GF Dances with Other Guys"

1 year 5 months ago

im in a bit of the same boat, I hate when my girlfriend goes out and dances with other guys. Mine actually had the balls to dance with the nastiest, fattest, ugliest, missing tooth guy on fuckin New years. I dont even know what the fuck she was thinking. It wasnt grinding, it was dancing no hands but the little fucker was like “oh yeah, get it, get it” and that shit made my blood boil. I grabbed her and told her she better cut that shit out cause its pissing me the fuck off. I love what Kalle and Shargan say, you guys took the words right out of my fucking mouth. Its like you understood my situation and spoke my feelings without even knowing them. Fuck THAT SHIT! Get real johnny. I dont give a fuck what country your from, if your dancing with someone, one of the two people is probably going to be just a bit aroused. Thats some BS. BE A MAN! ITS TIME TO GROW OUR BALLS BACK AS A SOCIETY. Shit.

1 year 6 months ago

Omg are you people for real?
My girl ain’t allowed to dance with other guys and since she has common sense so she knows why.
I ain’t the jealous type, I know my own self worth. Women these days think it’s cool for them to grind on other guys, have sleep overs with their guy “besties” etc etc. And y’all “men” are allowing it to happen because you don’t want to be seen as “insecure” or “jealous”. Fuck that, you know you are dying a bit inside when she does this to you, the only real insecurity is not acting on it and say “either them or me” and walk the fuck off and fuck another chic. If you learn game, work out, and earn a good buck there is no reason in hell you should let a woman trample you, your sexual market value is way too high and will increase with the years while your girls will decrease after she turns 22. Be men goddamit.

2 years 27 days ago

Isn’t dancing supposed to be romantic and emotional? I understand that it can be fun to dance and all but I think even with my girlfriend, If I was having my hands all over another hot girl I would be getting sexually aroused by her. Which seems kind of lame to me when the woman I love is right there. It just seems like girls should dance with other girls if they have a significant other. Just as men should just have fun with the dudes if they are in a relationship.

3 years 5 months ago

Johnny,how are you able to read my mind! Great answer.
Jealousize indeed.

3 years 5 months ago

Here’s the deal… My girlfriend dances swing and salsa and it absolutely drives me effing crazy! I can’t stand the fact that some other dude has his hands all over her! I can’t go with her because I know if I did I would end up in jail for poping each one of those little bastards!